Anonymous
Post 03/27/2013 00:54     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
Why on earth should an employer provide lunch or buy groceries for a live-out nanny? I've never had a job that provided me with lunch or footed my grocery bill, even when I had jobs working with kids where I couldn't leave my post to go buy lunch. I packed whatever I wanted to eat or left a stash of my favorite foods at work, as should the nanny.

As much as I value her, my nanny is not a houseguest or part of my family. She just isn't. She is an adult professional rather than an au pair or high school sitter, and since my house is in close proximity to grocery stores and sandwich joints, I am confident that she is smart enough to figure out what she wants to eat and go buy it for herself.

I do invite her to help herself to whatever snacks and drinks I have on hand, much as my office provides spring water and soda for its employees.

Anonymous
Post 03/23/2013 19:35     Subject: Re:Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
No, just let the nanny pass out on your floor from her 12 hour starvation stint. Some of you are beyond hope.


Goodness, no. I hope my nanny is smart enough to bring her lunch.

That's what we do. Pack our lunch. Because we can't leave our desks to go out. Simple.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2013 06:24     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
i bring my own food and almost never eat an employer's food unless it's to test something that i made (like a cookie). i've nannied for about seven years now for different families, and the food i've eaten at my jobs has been stuff like a handful of raisins, a granola bar flavor from a variety pack that the kids don't like, and i believe i once had a slice of the pizza i ordered when the parents were out late.

i appreciate the gesture, but i have no problem bringing my own food.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2013 06:30     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
I only do PT work, but the families that I work for have always said to help myself to food. I do cook dinner for kids with 2 of the families, and I will also eat what they eat. The family that I don't live with, I make sure the kids get a full serving and then leave some just in case they want seconds. So I normally eat a smaller portion until they have decided they are done, then I might eat more.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2013 05:23     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
All the nannies around here bring their own lunch. Guess different areas have different customs.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2013 22:22     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
No, just let the nanny pass out on your floor from her 12 hour starvation stint. Some of you are beyond hope.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2013 21:42     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
Some of these responses are ridiculous. I've never had to bring food to a nanny job, nor have I ever thought to. Most parents want nannies to feel "apart of the family" how is not being welcomed to your food being apart of a family? I also would consider that very selfish, to each their own.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2013 16:08     Subject: Re:Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?



Anonymous wrote:

I always pack a lunch and don't really care if the family has food for me or not. That being said, the bolded indicates a self-centered attitude that I try to avoid when choosing a family to work with. I put a lot of effort into caring for the children and families I work with, always trying to anticipate a need, being there when needed, etc. and I appreciate that effort to go both ways. If you can't be bothered to concern yourself with something so simple but kind, you are not someone I'd bust my hump for, hence I would not work with you.



What an odd response. The one with the self-centered attitude is you, if you expect to be fed on the job. My job doesn't provide me with free lunch and snacks, and I put in as much effort as you do to do good work. And I don't try to emotionally manipulate my employers by invoking some sort of silly association of providing meals to some sort of simple kindness. If you want to be respected as professionals, leave that talk at the door.

Plain and simple, meals are a perk. A very generous perk. If they are important to you, negotiate it. Or, you know, do what everyone else does and pack a lunch.



You need to work on your reading comprehension. My first sentence indicates that I do not in fact expect to be fed at work. However, for someone to say they can't be bothered to put a couple of things for the nanny on the grocery list, it shows they are self-centered and can't be bothered to think about the nanny beyond what she does for them. I don't want a boss like that. I do my best to be of help to my families in any way I can, and I'd appreciate a boss who respects me as another human being and cares enough not to relegate me to position of servant, not good enough to eat at their table and from their fridge. You can say I'm being dramatic, but I don't want to work for rude or selfish parents. It will only cross into other more important areas (raises, flexibility, expectations)


Actually, you're the one who needs to work on your reading comprehension.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2013 10:26     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
I buy my own food and keep it at work.

All of my employers have offered access to their food, but is rather get my own.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2013 10:09     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
Anonymous wrote:The fact you can't leave the kids alone and go get take out or out to lunch on a real break i think families should provide food for at least lunch and snacks.

The family i work for will leave a note if they have extra left overs to eat them or i will eat what the kids do , mac and chesse , grilled chesse , easy things bc i don' get to leave the kids and go get lunch so i am glad they make sure the kitchen is stocked.


If you know that you can't go out for lunch when taking the job, and get upset about not being provided lunch, no sympathy for you. There's always a choice. Don't be a martyr.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2013 09:24     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
The fact you can't leave the kids alone and go get take out or out to lunch on a real break i think families should provide food for at least lunch and snacks.

The family i work for will leave a note if they have extra left overs to eat them or i will eat what the kids do , mac and chesse , grilled chesse , easy things bc i don' get to leave the kids and go get lunch so i am glad they make sure the kitchen is stocked.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2013 09:50     Subject: Re:Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
Anonymous wrote:
I always pack a lunch and don't really care if the family has food for me or not. That being said, the bolded indicates a self-centered attitude that I try to avoid when choosing a family to work with. I put a lot of effort into caring for the children and families I work with, always trying to anticipate a need, being there when needed, etc. and I appreciate that effort to go both ways. If you can't be bothered to concern yourself with something so simple but kind, you are not someone I'd bust my hump for, hence I would not work with you.


What an odd response. The one with the self-centered attitude is you, if you expect to be fed on the job. My job doesn't provide me with free lunch and snacks, and I put in as much effort as you do to do good work. And I don't try to emotionally manipulate my employers by invoking some sort of silly association of providing meals to some sort of simple kindness. If you want to be respected as professionals, leave that talk at the door.

Plain and simple, meals are a perk. A very generous perk. If they are important to you, negotiate it. Or, you know, do what everyone else does and pack a lunch.



You need to work on your reading comprehension. My first sentence indicates that I do not in fact expect to be fed at work. However, for someone to say they can't be bothered to put a couple of things for the nanny on the grocery list, it shows they are self-centered and can't be bothered to think about the nanny beyond what she does for them. I don't want a boss like that. I do my best to be of help to my families in any way I can, and I'd appreciate a boss who respects me as another human being and cares enough not to relegate me to position of servant, not good enough to eat at their table and from their fridge. You can say I'm being dramatic, but I don't want to work for rude or selfish parents. It will only cross into other more important areas (raises, flexibility, expectations)
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2013 20:55     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
You're not very smart, 20:51.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2013 20:53     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Breakfast and dinner eaten at their own home?

Or do they have full access to all the food and drinks in your pantry within reason?

Just curious how most families handle it.


Most families ask the Nanny to do whatever she prefers.




This.
Anonymous
Post 03/18/2013 20:52     Subject: Should live out nannies bring their own food and drink for lunch ?
Oh yeah, don't forget the filtered water.....