Anonymous wrote:1:33 never got to meet the nanny with a PhD. Poor thing. Thank goodness it's not often that we encounter this degree of ignorance.

+1

I am a nanny and I don't think (nor do most reasonable nannies think) that just because a parent is working full time in an office setting that they are "absentee" parents. The family that I work for right now both work about 70 hours a week in a very high powered business setting(though admittedly some of it is at home when the baby is sleeping) but they are great parents. Every moment that they aren't working they are spending time with their child. They are very interactive with him and love him to pieces. They make the time that they spend with him quality time.

I have worked for other people in the past who didn't work as much as my bosses now do. They had so many other things going on in their life, things that they prioritized above time spent with their children. To make matters worse when they did spend time with their children it was not 1-on-1 interaction, it was stuffing their face full of candy and plopping them in front of the television. The mother once admitted me to that she had never once read with their 4 year old (I, of course, read with her on a daily basis). If I had to name one set of bosses "absentee" parents it would be these ones, not my current bosses who work 15 hours more per week than they do.

Every parent "works", well ok, most. Some work with their kids, actually raising them. Other parents work in an office, while someone else is paid to become the caretaker (usually primary caretaker, because it's hard to pull off PT office jobs). No one human does it all.

I have no purpose to offend, nor do I aspire to political correctness. I simply desire engagement in an open and honest discussion with sincere and thoughtful adults.

Are you game?

Anonymous wrote:Again... Parents who hire me, do so for how I do my job. Please forgive me for being so direct with you, pp, but which part of that, do you not comprehend?

Please. I hired my nanny for her expertise and experience, but that doesn't mean she has the absolute say in how my children are raised. To suggest otherwise is ridiculous. Reasonable people can disagree as to how best to raise a child. Potty training is a good example. Some people want to potty train early in x,y,z manner. Other people prefer to wait until their kids get a little older and are more ready to potty train. There is no one right way to potty train.

But if my nanny told me we HAD to potty train a certain way, because she is a nanny and was hired to "serve" my kids so she has the absolute last say, she'd be without a job.

And no, I'm not a micromanaging "absentee" parent. I don't micro-manage my nanny at all (but then again, she doesn't do stuff blatantly opposite of our expectations). And I suggest you nannies stop calling parents "absent" b/c we work. It is disrespectful and I can't believe any good nanny would think such a thing.

Well said.

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Anonymous wrote:You may speak for yourself, but not for the rest of us. The parents who hire me, do so for my specific experience, and for my judgement. You may centainly have different arrangements with regard to how you perform your work.

Even though I am just feeding the troll, here goes anyway:

You do not have expertise. You may have experience. But you don't have an advanced degree or specialized training or you wouldn't be a nanny. Nannies are low-moderate skilled labor, and you, dear, are way too big for your britches. That said, I really like my nanny and value her suggestions. But they are just suggestions.

I disagree on a certain level. Many nannies are uneducated and become nannies because you don't necessarily NEED a degree or specialized training, but there is such thing as nanny/governess school. I have 2 degrees in child-related fields and work as a nanny because I CHOSE to not because that's the only job I could find. I take pride in my work and it makes me angry when people like you make the job sound so degrading.

1:33 never got to meet the nanny with a PhD. Poor thing. Thank goodness it's not often that we encounter this degree of ignorance.

Anonymous wrote:You may speak for yourself, but not for the rest of us. The parents who hire me, do so for my specific experience, and for my judgement. You may centainly have different arrangements with regard to how you perform your work.

Even though I am just feeding the troll, here goes anyway:

You do not have expertise. You may have experience. But you don't have an advanced degree or specialized training or you wouldn't be a nanny. Nannies are low-moderate skilled labor, and you, dear, are way too big for your britches. That said, I really like my nanny and value her suggestions. But they are just suggestions.

Just move on already, pp. Thanks!

Anonymous wrote:Yes, indeed, I am the nanny, and i do love it. Thank you so much!
As one newspaper reporter described me, I am the "modern day Mary Poppins".

And who are you, my dear?

Seriously just get off anonymous chat forums, because as amazing as you may seem to others at your job, you're still engaging in immature and pointless internet bickering. Just grow up.

Yes, indeed, I am the nanny, and i do love it. Thank you so much!
As one newspaper reporter described me, I am the "modern day Mary Poppins".

And who are you, my dear?

It really blows my mind how many nannies AND MB's come here to argue about petty things that don't matter...because we don't even know who anyone here is. Nannies..not as surprising..most of the ones here are catty 20-somethings (most..not all), but MBs? These are the professionals that are hiring the nannies and looking down on them for what they post here...yet they are here thriving on the drama just as much.

01/28/2013 12:15 Subject: I service your child, not you.
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Again... Parents who hire me, do so for how I do my job. Please forgive me for being so direct with you, pp, but which part of that, do you not comprehend?

And again, in case you missed it...posters on this board do not agree with your over inflated sense of your own importance. Excuse me for being just as direct with you, PP, but, well, you are the nanny. Not the parent. Which part of that do you not comprehend?

If you wish to know how it is, that I do my job, ask. I tell parents how I function with children... in every possible scenario they can think of. They either like my style, or not.

By the same token, I listen to what their style is. We either have a possible arrangement, or not, and move on. Nothing lost, and I always appreciate the opportunity to learn more, because that NEVER stops.

Anonymous wrote:Am already working with a family who was looking for a nanny who knows how to do her job, so it'd be a bit silly to break up a good thing, don't you think?

Btw, why so angry, that some nannies do know how to do their job?

"Doing your job" is not raising your charge in whatever ways you see fit regardless of what the parents say.