Some families are just plain nuts, just like some nannies.

oooohhh... GOD!!!! ahahahha I had a family that got mad at me because I ate one of their ORGANIC BANANAS ahhahhahahha

Nanny caught in the middle of their marriage problems. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ask them why you were charged for the laundry detergent? I'd like to know what their response was.

Bought it up to MB, in a nice sort of, "just curious" way, and she looked shocked and said it was a mistake. I don't know who puts my paycheck together, so maybe DB did it and MB doesn't agree? I just don't see how it was a mistake since it was typed out.

I would honestly start searching for a new job. She's probably just acting shocked because she didn't think you'd actually bring it up.

+1 even if its what you believe, that MB and DB disagree on what is provided for you as part of your compensation package that spells trouble down the road. Navigating the challenges of being a live-in or having one requires all parties to communicate openly and for your bosses to be on the same page.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ask them why you were charged for the laundry detergent? I'd like to know what their response was.

Bought it up to MB, in a nice sort of, "just curious" way, and she looked shocked and said it was a mistake. I don't know who puts my paycheck together, so maybe DB did it and MB doesn't agree? I just don't see how it was a mistake since it was typed out.

I would honestly start searching for a new job. She's probably just acting shocked because she didn't think you'd actually bring it up.

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ask them why you were charged for the laundry detergent? I'd like to know what their response was.

Bought it up to MB, in a nice sort of, "just curious" way, and she looked shocked and said it was a mistake. I don't know who puts my paycheck together, so maybe DB did it and MB doesn't agree? I just don't see how it was a mistake since it was typed out.

If they expect you to pay for your own detergent, food, etc, you should renegotiate your pay.

When we've had live-ins they have usually asked something like "Ok if I throw a load of laundry in?" at first, and also they might check if it's a convenient time to do so sometimes, if they can see we have a load waiting to go in. I always made it clear they didn't need to ask, and we tended to get into a routine of when they did their laundry and when we did ours. I made it clear in the work agreement that we would provide all laundry products (but of course they didn't have to use them if they preferred something else )... it would certainly never occur to me to charge for them, that's ridiculous.

You should talk to your employers about this, but to me it is a red flag that they didn't cover this in advance or explain why they feel the need to charge you. Obviously you should buy your own products as it sounds like they are over-charging. For sure ask them if there are any other items that they intend to charge you for, so you can make the decision to provide your own instead if you want to. But really, they sound pretty cheap.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe adult ladies are engaging in such banter. No one here is sounding to bright, IMHO.

LOL nice try, hon.....Doesn't sound as if you're much TOO bright either...

Bring it up. That is so cheap.

Anonymous wrote:Get a new job!

+1

Get a new job!

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So I've done about 4 loads of my own laundry, plus the children's laundry every day.

Hmmm...maybe they think you are running the washing machine too much and they are trying to give you an economic incentive to cut back. If you did 4 loads and you are doing the children's laundry everyday (why??) then that's 11 loads in one week. This is bad for the environment and wasteful/expensive.Unless Norovirus hit the house or you are watching 8 kids doing the kid's laundry everyday is way too much. Its also kind of strange for a single adult to need to do 4 loads in a week and they may not realize that this is not what you normally do.

They have may have just recently bought the detergent and now just one week after you have arrived they need to replace it. If they never went through this much before then they may have just thought it was you and charged you half or some percentage of the bottle.

The sheets were a one time thing, and I did ask permission. There are three children, including an infant with acid reflex and a child in the midst of potty training.

You shouldn't need to ask permission to do your laundry (even bed sheets!) when you are a live-in.

I can easily do four loads in a week. Sheets, towels, pillows, etc. Esp. if OP just started, that means that she probably recently moved and has linens that needed to be washed. I don't know why kind of laundry detergent you buy, PP, but they almost always have more than 11 loads worth of soap in the bottle.

I don't thinking "charging" the OP for laundry detergent is the right way to say "you're doing too many loads of laundry for our children." It's like signing the kids up for an activity 20 miles away and then charging OP because she used too much gas to drive there.

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So I've done about 4 loads of my own laundry, plus the children's laundry every day.

Hmmm...maybe they think you are running the washing machine too much and they are trying to give you an economic incentive to cut back. If you did 4 loads and you are doing the children's laundry everyday (why??) then that's 11 loads in one week. This is bad for the environment and wasteful/expensive.Unless Norovirus hit the house or you are watching 8 kids doing the kid's laundry everyday is way too much. Its also kind of strange for a single adult to need to do 4 loads in a week and they may not realize that this is not what you normally do.

They have may have just recently bought the detergent and now just one week after you have arrived they need to replace it. If they never went through this much before then they may have just thought it was you and charged you half or some percentage of the bottle.

The sheets were a one time thing, and I did ask permission. There are three children, including an infant with acid reflex and a child in the midst of potty training.

You shouldn't need to ask permission to do your laundry (even bed sheets!) when you are a live-in.

I can't believe adult ladies are engaging in such banter. No one here is sounding to bright, IMHO.