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OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

You aren't just screwing them over by not giving notice, you are also double dipping, which makes you a cheat and a liar as well. You said you already signed the contract and started working for your new family. So you are being paid by two families for three weeks.

You are truly awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Well...our situation was much different.

We are the MB/DB and felt that we were very generous and kind to our nanny. When she let us know that she wanted to take a vacation to visit her husband's family (in a far and distant land) coincided with a business trip that our entire family was going on...we eagerly agreed. We asked her to take all the time she wanted...begged her actually, to take more time...because we knew the trip was long, and expensive, and knew that once they got there they may want to stay longer...but she said no, that she couldn't be away for that long, and she needed the income.

We arranged for temporary child care for the time she was going to be gone, went through all the hassle of taxes etc. for a new nanny...had the nanny live with us, because it was more convenient, blah...blah...blah...it was a HUGE effort.

She called the night she was supposed to have returned...she was staying an extra week, and could we be flexible and allow her to stay?

She was fired on the spot.

We were in turmoil...I had to head off the next morning for another business trip...my husband had to stay home with the kids and find another nanny. But honestly, it was worth the chaos.

She has not worked since...and she has never asked for a reference. Maybe good for her...maybe she got her Associates degree because she had the extra free time...I don't know.

BUT, in our area, it would have definitely been helpful if she had made sure she retained our letter of recommendation. Bad reps and news travels fast in our town.

Her request/timing was immature and unprofessional. But you fired her on the spot?? After you basically told her before going to take as much time as she likes? You're exactly the kind of MB every nanny is wary of and exactly why we quit with as little notice as possible if there is even an inkling that our MB is like you. Thanks for posting! Now we can all stop pretending these MBs are simply a figment of nannies' imaginations.

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

You aren't just screwing them over by not giving notice, you are also double dipping, which makes you a cheat and a liar as well. You said you already signed the contract and started working for your new family. So you are being paid by two families for three weeks.

You are truly awful.

OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

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Anonymous wrote:Sure, this sounds like the best decision for you in the short term.

It also sounds short sighted, unprofessional, and nasty.

If you did this with me you'd need to be pretty certain you never wanted a reference. I can respect you finding another job and giving appropriate notice. I don't respect you handling in the way you frame.

Of course you have to look out for yourself, but you have to live with yourself also. I've been blindsided w/ a termination and it's rotten. I would only blindside my nanny if she stole, harmed my child (or put them in danger), or betrayed our trust is some deep/significant way.

Even though it seems clear that nannying won't be a long-term profession for you, it is your profession now and the ethics you are demonstrating will be as questionable in your future employment, regardless of what the profession is, as they are in how you are handling these jobs now.

But maybe you're just one of our trolls looking for entertainment and I've responded like Pavlov's dog. I'd actually prefer that to wondering what poor families are employing you in good faith.

Honestly, it seems from what OP wrote, that the family could not hold up their end off the bargain. I think surprising them with quitting is a good lesson for them to learn from, that if you screw up the wrong person, they will screw you. Idoubt they're unfortunate-inconsiderate yes, unfortunate no.

How did the family screw the OP? Sounds like they tried to financially make up the difference and just aren't comfortable with her taking the kids too far from home. I worked for a family that didn't want me driving, and I won't do that again, but that is in no way them screwing me! This is a really shitty way to handle yourself and I cannot believe anyone would condone this behavior. Shitty move OP!

How did they screw OP? Really, did you miss the part about them not allowing her to leave 15 minutes early (which yes, is not necessarily screwing her over, but not the nicest thing either) AND also finding fault with her actually JOB SEARCHING after they had giver HER notice? She's not allowed to even look for a job until she has had her last day with them? You don't call THAT shitty behavior?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, this sounds like the best decision for you in the short term.

It also sounds short sighted, unprofessional, and nasty.

If you did this with me you'd need to be pretty certain you never wanted a reference. I can respect you finding another job and giving appropriate notice. I don't respect you handling in the way you frame.

Of course you have to look out for yourself, but you have to live with yourself also. I've been blindsided w/ a termination and it's rotten. I would only blindside my nanny if she stole, harmed my child (or put them in danger), or betrayed our trust is some deep/significant way.

Even though it seems clear that nannying won't be a long-term profession for you, it is your profession now and the ethics you are demonstrating will be as questionable in your future employment, regardless of what the profession is, as they are in how you are handling these jobs now.

But maybe you're just one of our trolls looking for entertainment and I've responded like Pavlov's dog. I'd actually prefer that to wondering what poor families are employing you in good faith.

Honestly, it seems from what OP wrote, that the family could not hold up their end off the bargain. I think surprising them with quitting is a good lesson for them to learn from, that if you screw up the wrong person, they will screw you. Idoubt they're unfortunate-inconsiderate yes, unfortunate no.

How did the family screw the OP? Sounds like they tried to financially make up the difference and just aren't comfortable with her taking the kids too far from home. I worked for a family that didn't want me driving, and I won't do that again, but that is in no way them screwing me! This is a really shitty way to handle yourself and I cannot believe anyone would condone this behavior. Shitty move OP!

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are incredibly unprofessional, not to mention selfish and immature.

It's surprising how many nannies on this thread are comfortable with blindsiding the families they work for or not honoring the notice period. Yet, they expect families to pay severance. Truly entitled.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, be an adult and give two weeks notice. It will be the right thing to do.

When was the last time you were taken advantage of?

Anonymous wrote:I had a family call me during my work day, with their kids, to let me know they would not need me anymore as they were going to start using family for childcare. I had JUST seen them that morning and they said nothing. They gave me 2 weeks notice, but I found a job sooner and told them on friday that it would be my last day. I wish I would have (been financially able to) tell them to have their family come and take the kids that day and left. How rude to call me to tell me this! I have been MUCH happier with my current position!

Anonymous wrote:OP, be an adult and give two weeks notice. It will be the right thing to do.