Anonymous
Post 09/16/2013 07:15     Subject: Re:MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I came here via Google search and cannot believe the way you are all bickering with each other. I won't be visiting this site again.


and you posted to tell us so? Well, that sure showed us. Thanks!

Not you again! Go finish your hw.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2013 06:23     Subject: Re:MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:I came here via Google search and cannot believe the way you are all bickering with each other. I won't be visiting this site again.


and you posted to tell us so? Well, that sure showed us. Thanks!
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2013 01:39     Subject: Re:MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
I came here via Google search and cannot believe the way you are all bickering with each other. I won't be visiting this site again.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2013 09:47     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
I'm sorry but at 5 months pregnant, and there is no discussion or even acknowledgement of pregnancy. Even though mb isn't sure about what they will do for childcare or if she's struggling with her pregnancy, a simple I'm expecting, we hope you can continue on with us when baby is born. Can we discuss terms of contract closer to birth date to make sure we're on the same page. I find this a much better way of handling this situation. Of course there will be uncertainty on both ends but a little info can ease the situation. If I did the same thing as a nanny would that be appropriate? Because it really is none of my mb's business according to most of you. Whether you like it or not, a nanny job does involve some (please note i said some not all) personal info being shared being pregnant is important to discuss.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 21:24     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:^^ To the idiot above... Well that's the reason you probably aren't a long term nanny, bouncing from family to family. I respect my employers privacy and knew she was obviously going to tell me eventually. It's HER business!

Tell you what? You had best be happy with your dollar an hour for new baby care?
Ok. Whatever works for you.

what makes you assume the nanny will be asked to care for the new baby?
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 20:53     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:^^ To the idiot above... Well that's the reason you probably aren't a long term nanny, bouncing from family to family. I respect my employers privacy and knew she was obviously going to tell me eventually. It's HER business!

Tell you what? You had best be happy with your dollar an hour for new baby care?
Ok. Whatever works for you.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 20:42     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
^^ To the idiot above... Well that's the reason you probably aren't a long term nanny, bouncing from family to family. I respect my employers privacy and knew she was obviously going to tell me eventually. It's HER business!
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 20:22     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
To this idiot above...why on earth would you not be bothered by your MB not telling you she was pregnant after 4 months? What's going on with DCUM??

She out of all people should have been told at the same time the other family was told, if not first after they told their family, considering she's the caregiver!!

This has happened to me twice in nannyshare arrangements, and there wasn't proper discussion in regards to what the new arrangements would be. While I can understand telling non-family members your private situations, when it has to do with other people and their income, 5 months is too long!!
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 19:51     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:No one asked OP to care for a newborn yet; it's presumptuous to think she would until asked.

Whatever it is, it's not on the up and up. Hope the nanny is smart enough to get herself a more stable situation. That's all.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 15:11     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
No one asked OP to care for a newborn yet; it's presumptuous to think she would until asked.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2013 11:08     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MB had to terminate at 5 months because of chromosomal abnormalities. Why are you making this all about you? Get a life.


Please f*** off.




No, YOU f*** off. The nanny isn't family or a friend and it's up to the MB when SHE decides to share this information. My MB did have to terminate, so I'm not sure why I'm being told to f*** off. Next time she gor pregnant I could obviously see she was pregnant and she waited 4 months to tell me.


Well, to be fair your MB didn't "have" to abort because of a chromosomal abnormality. She chose to.
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Seriously you are an asshole. Probably a loser unemployed nanny or miserable at your job. I know your kind. I laugh at you. I love my MB and her uterus is none of my business.


No, very happy in my job actually. Also, I'm Pro-Choice. However, chromosomal abnormalities do not FORCE a woman to abort. Tubular pregnancy, yes... Also, yes, you are correct. My MB uterus is NOT business, and the OP's MB pregnancy isn't her business.

