I think the fact that you would eavesdrop on your nanny's conversation shows how insecure you are. What are you doing to make u feel sooooooo sure she will talk about you to. Do you also go threw you husbands phone and mail every evening?????

OP nanny here...this whole post is ridiculous..your nanny will more than likely move on..she wasn't talking about YOU!! And guess what...even if she was it happens. Just like you're talking about her on DCUM now. How would you feel if she read this and called you out? You're venting just like she was. You need to get a grip. If this is your biggest problem count your blessings. This nanny isn't losing your kid at the park and covering it up. She's not falling asleep on the job.

OP needs to give a life, or maybe start to busy herself with some hands on parenting activities.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I won't fire her. She does have a lot of great qualities and it was difficult finding the right candidate for our family BUT I will speak to her regarding what I overheard. To give her a headsup. Regarding the mess I'm over it. I know if I had told her with enough notice I was coming home it would have been done. I knew I needed to sleep on it and try and be more resonance. To the helpful ones thank you!

Say goodbye to your nanny! haha

This, unfortunately. I really wouldn't say anything considering the conversation you heard was basically done by eavesdropping. She will most likely never feel comfortable knowing she is not being spied on again. Just keep it to yourself and take it as a lesson to let her know when you are going to be home early...or make some noise when you enter the house! Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I won't fire her. She does have a lot of great qualities and it was difficult finding the right candidate for our family BUT I will speak to her regarding what I overheard. To give her a headsup. Regarding the mess I'm over it. I know if I had told her with enough notice I was coming home it would have been done. I knew I needed to sleep on it and try and be more resonance. To the helpful ones thank you!

Say goodbye to your nanny! haha

Anonymous wrote:Op,
Maybe you should have let her know you were on your way home so she could clean? If she usually has the house cleaned by the time you get home then what is the big deal? Don't micromanage. Also, if my employers heard the way that I talked with my friends they probably would be mortified. Or maybe not, they're actually pretty cool and down to earth and take things with a grain of salt. I'm the way I am with my friends because they are my FRIENDS and its just that. They know me and know I'm a good person regardless of the stupid or silly shit that comes out of my mouth. I wouldn't talk that way with my charges, bosses, grandparents, etc. but when I'm working with kids you would think I was Mary poppins. I'm not putting on a facade but aware when certain behavior is acceptable and appropriate. That is the fun part about being an adult. I think you should lay off of her.

+100000...

OP here. I won't fire her. She does have a lot of great qualities and it was difficult finding the right candidate for our family BUT I will speak to her regarding what I overheard. To give her a headsup. Regarding the mess I'm over it. I know if I had told her with enough notice I was coming home it would have been done. I knew I needed to sleep on it and try and be more resonance. To the helpful ones thank you!

Fire her.

Op,
Maybe you should have let her know you were on your way home so she could clean? If she usually has the house cleaned by the time you get home then what is the big deal? Don't micromanage. Also, if my employers heard the way that I talked with my friends they probably would be mortified. Or maybe not, they're actually pretty cool and down to earth and take things with a grain of salt. I'm the way I am with my friends because they are my FRIENDS and its just that. They know me and know I'm a good person regardless of the stupid or silly shit that comes out of my mouth. I wouldn't talk that way with my charges, bosses, grandparents, etc. but when I'm working with kids you would think I was Mary poppins. I'm not putting on a facade but aware when certain behavior is acceptable and appropriate. That is the fun part about being an adult. I think you should lay off of her.

Anonymous wrote:I ALWAYS ask my bosses to text me at least 15 min before arriving home so I can clean up the house before they arrive.

I pick up any toys played with as well as make sure the floors are swept and the dishes are all cleaned.

Since I use the bathroom with the door open (my charge is 18 mos and into everything!!) I also like to have a heads up.

I would just die if my bosses came home unexpected while I was on the throne and there were blocks and stuffed animals strewn about.

My best bet would be to make plenty sure you give your nanny notice next time. Plenty.

Ha ha this is literally one of my biggest fears throughout the day. My bosses-and their extended family members-don't text/knock/announce their arrival at all (after 3 years I know its not a trust issue, they are just spacey) and the front door of their apartment its directly in front of the bathroom I use. It is amazing how quickly I can pee now!

I ALWAYS ask my bosses to text me at least 15 min before arriving home so I can clean up the house before they arrive.

I pick up any toys played with as well as make sure the floors are swept and the dishes are all cleaned.

Since I use the bathroom with the door open (my charge is 18 mos and into everything!!) I also like to have a heads up.

I would just die if my bosses came home unexpected while I was on the throne and there were blocks and stuffed animals strewn about.

My best bet would be to make plenty sure you give your nanny notice next time. Plenty.

Of course when your nanny interviewed w/you she was not going to bash her previous family. She is a professional and acted professionally in how she represented herself. By saying it was not a good match is the best way to say they were jerks. I would have done the same thing. It is expected that if she is going to converse w/a close friend, she will tell them how they REALLY are, but in a professional environment she acted appropriately.

Since you popped in unexpectedly, if that is the worst thing that has happened then count your blessings. It could have been worse. Your nanny could have been neglecting or abusing your child. She wasn't. So I would just let it go.

I highly doubt she is talking that way about you and your family since it sounds things are going well.

Even if she was, you have no control.
Everyone gossips to their close family + friends. It's life.

#Dealwithit.

Anonymous wrote:OP, now you just sound like you're looking for issues.

+1

OP, now you just sound like you're looking for issues.

OP, regarding the mess, I do this sometimes - take a 20 min break before picking up, but I will always pick up. The few times my employers come home early and there is any mess, I will always take care of it before leaving since it's my job. She should have done that.