Anonymous wrote:Can you ever really "share" the same kitchen when everyone wants to eat dinner at 6? Or the Nanny have to go out to eat?

Anonymous wrote:Can you ever really "share" the same kitchen when everyone wants to eat dinner at 6? Or the Nanny have to go out to eat?

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Anonymous wrote:The average (non-high profile) family is going to pay you a bit less per hour for someone living in compared to someone living out. The ones that pay a great rate for live-in work either desperately need/want someone to live in and can afford a higher amount, or could probably pay a higher rate and ARE dropping it a bit but you just can't tell since it is still a great rate. The wealthier families also give better benefit packages and usually have a car for you to use most of the time (including off hours) since they have a car that is just for the kids/nanny instead of one that gets used by the parents as well on weekends. 3 or 4 cars is pretty common in those situations.

My current live-in family is pretty good. There are issues that I had stated in one of my previous posts, but I think most live-in situations have some minor stuff even. The mom is very relaxed about things, I can have friends over (including male friends) any time I want to, we watch tv and movies in my room, I can have out of town guests stay over in the spare room (she has many that stay here as well, several times a month sometimes), and she is great about understanding that sometimes things just don't get done one day, but as long as it does get done eventually, or I try, it is all cool. I also am allowed to have my own pets live with me, we are in talks about adding another cat for them as well (they have had them in the past).

We are close but also give each other space and it works out good. If anything, she is probably more lenient about things with the kids than I am, so I have to sometimes pull myself back since it is not my position to tell her how to parent them. We are very similar with our personalities, it is more than I am OCD while she is not (more on the other extreme) but that makes us fit since she needs someone like me to do certain stuff and I like to do that stuff anyways.

you sound awesome - would you mind sharing what you get paid? I’m looking for a nanny and considering a live-in but have no idea how to go about the process.

What hourly range did u have in mind?

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Anonymous wrote:The average (non-high profile) family is going to pay you a bit less per hour for someone living in compared to someone living out. The ones that pay a great rate for live-in work either desperately need/want someone to live in and can afford a higher amount, or could probably pay a higher rate and ARE dropping it a bit but you just can't tell since it is still a great rate. The wealthier families also give better benefit packages and usually have a car for you to use most of the time (including off hours) since they have a car that is just for the kids/nanny instead of one that gets used by the parents as well on weekends. 3 or 4 cars is pretty common in those situations.

My current live-in family is pretty good. There are issues that I had stated in one of my previous posts, but I think most live-in situations have some minor stuff even. The mom is very relaxed about things, I can have friends over (including male friends) any time I want to, we watch tv and movies in my room, I can have out of town guests stay over in the spare room (she has many that stay here as well, several times a month sometimes), and she is great about understanding that sometimes things just don't get done one day, but as long as it does get done eventually, or I try, it is all cool. I also am allowed to have my own pets live with me, we are in talks about adding another cat for them as well (they have had them in the past).

We are close but also give each other space and it works out good. If anything, she is probably more lenient about things with the kids than I am, so I have to sometimes pull myself back since it is not my position to tell her how to parent them. We are very similar with our personalities, it is more than I am OCD while she is not (more on the other extreme) but that makes us fit since she needs someone like me to do certain stuff and I like to do that stuff anyways.

you sound awesome - would you mind sharing what you get paid? I’m looking for a nanny and considering a live-in but have no idea how to go about the process.

Anonymous wrote:The average (non-high profile) family is going to pay you a bit less per hour for someone living in compared to someone living out. The ones that pay a great rate for live-in work either desperately need/want someone to live in and can afford a higher amount, or could probably pay a higher rate and ARE dropping it a bit but you just can't tell since it is still a great rate. The wealthier families also give better benefit packages and usually have a car for you to use most of the time (including off hours) since they have a car that is just for the kids/nanny instead of one that gets used by the parents as well on weekends. 3 or 4 cars is pretty common in those situations.

My current live-in family is pretty good. There are issues that I had stated in one of my previous posts, but I think most live-in situations have some minor stuff even. The mom is very relaxed about things, I can have friends over (including male friends) any time I want to, we watch tv and movies in my room, I can have out of town guests stay over in the spare room (she has many that stay here as well, several times a month sometimes), and she is great about understanding that sometimes things just don't get done one day, but as long as it does get done eventually, or I try, it is all cool. I also am allowed to have my own pets live with me, we are in talks about adding another cat for them as well (they have had them in the past).

We are close but also give each other space and it works out good. If anything, she is probably more lenient about things with the kids than I am, so I have to sometimes pull myself back since it is not my position to tell her how to parent them. We are very similar with our personalities, it is more than I am OCD while she is not (more on the other extreme) but that makes us fit since she needs someone like me to do certain stuff and I like to do that stuff anyways.

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

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Anonymous wrote:If a job wanted me to live in, they'd have to pay really well. Or my living space would need to be totally separate.

+1

I know it works for some people, but I have only ever found live-in positions miserable. There is not enough privacy, you have no claim to any of the shared spaces (as PP mentioned re: tv, cooking, etc.), impossible to have friends over or host dinners/parties/movies with your friends, it's too easy for parents to extend your hours unexpectedly or begin to take advantage in other ways, and I always felt uncomfortable adding things to the grocery list but I didn't eat the same foods they did. I wouldn't do it again.

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

Are you far enough way from them, so they don't wake you up early Saturday mornings if you want to sleep in?

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.