Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I see in my absent we have a lot of assumptions in place. Let me make this clear.

As I said in the OP, we were both in bad moods. The differences is I didn't snap at my nanny. She did, however, snap at her boss. I called my nanny in early to help me clean up after the children, and care for them. That is her job, and she agreed beforehand. I did NOT spend "less than normal" time with my sick children. I took off for the day, but had to go to a meeting around 4. I was with them all morning caring for them and cleaning up after them just like the nanny. Yet I didn't snap at her, it's a difference of emotional mentalities. It worried me knowing someone who will snap under a little stress is around my children. I asked you a very simple question and the feedback had nothing to do with what I was asking about.

Thank you for the few who did reply accordingly.

You made it very clear that you most likely didn't speak very nicely once home (in a bad mood), that you were late, and that she had been dealing with YOUR puking kids all day long. Sometimes people accidentally say or do things they regret. Most of this time, it will be after a very long, hard and stressful day and happen after someone ELSE who is definitely not in the best mood, talks with them.

You STILL didn't make clear what you had said to her, how late you were etc. Most people were trying to find this out to see exactly if it was something that just happened to push her over the edge at that time, or really shouldn't have happened on her part. The way you just replied makes it seem more like she got pushed, spoke out and was sorry that she did it. You don't seem like a very caring person. I have pity for your nanny having to deal with someone like you.

I wouldn't call doing what she did all day long, having to deal with YOUR lateness and your bad mood as well as a "little stress". She also didn't "snap" at your children, nor "snap" in the true meaning of the word. Her words were a little harsh, slightly out of line, but really who is to blame her at that point? The feedback had lots to do with the situation at hand as well. Sorry you can't take true criticism from people. Your nanny didn't really "lose control" in the way that would have anyone worry about their children. I would in fact worry about someone that seemed to hold that type of thing in too much, as they are more likely to "snap" and "lose control" and do something serious later on.

OP, your response leads me to agree with this poster 100%. Sometimes when a mirror is held up in front of us we don't like what we see...

Anonymous wrote:If the nanny is as accommodating as OP describes, she should have no problem in securing her next well paying job.

+1000000

Hope your nanny makes a quick escape OP

If the nanny is as accommodating as OP describes, she should have no problem in securing her next well paying job.

If you speak to the nanny in a tone anything like your posts I can see why she finally snapped. I just feel bad that she felt that she had to so quickly apologize... I wish her luck in her job search.

You really shouldn't need help with sick kids if you're home all day and cleaning up after them isn't really hard. If they required THAT much "cleaning up", they should have gone to the ER

Op is a bitch.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I see in my absent we have a lot of assumptions in place. Let me make this clear.

As I said in the OP, we were both in bad moods. The differences is I didn't snap at my nanny. She did, however, snap at her boss. I called my nanny in early to help me clean up after the children, and care for them. That is her job, and she agreed beforehand. I did NOT spend "less than normal" time with my sick children. I took off for the day, but had to go to a meeting around 4. I was with them all morning caring for them and cleaning up after them just like the nanny. Yet I didn't snap at her, it's a difference of emotional mentalities. It worried me knowing someone who will snap under a little stress is around my children. I asked you a very simple question and the feedback had nothing to do with what I was asking about.

Thank you for the few who did reply accordingly.

Your question in the OP was "Thoughts?" That's exactly what you got, you just didn't like them. You asked a lot of your nanny on that particular day and instead of being gracious and appreciative, you showed up late with an attitude. She called you on your treatment of her, albeit in not the most tactful of ways, and yes you should let it go. Thank her for her help that day and LET IT GO. You said she already apologized and felt horrible. What more do you want?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I see in my absent we have a lot of assumptions in place. Let me make this clear.

As I said in the OP, we were both in bad moods. The differences is I didn't snap at my nanny. She did, however, snap at her boss. I called my nanny in early to help me clean up after the children, and care for them. That is her job, and she agreed beforehand. I did NOT spend "less than normal" time with my sick children. I took off for the day, but had to go to a meeting around 4. I was with them all morning caring for them and cleaning up after them just like the nanny. Yet I didn't snap at her, it's a difference of emotional mentalities. It worried me knowing someone who will snap under a little stress is around my children. I asked you a very simple question and the feedback had nothing to do with what I was asking about.

Thank you for the few who did reply accordingly.

OP, you called the nanny in early to "clean up after the children"? Why did this require the nanny's help? It really isn't that hard. And it shouldn't be a morning-long event like you described.
Of course she agreed to come in, you put her on the spot and she was probably nervous and said fine - we've all been there. That doesn't make it right.

