Perhaps I would be more inclined to be open to this if I believed he had a special need other than his parents constantly babying him. I am used to taking care of kids who cannot walk, talk, eat, use the restroom at the age of 12 (oldest). There have also been kids that have severe emotional issues. This child on the other hand 1. follows his mother and father into the bathroom, 2. follows them around the house the moment they get home, 3. has his way on EVERYTHING with his parents.

He is not special needs, he just needs his parents to let him be more independent.

You don't sound like a nanny with experience with special needs kids, OP. You don't really sound like a skilled nanny at all. This is only a PT job and you're complaining about pretty typical things that come with your job. If you can't handle it, you should find another job.

That kid sounds like brat and a pain in the ass!!! Unless you're getting $20+ per hour QUIT!!!

OP here. 08:51. Overreaction much?

I love caring for kids, in fact all of my experience is with special needs. However, even the most special needs kids are taught and lead by parents to better habits. This is more about the fact that if MB knows that he spent 10 mins fingerpainting alone, she feels that he needs to be constantly hovered over. If parents teach boundaries to their children, they can learn.

So get another job OP. We can't discern whether this kid genuinely has issues or is just a brat. We can't tell if the mother is reasonable or over the top.

Clearly you're unhappy and have decided that this is ridiculous behavior, unfounded in anything clinical, and you disagree and don't like it.

But your choices are to do the job you were hired to do (and accepted), as defined by your boss or go find a better job.

WHAT IS IT WITH ALL YOU SUPPOSED "CHILD CARE EXPERTS" WHO CALL YOURSELVES NANNIES?? This child is clearly mentally disabled and the mother is in denial. I have a sibling with autism and a special needs son. That this nanny is "annoyed" by her disabled charge and that other nannies support her whining and can't discern from her description that the child is clearly on the spectrum, is nauseating but typical of the defensive and entitled nannies who populate this site. OP you need to talk to the mom and explain you are not qualified to take care of a child with special needs and get another job.

i think from OP's follow-up points that she is being reasonable and age-appropriate but MB has different expectations. Agree with the suggestion though that you should talk to MB about this by suggesting other tasks you could do in relatively small increments to help the child get used to SOMETIMES self-entertaining. She has perhaps also mistaken your desire to not constantly play (hours on end straight of solely playing/engaging is totally draining) for slacking - indicating that you would be productively using the time in a different way may help alleviate the concern that you're saying no so we can text or do schoolwork.

Like said i have no problem playing with kids. I do have a problem with feeling like i am chained to the child. Literally, as evidenced in my post about using the bathroom or preparing a snack.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, but you sound like a lazy nanny. Your charge likes you and wants to engage with you and you have a problem with that? Please. Find a new profession. Children deserve better than that.

Are you the same troll who just said nannies don't get multiple offers because they aren't licensed?

This child sits outside the door while she uses the bathroom. THAT is a problem, nothing to do with anyone's laziness or lack of.

Sorry, OP, but you sound like a lazy nanny. Your charge likes you and wants to engage with you and you have a problem with that? Please. Find a new profession. Children deserve better than that.

OP, honestly it sounds miserable. I don't blame you for complaining and seeing if others have been in the same boat.
I've been there.
I can't stand when you stand up, stretch, and try and walk away for a quick break only to have 2 seconds go by before they run up and ask WHERE ARE YOU GOING ARE YOU DONE CAN YOU COME HELP ME I CANT DO IT BY MYSELF WHAT ARE YOU DOING RIGHT NOW WHAT ARE YOU EATING CAN I HAVE SOME

15:38 again. I think the child could use some behavioral intervention but I have a feeling that suggestion would not be welcome from you right now so that's why I mentioned asking for more compensation.

Would it help if you were paid more? The reason I am asking if that I have a special needs child that requires a lot of supervision and help with hygiene. I pay more than the normal rate for the additional demands required.

Thanks pp, but that's just the thing. Any task I give him, he is unable to do alone. Eating snack, "nanny nanny sit here with me!" And proceeds to dictate how we should eat. He doesn't even wipe his self in the bathroom. If I tell him "here is a craft and surprise me" he will insist that I do a craft as well. When I ignore his demands and do what needs to be done (bathroom, food etc) he just nags and nags until I'm done. He actually sits outside of the bathroom talking non stop to me throughy the door till I'm out

Everyone saying that I should just deal with it, if your kids did this to you would you be okay with it?

OP, since you are there for 4 1/2 hours, you are entitled to take a break. Just make it part of your schedule with the kid. Give him a countdown (20 more mins until break, 15 mins until break, etc. ) and then a snack/task to occupy him during that time.