However, possibly OP does not want to care for a newborn, so I understand her concern.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2013 20:27     Subject: Re:MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:
When do you renew your contract? Is it before the baby will be do? I'm in a share and my employers told me months in advance that they were "planning" on getting pregnant soon. Asked if I would watch another child. I said yes, but haven't discussed pay increase or maternity leave. I wish I had back then because I'm positive they are pregnant now. I'm not sure they can afford me at the rate I woul expect for another child. I'm not like most nannies, I won't accept a $1-2 raise, $5 is my minimum for an extra child. Adding another child is a lot of work especially at a significant age difference. I don't want 3kids on different nap/feeding schedules and trying to take them to different activities for an extras $50 a week. Fuck that, in my area I can get another job at my same rate easily and not deal with a third child. The parents need to make it worth it. The more notice, they provide a nanny the more time they have to find new child care if the nanny doesn't agree. I hate when parents just assume there employee will continue you working for them when the job description changes drastically.


You should definitely start looking now. There is no way any smart family will give you the raise you want because it just isn't worth it. The job isn't changing drastically. Do everyone a favor and move on.

Your nastiness is unbecoming of a mother.
FYI, smart parents do what it takes to retain the best childcare, provided they can afford it. Turnover is not what most parents want for their child. Yes, the addition of a new baby IS a "drastic" increase in the workload. You may ask anyone who is actually doing it.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2013 20:11     Subject: Re:MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
Anonymous wrote:
When do you renew your contract? Is it before the baby will be do? I'm in a share and my employers told me months in advance that they were "planning" on getting pregnant soon. Asked if I would watch another child. I said yes, but haven't discussed pay increase or maternity leave. I wish I had back then because I'm positive they are pregnant now. I'm not sure they can afford me at the rate I woul expect for another child. I'm not like most nannies, I won't accept a $1-2 raise, $5 is my minimum for an extra child. Adding another child is a lot of work especially at a significant age difference. I don't want 3kids on different nap/feeding schedules and trying to take them to different activities for an extras $50 a week. Fuck that, in my area I can get another job at my same rate easily and not deal with a third child. The parents need to make it worth it. The more notice, they provide a nanny the more time they have to find new child care if the nanny doesn't agree. I hate when parents just assume there employee will continue you working for them when the job description changes drastically.


You should definitely start looking now. There is no way any smart family will give you the raise you want because it just isn't worth it. The job isn't changing drastically. Do everyone a favor and move on.



I don't live in DC and my rate increase wouldn't be crazy. I'm already renewing for a year and they have a general idea of the rate increase but if they don't like it, that's fine. The other family in the share will keep me and look for new share partners (we already discussed this, incase my mb has twins). Unlike some on the nannies here, I don't have a problem finding or keeping a job with great employers. I think it may have to do with my area and the fact that I'm in demand.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2013 19:48     Subject: Re:MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
When do you renew your contract? Is it before the baby will be do? I'm in a share and my employers told me months in advance that they were "planning" on getting pregnant soon. Asked if I would watch another child. I said yes, but haven't discussed pay increase or maternity leave. I wish I had back then because I'm positive they are pregnant now. I'm not sure they can afford me at the rate I woul expect for another child. I'm not like most nannies, I won't accept a $1-2 raise, $5 is my minimum for an extra child. Adding another child is a lot of work especially at a significant age difference. I don't want 3kids on different nap/feeding schedules and trying to take them to different activities for an extras $50 a week. Fuck that, in my area I can get another job at my same rate easily and not deal with a third child. The parents need to make it worth it. The more notice, they provide a nanny the more time they have to find new child care if the nanny doesn't agree. I hate when parents just assume there employee will continue you working for them when the job description changes drastically.


You should definitely start looking now. There is no way any smart family will give you the raise you want because it just isn't worth it. The job isn't changing drastically. Do everyone a favor and move on.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2013 16:34     Subject: MB won't tell me she's pregnant.
When do you renew your contract? Is it before the baby will be do? I'm in a share and my employers told me months in advance that they were "planning" on getting pregnant soon. Asked if I would watch another child. I said yes, but haven't discussed pay increase or maternity leave. I wish I had back then because I'm positive they are pregnant now. I'm not sure they can afford me at the rate I woul expect for another child. I'm not like most nannies, I won't accept a $1-2 raise, $5 is my minimum for an extra child. Adding another child is a lot of work especially at a significant age difference. I don't want 3kids on different nap/feeding schedules and trying to take them to different activities for an extras $50 a week. Fuck that, in my area I can get another job at my same rate easily and not deal with a third child. The parents need to make it worth it. The more notice, they provide a nanny the more time they have to find new child care if the nanny doesn't agree. I hate when parents just assume there employee will continue you working for them when the job description changes drastically.