Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many times does it need to be said that this is a terrible set up for the employer and a great set up for the nanny? Nannies will say and do anything to try to talk you into this but you won't hear the same thing from employers. The nannies are VERY disingenuous about this situation.

You'll end up paying more than a share for the privilege of less care for your child, all the problems and complications a nanny bringing her child brings along, liability, insurance issues etc etc.

If there was any truth to your nonsense, my pediatric psychiatrist employer, would not have welcomed me to bring my child. She never even expected a discount. Her husband was also an MD, so they certainly would never settle for anything, but the very best.

I agree wholeheartedly...my employer is a pediatrician and had no issue with me bringing my child. I do make about $3/hour less than I would've charged them, but that's all they could afford, so they ended up with a nanny with way more experience than could have afforded in the first place, by allowing my child to accompany me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are in DC, OP, $9-$10/hr, tops. Same as one half of a nanny share.

How many times does it have to be said that it is not a true share, unless you're willing to acknowledge the nanny as an equal partner and her child as an equal priority? Otherwise you should not expect to pay only half a share rate. More like share rate plus $1-$3 more/hour.

Is this a joke? On what planet would the nanny POSSIBLY prioritize YOUR child over HERS???

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many times does it need to be said that this is a terrible set up for the employer and a great set up for the nanny? Nannies will say and do anything to try to talk you into this but you won't hear the same thing from employers. The nannies are VERY disingenuous about this situation.

You'll end up paying more than a share for the privilege of less care for your child, all the problems and complications a nanny bringing her child brings along, liability, insurance issues etc etc.

If there was any truth to your nonsense, my pediatric psychiatrist employer, would not have welcomed me to bring my child. She never even expected a discount. Her husband was also an MD, so they certainly would never settle for anything, but the very best.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many times does it need to be said that this is a terrible set up for the employer and a great set up for the nanny? Nannies will say and do anything to try to talk you into this but you won't hear the same thing from employers. The nannies are VERY disingenuous about this situation.

You'll end up paying more than a share for the privilege of less care for your child, all the problems and complications a nanny bringing her child brings along, liability, insurance issues etc etc.

If there was any truth to your nonsense, my pediatric psychiatrist employer, would not have welcomed me to bring my child. She never even expected a discount. Her husband was also an MD, so they certainly would never settle for anything, but the very best.

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Anonymous wrote:On the other nanny forum I read, people post often (at least one new person a day - and this other site requires posters to register so we know they're new!) saying they've been conducting nanny interviews and have only found one nanny they'd want to hire and she has her own child to bring with her. They ask for advice on how such an arrangement has worked out for other families and inquire as to whether there are any issues that might come up they haven't thought of yet. Dozens of people reply with their experience, the vast majority (90%+) positive.

So maybe on this board, among you anonymous not-quite-DC posters, the generalities you speak of apply. In other places and on other forums, this is not the case. Please stop trying to paint everyone with the same brush.

And no, I will not name the other forum because I don't want our resident trolls to go over there and ruin their boards too.

I don't quite get the reasons for hostility I am sensing here - I think I've argued with you in a rather civil manner. We happen to disagree; no need to call for trolling or act condescendingly. We can all agree that every person's experience is just as valid as another's. At this board, you will find many posters who have tried this arrangement and said "never again" or have friends with similar experiences. Without looking at the other board you referenced, it's not possible to say what makes them different. We'll have to take your word for it.

Anonymous wrote:On the other nanny forum I read, people post often (at least one new person a day - and this other site requires posters to register so we know they're new!) saying they've been conducting nanny interviews and have only found one nanny they'd want to hire and she has her own child to bring with her. They ask for advice on how such an arrangement has worked out for other families and inquire as to whether there are any issues that might come up they haven't thought of yet. Dozens of people reply with their experience, the vast majority (90%+) positive.

So maybe on this board, among you anonymous not-quite-DC posters, the generalities you speak of apply. In other places and on other forums, this is not the case. Please stop trying to paint everyone with the same brush.

And no, I will not name the other forum because I don't want our resident trolls to go over there and ruin their boards too.

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I understand your premise as well but disagree. If we're speaking in generalities, yes perhaps you're right. But case by case, family by family, given the choice between a share (which has its own down sides and challenges) and a particular nanny they would like to hire but can't afford, this is an arrangement that might be preferable for that family to be able to have that nanny. You personally see no benefit here for your situation, but to say it can't benefit a family, is in my opinion a fallacy.