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Anonymous wrote:Thanks pp I think I may do that

So how many more abortions you going to have or go emanating more times will oh have unprotected sex?! If that's how you got locked up in the first place. If you were my nanny, I would not want you around to influence irresponsibility like that. It's called contraception!! -a Nanny.

Sometimes contraception fails.

Anonymous wrote:May I ask what you told them you were doing when you got an abortion? It takes a toll on the body physically and emotionally, so I'm assuming you requested time off? Maybe they thought you lied about being out?
If you have no contract you might be out of luck. What reason did they give you?

It doesn't necessarily affect everyone at all. I had one many years ago, I felt horrible the whole time I was pregnant, but I felt fine afterwards. I was slightly tired the rest of that day, probably more due to blood loss than anything else (I felt very faint when I started to walk around immediately afterwards). But I was perfectly fine emotionally, and physically fine as well. The next day I was walking around doing my normal thing with no problems.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish OP would come back to clarify some of these important points.

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OP is stuck under her bridge.............

lol.

Anonymous wrote:I wish OP would come back to clarify some of these important points.

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OP is stuck under her bridge.............

PP here. Meant to say. How many more abortions are you going to have? OR have many more times will you have unprotected sex, if that's why you get knocked up in the first place? If you were my nanny, I would not want you near my kids, influencing irresponsibility like that! No way. Use contraception if not using it, caused you to get knocked up. -a fellow nanny

Anonymous wrote:Thanks pp I think I may do that

So how many more abortions you going to have or go emanating more times will oh have unprotected sex?! If that's how you got locked up in the first place. If you were my nanny, I would not want you around to influence irresponsibility like that. It's called contraception!! -a Nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly? If you were close with the MB at all, I would reach out to her and ask if she was willing to sit down and talk to you. If I had known that my MB or DB had looked through my purse and/or phone, I would be LIVID. I'd see if she would be willing to talk to you and then tell her how you are really confused about what happened and see if she will be honest with you. If she is still cold/off, I would just be honest and say, "I was with you for a year and I am very upset about how things were handled and that you felt the need to look through my personal belongings". That is truly unacceptable.

IF you decide to go this route, make sure you get a recommendation first. I guarantee once you accuse someone of looking through your belongings without having proof, you can say bye bye to a good reference. Actually, I'd probably suggest not doing what PP says. Especially if you want to file for unemployment (were you being paid on the books?). But then, if you aren't on the books and are unable to file for unemployment, have a reference letter from them, and aren't worried about that bad mouthing you...then do whatever you want.

Honestly? If you were close with the MB at all, I would reach out to her and ask if she was willing to sit down and talk to you. If I had known that my MB or DB had looked through my purse and/or phone, I would be LIVID. I'd see if she would be willing to talk to you and then tell her how you are really confused about what happened and see if she will be honest with you. If she is still cold/off, I would just be honest and say, "I was with you for a year and I am very upset about how things were handled and that you felt the need to look through my personal belongings". That is truly unacceptable.

Definately ask for your reference letter so you can use it for your next job. Ask if they can have it for you as soon as possible. Don't say anything about getting unemployment to them, at least until you get your letter.
The way they behaved is really horrible. They traumatized those children by not allowing them to say goodbye to you. How old were they? How many hours a week did you care for them. Your story is really outrageous. This should not be allowed to happen to nannies. It'd be illegal to do to anyone else.

Thanks pp I think I may do that

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but with no contract and no proof, I don't understand what legal leg you have to stand on. I would def. file for unemployment though.

+1 I would email them to tie up any loose ends, thank them for the opportunity to work with them blah blah blah, then ask them why exactly they chose to let you go. If your tone is gracious and merely curious, maybe they will be honest with you or at the very least give you the same BS about no longer being a good fit. Also see if you might be able to guilt them into a reference letter. Not being a "good fit" doesn't sound like cause to me, and if they dispute your unemployment claim you have the email record. Good luck OP.

Sorry OP but with no contract and no proof, I don't understand what legal leg you have to stand on. I would def. file for unemployment though.

OP here and just to clarify a few things I believe the mom went through my purse while I was outside playing with my charges. I didn't hear her get home the other day and when she came out to tell me she was home she was acting weird, like overly cheery. When I went in to get my stuff to go, I noticed my purse was hung on a different hook than I usually put it on and when I opened it up I found my phone was not in the pocket I always keep it in. Maybe I'm paranoid, but if she did look at my phone she could have easily pulled up the text conversation I've been having with my sister on and off since I found out I was pregnant. They are a very religious and conservative family and I doubt they would have liked the idea if they did find out.

Anyway, I went in this morning and the dad was there and he told me they no longer needed me. I asked why several times and he just kept saying he didn't think I was the best fit for them anymore. He told me that the termination was affective immediately and he thought it was best if I just left before the kids woke up. At this point I was in tears so I just grabbed my stuff and left. I wasn't even able to say goodbye to the kids. At this point, I'm past being sad and I'm just angry. We did have a contract for the first year but after my review we just hadn't gotten around signing a new one. I took 3 sick days last week for the procedure and recovery. They were the first sick days I have taken with this family and I've been with them over a year.

Anonymous wrote:OP, the answer to your question depends on if you have a contract and what it says. It's shocking that the "lawyer" PP didn't say the truth.

If your contract has a term (end date) which is in the future, you can sue them for "wrongful termination". Since you're essentially unemployed now, you can get free legal aid. Are you in the DC area?

If the nanny has a term contract, she does NOT need to prove why they fired her, as long it was not "for cause". Lots of unemployed people have free legal representation through legal aid. If you want to say where you are, we can post some resources for you, but it will help only if you have a current contract that your employer breeched.

OP you will have a very, VERY hard time winning any cases but even if you had a slight chance, would it be worth it? Think about it.. Paying thousands of dollars in court/lawyer fees and having ZERO proof of reasoning for why you were fired.

You're a babysitter who most likely doesn't have a contract, correct? My guess is you would never win. You would lose money in the end. Of course miracles do happen so I don't wanna say you WONT win but I personally don't think you will.