Exactly.
OP sounds like a controlling bitch, IMO. Hope the nanny moves on to a better mb.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I see in my absent we have a lot of assumptions in place. Let me make this clear.

As I said in the OP, we were both in bad moods. The differences is I didn't snap at my nanny. She did, however, snap at her boss. I called my nanny in early to help me clean up after the children, and care for them. That is her job, and she agreed beforehand. I did NOT spend "less than normal" time with my sick children. I took off for the day, but had to go to a meeting around 4. I was with them all morning caring for them and cleaning up after them just like the nanny. Yet I didn't snap at her, it's a difference of emotional mentalities. It worried me knowing someone who will snap under a little stress is around my children. I asked you a very simple question and the feedback had nothing to do with what I was asking about.

Thank you for the few who did reply accordingly.

OP, you called the nanny in early to "clean up after the children"? Why did this require the nanny's help? It really isn't that hard. And it shouldn't be a morning-long event like you described.
Of course she agreed to come in, you put her on the spot and she was probably nervous and said fine - we've all been there. That doesn't make it right.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here.

I see in my absent we have a lot of assumptions in place. Let me make this clear.

As I said in the OP, we were both in bad moods. The differences is I didn't snap at my nanny. She did, however, snap at her boss. I called my nanny in early to help me clean up after the children, and care for them. That is her job, and she agreed beforehand. I did NOT spend "less than normal" time with my sick children. I took off for the day, but had to go to a meeting around 4. I was with them all morning caring for them and cleaning up after them just like the nanny. Yet I didn't snap at her, it's a difference of emotional mentalities. It worried me knowing someone who will snap under a little stress is around my children. I asked you a very simple question and the feedback had nothing to do with what I was asking about.

Thank you for the few who did reply accordingly.

You made it very clear that you most likely didn't speak very nicely once home (in a bad mood), that you were late, and that she had been dealing with YOUR puking kids all day long. Sometimes people accidentally say or do things they regret. Most of this time, it will be after a very long, hard and stressful day and happen after someone ELSE who is definitely not in the best mood, talks with them.

You STILL didn't make clear what you had said to her, how late you were etc. Most people were trying to find this out to see exactly if it was something that just happened to push her over the edge at that time, or really shouldn't have happened on her part. The way you just replied makes it seem more like she got pushed, spoke out and was sorry that she did it. You don't seem like a very caring person. I have pity for your nanny having to deal with someone like you.

I wouldn't call doing what she did all day long, having to deal with YOUR lateness and your bad mood as well as a "little stress". She also didn't "snap" at your children, nor "snap" in the true meaning of the word. Her words were a little harsh, slightly out of line, but really who is to blame her at that point? The feedback had lots to do with the situation at hand as well. Sorry you can't take true criticism from people. Your nanny didn't really "lose control" in the way that would have anyone worry about their children. I would in fact worry about someone that seemed to hold that type of thing in too much, as they are more likely to "snap" and "lose control" and do something serious later on.

OP Here.

I see in my absent we have a lot of assumptions in place. Let me make this clear.

As I said in the OP, we were both in bad moods. The differences is I didn't snap at my nanny. She did, however, snap at her boss. I called my nanny in early to help me clean up after the children, and care for them. That is her job, and she agreed beforehand. I did NOT spend "less than normal" time with my sick children. I took off for the day, but had to go to a meeting around 4. I was with them all morning caring for them and cleaning up after them just like the nanny. Yet I didn't snap at her, it's a difference of emotional mentalities. It worried me knowing someone who will snap under a little stress is around my children. I asked you a very simple question and the feedback had nothing to do with what I was asking about.

Thank you for the few who did reply accordingly.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mama Bears takes care of their own cubs.

It's strange that such a nanny hater as yourself trolls nanny forums.

Normally I too roll my eyes at the "raise your own kids" poster, but this OP may actually deserve it. Her kid is sick and miserable, so she decides to spend LESS time than usual with him/her, and doesn't even arrive home on time. The nanny who has been caring for sick kid all day dares to actually express anger at her self-centered MB and OP tries to characterize it as a latent anger management problem. This woman is not in touch with what it actually takes to be with a sick kid all day or she would a) have some empathy for her nanny and b) want to be there providing comfort to her kid, rather than having the nanny come in early and leave late. The fact that she blames her anger at the nanny on a "Mama Bear" instinct rather than just copping to the fact that she doesn't like being called on her shit puts it over the top.

PP nailed it. +1000

Lady, you're fucking crazy. I would have snapped on you, too! YOU should have been home with your family.

Did you speak with her about it, OP, or what?

I've totally snapped at my MB before due to long, stressful days..it happens. Everyone does it. Doesn't mean I treat my charge poorly.