Anonymous
06/21/2013 02:07
Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:OP, you ask her what she prefers.
Um, no, you don't. On the job meals is a perk. It is up to the employer to decide whether or not she wants to provide that perk.
Anonymous
06/21/2013 02:00
Subject: Nanny lunches
OP, you ask her what she prefers.
Anonymous
06/21/2013 01:56
Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:What do people do regarding feeding of their nannies? Do you provide lunch and food for them or do they bring their own? I'm new to this and am trying to figure out what, if anything, I should offer our new nanny and if I need to make sure the fridge is stocked, etc.
thanks for any advice!
I used to bring my own food, but then it started to seem like my MB was a little hurt when I didn't eat what she cooked (I arrived after-school, so she usually had dinner made or in-progress) so I started eating, even though I felt weird about it at first. Turned out to be great, though, as the kids are picky eaters and it's a lot easier to set a good example when I'm also eating ham or broccoli or whatever, instead of a tuna sandwich. When we would go on trips she and her boyfriend ALWAYS insisted upon paying for my food, which, again, felt weird for me at first, but I really appreciated it, especially when we went to places I couldn't really afford.
Anonymous
06/07/2013 14:37
Subject: Nanny lunches
I think it would be very considerate to let your nanny know she is more than welcome to help herself to anything in the kitchen. While not required of you, it is a very generous act of goodwill.
Anonymous
06/07/2013 06:14
Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We've always said to please help yourself to anything you find, but our nanny has always brought her own lunch - from my experience, that's a typical arrangement. I think it's standard to say "help yourself" but not to seriously mean it literally and definitely not standard to have a live-out adding things to the grocery list beyond the very basics.
Honestly what most MBs are going to mean by "help yourself to anything" is that of course a nanny is free to have what she's feeding the kids, help herself to juice/water/milk/sodas, or even have a snack now and then. I imagine they don't literally mean to make yourself every single meal and add things to the grocery list.
Yes, I agree many people don't mean what they say. However, in a professional setting such as this it would help everyone out to be straightforward and honest with your language.
Sure, that makes sense. I was mainly reacting to the posts that say its standard to as live out to be told to help yourself to whatever you want and to the ones saying its standard to provide lunch for your nanny. It's really not. Of course there are families who do, but I'd caution nannies that if your MB says "please feel free to help yourself to anything you want" and then you're makin yourself breakfast, lunch, and dinner outside of what you feed the kids, I can guarantee you she'll think it's very odd unless she's made it clear that's what you are to do.
Anonymous
06/07/2013 00:33
Subject: Nanny lunches
Anonymous wrote:We've always said to please help yourself to anything you find, but our nanny has always brought her own lunch - from my experience, that's a typical arrangement. I think it's standard to say "help yourself" but not to seriously mean it literally and definitely not standard to have a live-out adding things to the grocery list beyond the very basics.
Honestly what most MBs are going to mean by "help yourself to anything" is that of course a nanny is free to have what she's feeding the kids, help herself to juice/water/milk/sodas, or even have a snack now and then. I imagine they don't literally mean to make yourself every single meal and add things to the grocery list.
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