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I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

The nannies are not her side either. The more the OP posts back the more strange and immature she sounds.

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I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

The nannies are not her side either. The more the OP posts back the more strange and immature she sounds.

I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

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Did you really want an hour commute, anyway?


OP Here: I live in a state where it is hard to find good paying positions around where I am in my small town so I travel a bit further for my jobs so that I can make more money. So, yes..I would have been fine with an hour commute. It actually was less then I normally travel for work.

If it's so hard to find good paying positions in your area, why would you be so silly to throw a fit over having to wait four minutes?

I don't believe your story.

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Did you really want an hour commute, anyway?


OP Here: I live in a state where it is hard to find good paying positions around where I am in my small town so I travel a bit further for my jobs so that I can make more money. So, yes..I would have been fine with an hour commute. It actually was less then I normally travel for work.

Anonymous wrote:Did you really want an hour commute, anyway?

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here: So let me clarify a couple of things. This family was 1 hour away. I got there a little bit earlier then I anticipated. I was ONLY 10 minutes early, which I always find is professional. I don't see how I am "immature". I made a 1 hour drive for this interview. She asked if I could come at 3pm and I arrived at 2:50pm. I rang the door bell two times and then knocked the third time. After no one answered all three times, I called her cellphone. When she answered, I just said "Hi, it's K. I am at your front door and I don't know if you heard me ring the doorbell"....to which she responded "Oh yes..the kids are in the basement and I am finishing up a phone call with my mom, I will be down in 5 minutes.". She CLEARLY heard be ringing and knocking and chose to ignore me. She could have come down and at least let me in. I would have gladly waited INSIDE the doorway while she finished a conversation. I found it VERY rude to just expect me to wait outside for 5 minutes in the rain. It's been raining here for 2 days..so yes she knew it was raining. I was not going to walk back to my car, wait in my car and then come back. This just proved to me that she was not the type of MB I would want to work for. Yes, I did ignore her two phone calls because I was too busy venting on the phone to my friend who is also a nanny. She left me a VM with the second call saying "I don't understand why you left...you just had to wait on the porch for 10 minutes. Please call me back and let me know if you'd like to come back."....So "5 minutes" was actually 10 minutes. When I got home, I sent her an email saying that I did not appreciate having to wait on her front porch and that I was no longer interested in the job.

To the people saying I am "immature", you really have no justification for that at all. Having been a nanny for 7 years now, I do not waste my time on families like this which is why, I have never had to come on here and complain about a MB like 90% of the nannies on here do. I pick my families VERY specifically and have been lucky to work for GREAT families.

I'm a happily employed nanny, and I think you are...wrong.

I do a lot of on-call work on the weekends, saving up money for graduate school, and am often 10 minutes early for the same reason as you: I don't want to be late, so I give myself a little extra time and end up arriving ahead of schedule. Like you, I usually ring the doorbell for the first time between 5-8min. ahead of my scheduled appointment (whether it's work or an interview) and often find myself waiting outside until the official time. But while I do ring the doorbell a few times in the minutes following, and knock a couple of times, I won't ever call a parent to check in until our scheduled appointment time has come and passed. If you had assumed, when you first rang and got no answer, that she was busy getting out of the shower, or changing a dirty diaper, or finishing up a quick toy clean-up because she wanted to make a good impression, and had gone back to your car (or ducked out of the rain), and then come back to ring again at the time she was expecting you, absolutely nothing would have been wrong with this event. I think you made this a problem, not the MB, by trying to rush your appointment.

OP Here: By the time I called her, it was 4 minutes to 3:00. I don't think I should have went to my car for 4 minutes. I always arrive 5-10 minutes early for interviews and have NEVER had this issue. This was more of a household manager position as the kids are 12 & 10 so there was no diapers being changed, etc. I would have understood if she was on a work call but this was a call with her mom and she HEARD me ring and knock. You just don't ignore someone at your door because they are FOUR MINUTES early.

What if she was actually naked, just getting out of the shower, and didn't want to say that so instead she said she was finishing up a phone call and would be right down? You just seem very inflexible and immature, and to exhibit complete disinterest in showing any kind of attempt at being understanding. I think she's well rid of you, tbh.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, still think you're wrong, and now suspect. All of a sudden you're not at a nanny interview but a household manager job and the kids are old enough to babysit themselves. Before the mother claimed she was on the phone, but now she told you she was on the phone with her mother.

It's great that despite being an hour away you were 10 minutes early. You just as easily could have wound up 5 minutes late due to a traffic accident from the rain. I take efforts to not screw over my employees but it needs to work both ways. I don't stress if they're 5 minutes late, and assume they won't get bent out of shape if I need them to stay 5 minutes late. You come across as highly inflexible. You think you're too good to wait in your car for a few minutes? Step off your pedestal.

Anonymous wrote:I think the employer dodged a bullet. OP sounds like an idiot. Why wouldn't you have stayed in your car until the time of the appointment in the first place? Why wouldn't you have simply gone back to your car after no one answered the door the first time and waited until the appointment started? Why wouldn't you have carried an umbrella. No one wants to hire an idiot. You did the MB a favor in leaving.

Anonymous wrote:Pp here and I straight up think OP was lying to make herself look better when she said the Mb was taking to her mom. It was probably a business call of some sort.

Anonymous wrote:I think it was not appropriate of the mb to ask you to wait...she should have let you in. I also think you should have answered her when she called to let her know how you felt.