Anonymous
05/15/2025 13:48
Subject: Re:Weird Question
I would just look for another position since it sounds like the father in question here has a little problem with integrity.
GL!
GL!
Anonymous
05/09/2025 09:34
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Yes what is most important in the Nannie/parent relationship is 1000% honesty. If one or both sides cannot abide by this principle then there will be no successful relationship ever.
Anonymous
05/09/2025 02:08
Subject: Re:Weird Question
(Cont.)
Oh and even if you were correct in your assertion that the Nanny here was wrong -> that still would not give her DadBoss the right to manipulate the TV/WiFi then lie about it when asked.
No employer ever has the right to outwardly LIE to the person who is caring for his precious young children.
Open communication is key for all relationships in general > most notably an employer/employee relationship.
Honesty is fundamental in keeping lines of communication honest & respectful.
Oh and even if you were correct in your assertion that the Nanny here was wrong -> that still would not give her DadBoss the right to manipulate the TV/WiFi then lie about it when asked.
No employer ever has the right to outwardly LIE to the person who is caring for his precious young children.
Open communication is key for all relationships in general > most notably an employer/employee relationship.
Honesty is fundamental in keeping lines of communication honest & respectful.
Anonymous
05/09/2025 02:03
Subject: Re:Weird Question
To the PP above ^^ ^^:
You are not understanding the full context of the original posting.
The Father simply stated his preference - but has given said Nanny full autonomy (as he should) regarding TV use in the house.
So no PP >> you are most definitely in the wrong by spreading false content on here….
You are not understanding the full context of the original posting.
The Father simply stated his preference - but has given said Nanny full autonomy (as he should) regarding TV use in the house.
So no PP >> you are most definitely in the wrong by spreading false content on here….
Anonymous
05/07/2025 12:43
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:^^Yes, this is a perfect example of respondents not completely reading the entire original post before commenting.
So many of you automatically jump on the op and start laying blame. I see this in all the forums on DCUM, not just the Nannie’s section.
OP, your db is trying to intimidate you by showing you he is in charge and it is his way or the highway. It is disrespectful not only to you but to his kids for him to turn off the WiFi so the television will not operate.
Just like we teach young children he needs to learn to use his words instead of acting out like a toddler.
You should tell him that if he wants you to do a certain thing while working, he needs to verbalize it to you next time.
This lets him know that you are not his fool.
This is some of the worst advice I've read today.
If OP does this, she'll promptly find herself looking for work. We are criticizing OP because she is ignoring the dad's request. She is in the wrong.
Anonymous
05/07/2025 03:13
Subject: Re:Weird Question
^^Yes, this is a perfect example of respondents not completely reading the entire original post before commenting.
So many of you automatically jump on the op and start laying blame. I see this in all the forums on DCUM, not just the Nannie’s section.
OP, your db is trying to intimidate you by showing you he is in charge and it is his way or the highway. It is disrespectful not only to you but to his kids for him to turn off the WiFi so the television will not operate.
Just like we teach young children he needs to learn to use his words instead of acting out like a toddler.
You should tell him that if he wants you to do a certain thing while working, he needs to verbalize it to you next time.
This lets him know that you are not his fool.
So many of you automatically jump on the op and start laying blame. I see this in all the forums on DCUM, not just the Nannie’s section.
OP, your db is trying to intimidate you by showing you he is in charge and it is his way or the highway. It is disrespectful not only to you but to his kids for him to turn off the WiFi so the television will not operate.
Just like we teach young children he needs to learn to use his words instead of acting out like a toddler.
You should tell him that if he wants you to do a certain thing while working, he needs to verbalize it to you next time.
This lets him know that you are not his fool.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 21:40
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:I reread the original post and I didn’t read anything where the father boss told this nanny in no uncertain terms to not turn on the tv.
So I do not understand why people are pointing their finger toward her. ??
But this IS DCUM and people are always placing blame on ops.
But even if this nanny wasn’t supposed to turn on the tv, the father boss should be mature enough to tell his nanny directly that the tv is not allowed while the kid(s) is awake or whatever.
I personally think intentionally shutting off the WiFi so the tv will not operate is psycho behavior.
ESP for a man.
It’s like unplugging something then acting like something became unplugged on its own!?
In the VERY FIRST POST:
The father on the other hand has told me he prefers zero tv time while I am there but he hasn’t explicitly banned it.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 14:50
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.
This - we can turn the WiFi / internet off for particular devices like the TV or a specific iPad without disrupting adults’ phones or work computers.
The nanny should respect the dad’s wishes with the TV and if the kids cry or run around and disturb his work, that’s too bad. He can allow one 18min show, buy a dishwasher, or do the dishes himself.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 01:33
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.
I know this comment is so unrelated but why use an app? Why not just unplug the router manually? It just seems odd to utilize an app when it is quicker to just unplug something right then and there.
We use it to block kids. Our home phone, camera, and other things use WiFi.
Anonymous
05/05/2025 23:23
Subject: Re:Weird Question
I reread the original post and I didn’t read anything where the father boss told this nanny in no uncertain terms to not turn on the tv.
So I do not understand why people are pointing their finger toward her. ??
But this IS DCUM and people are always placing blame on ops.
But even if this nanny wasn’t supposed to turn on the tv, the father boss should be mature enough to tell his nanny directly that the tv is not allowed while the kid(s) is awake or whatever.
I personally think intentionally shutting off the WiFi so the tv will not operate is psycho behavior.
ESP for a man.
It’s like unplugging something then acting like something became unplugged on its own!?
So I do not understand why people are pointing their finger toward her. ??
But this IS DCUM and people are always placing blame on ops.
But even if this nanny wasn’t supposed to turn on the tv, the father boss should be mature enough to tell his nanny directly that the tv is not allowed while the kid(s) is awake or whatever.
I personally think intentionally shutting off the WiFi so the tv will not operate is psycho behavior.
ESP for a man.
It’s like unplugging something then acting like something became unplugged on its own!?
Anonymous
05/05/2025 11:26
Subject: Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nanny here.
Sorry but I won't be on your side.
You're not respectful of his wishes.
He told you he doesn't want the tv on when you're there ... so why do you do it ?
You can do it when he's not working from home since the mom doesn't care so much ...
I've always respected my bosses when I was a live-in or live-out nanny. Even if I didn't agree.
I do the dishes when the children are napping and then I can have some time to myself to relax with a cup of coffee.
PP from above here-So this gives OP’s dad boss the right to intentionally turn off the wi-fi?? Then to lie about it and deny he did it on purpose? I cannot believe a nanny would be ok with being lied to on the job. Respect needs to be imparted from an employer and outright lying is a clear sign of it being nonexistent in this case……
It's passive agressive from him to intentionallly turn off the wi fi but his nanny is also being dishonest by turning the tv on after being told not to.
As I've said, as a nanny I've always respected the parents wishes, so something like that wouldn't happen to me.
I have worked for liars though and this is another topic because I was a good nanny and I didn't appreciated being lied to.
Anonymous
05/04/2025 22:14
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.
I know this comment is so unrelated but why use an app? Why not just unplug the router manually? It just seems odd to utilize an app when it is quicker to just unplug something right then and there.
Anonymous
05/04/2025 21:58
Subject: Re:Weird Question
Anonymous wrote:My husband works from home and laughed and said there is no such thing as rerouting or reprogramming a wireless internet router.
Your husband has no clue. We have all kinds of gadgets that control the internet, and my husband can shut it off with an app.