Anonymous wrote:How is the many going to go to school working 50 hrs a week? She's not, thus not rashly that serious about that degree. Go with nanny b.
Anonymous wrote:Maybe Nanny B isn't the right choice (although I really think we are making a LOT of assumptions when she might be just 10 pounds overweight with very mild and entirely managed diabetes), but that doesn't by default make Nanny A the right choice either. Surely you can see that?
It doesn't matter whether she is 10 lbs or 100lbs! The issue is the risks that being on insulin present for driving and watching a special needs kids by yourself. These risks are still present with managed diabetes. The problems are an acute reaction to mismatching the meal timing, insulin, and carbs you are eating. Your recent level of activity and exertion can also affect this. If nanny B is hundreds of lbs overweight it can make it more difficult to not be off but its still a risk at lower weights. If she is in the process of losing weight its even harder as that variable is changing.
Mismanaged diabetes brings out issues of chromic vision problems, loss of mobility, and a host of other issues but its the acute reaction to BS levels that make this dangerous.
Anonymous wrote:How is the many going to go to school working 50 hrs a week? She's not, thus not rashly that serious about that degree. Go with nanny b.
Maybe Nanny B isn't the right choice (although I really think we are making a LOT of assumptions when she might be just 10 pounds overweight with very mild and entirely managed diabetes), but that doesn't by default make Nanny A the right choice either. Surely you can see that?
Anonymous wrote:You can't compare hiring a college grad with limited nanny experience against someone who should not be driving or watching a child because of their health. Nanny B is dangerous. There is a reason why insurance and driver license regulations differ for people with diabetes. My aunt who was only a few years older than Nanny B fell asleep at the wheel twice from miscalculating the insulin, carbs and meal timing. She just felt tired and luckily no one was injured but this happens ALOT. Its difficult to get the hang of the meal timing, medication, and insulin. Low blood sugar can make you incredibly tired all of a sudden or pass out or become disoriented. High blood sugar is just as dangerous.
I wonder if there is just one nanny who is taking offense that someone may not want to hire an overweight nanny posting several times because the advice to ignore the danger of diabetes in this situation is plain irresponsible.
Anonymous wrote:Nanny B is dangerous. Nanny A is not. Easy choice.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom with special needs child here. Keep looking. My husband and I have been at this so long that we know the right therapist at hello. It would concern me more that Nanny B did not pick up right away on DS's attempt to get more to drink than the fact she was overweight with diabetes. Nanny A is inexperienced and you do not want that for a special needs nonverbal child.
Its hard to learn non-verbals and it takes some time. We have that issue with close family and a non-vebal three year old who they see weekly. Anyone is going to have a slow start but if the nanny is trying then that is a positive. If the nanny does it differently but works for the child, then that is good for the child to have different ways of doing things. This is not a therapist. The child should get separate therapy supplemented by the nanny and parents. It sounds like the nanny tried very hard and should get props for that.
You made a good point about the nanny not being a therapist. We actually hired an experienced nanny who we had trained as a behavioral therapist since she had good instincts and was a quick study. Nanny B did try and deserves a trial period.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom with special needs child here. Keep looking. My husband and I have been at this so long that we know the right therapist at hello. It would concern me more that Nanny B did not pick up right away on DS's attempt to get more to drink than the fact she was overweight with diabetes. Nanny A is inexperienced and you do not want that for a special needs nonverbal child.
Its hard to learn non-verbals and it takes some time. We have that issue with close family and a non-vebal three year old who they see weekly. Anyone is going to have a slow start but if the nanny is trying then that is a positive. If the nanny does it differently but works for the child, then that is good for the child to have different ways of doing things. This is not a therapist. The child should get separate therapy supplemented by the nanny and parents. It sounds like the nanny tried very hard and should get props for that.
Anonymous wrote:Mom with special needs child here. Keep looking. My husband and I have been at this so long that we know the right therapist at hello. It would concern me more that Nanny B did not pick up right away on DS's attempt to get more to drink than the fact she was overweight with diabetes. Nanny A is inexperienced and you do not want that for a special needs nonverbal child.