Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, let it go, but learn from the experience. We all need to be ready for this common accurance. Don't give notice until you're ready to be "let go".

The only exception to the rule, would be for MBs who have done the "every three months" reference letter.

Nannies will eventually learn to cover their own asses, eventually...

Who writes a reference letter for their employee every three months? That would be a red flag that they were job-hunting.

Good employers shouldn't have to worry about getting ditched.

Only a bad employer would be afraid to write a brief review letter every three months.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my notice for my leaving my current nanny job due to having a child of my own, but MB told me that I'm being released 3 weeks sooner than I'd planned. I'm disappointed due to the fact that I will now have less pay next month than I was counting on. Her reasoning was to start her new nanny sooner rather than later. Trying to be understanding, but I'm really disappointed because initially she agreed to my end date and now is ending it sooner. Is this worth making an issue of?

Sorry, OP. I'm a MB and would never do this. I would have paid you to train the other nanny if she needed to start sooner. Congratulations on your baby.

The above MB is a fine example of integrity.
We need more employers like her.

This is how it goes in the nanny world. That's why you just give 2 weeks notice. They're all the same. Sorry!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question was, is it understandable if the situation is reversed. My answer was yes, and I gave an example. Having a rough day under your bridge?

Love this!

It's funny the first time you read it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, let it go, but learn from the experience. We all need to be ready for this common accurance. Don't give notice until you're ready to be "let go".

The only exception to the rule, would be for MBs who have done the "every three months" reference letter.

Nannies will eventually learn to cover their own asses, eventually...

Who writes a reference letter for their employee every three months? That would be a red flag that they were job-hunting.

Good employers shouldn't have to worry about getting ditched.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, let it go, but learn from the experience. We all need to be ready for this common accurance. Don't give notice until you're ready to be "let go".

The only exception to the rule, would be for MBs who have done the "every three months" reference letter.

Nannies will eventually learn to cover their own asses, eventually...

Who writes a reference letter for their employee every three months? That would be a red flag that they were job-hunting.

Something like this reference letter would be good for finding PT or occasional work. Something on the side that doesn't interfere with you normal FT position. You might go on several different interviews throughout the year since you might only work with a family a few times if that is all they need, and while they might call 2-3 people, sometimes it is easier at first to see the letter from your current family and show that you definitely have a good reference to start with. Many people will see that and pretty much offer the job, just mention that they will get back to the references before the job (but might not be so rushed with trying to get a hold of them). It is nice to have, and doesn't have to mean that the nanny is looking to replace her FT position with another one.

OP don't let this get you down! People suck but you have a baby on the way! Take this time to get ready and take care of yourself.

OP here. Yeah I guess I should've been more selfish and waited til the possible last minute to give notice, but I think the fact that I am expecting would've caused this anyway. Just the typical discrimination that goes with nannies who are moms or expectant moms I guess. I should've known.

I don't think a reference letter every 3 months is necessary but I do ask my employers to do a written performance review quarterly, so if they turn into crazy people when I give notice I have something that shows a history of my performance at a job if I can't provide a current reference. This has always been sufficient.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, let it go, but learn from the experience. We all need to be ready for this common accurance. Don't give notice until you're ready to be "let go".

The only exception to the rule, would be for MBs who have done the "every three months" reference letter.

Nannies will eventually learn to cover their own asses, eventually...

Who writes a reference letter for their employee every three months? That would be a red flag that they were job-hunting.

We understand the necessity of those routine reference letters? What else can the nanny do to better protect herself? Nothing?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my notice for my leaving my current nanny job due to having a child of my own, but MB told me that I'm being released 3 weeks sooner than I'd planned. I'm disappointed due to the fact that I will now have less pay next month than I was counting on. Her reasoning was to start her new nanny sooner rather than later. Trying to be understanding, but I'm really disappointed because initially she agreed to my end date and now is ending it sooner. Is this worth making an issue of?

Sorry, OP. I'm a MB and would never do this. I would have paid you to train the other nanny if she needed to start sooner. Congratulations on your baby.

I would do the same in terms of training the new nanny. Cutting loose someone leaving to have her own child seems extra obnoxious. AND the fact that she initially agreed with the end date? What a jerk.

The poor children. Suck it up, MB.

Suck it up....such is the working world. At will employment.

Sorry OP! That isn't cool at all.

Just a side note to say that I hope you aren't the same pregnant nanny that posted about having no patience for your charges a couple of weeks ago.