I might let the AP do this, but tell her that I don't want the guy alone w/ my kid ever -- e.g., he's not to take my kid to the bathroom, don't leave my kid w/ him while you go to the bathroom, etc. I'd also tell the AP that she can only be in a public place w/ the guy -- i.e., do not go to his house, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Can you ask to meet the "friend" before they go?

I agree with this approach. So then you know what is going on and can make the decision.

No. I would worry that my child might be sexually abused. Why does this guy want to hang out with my child. Does he target nannies. No way.

It must be difficult to leave your child with someone you don't trust.