Anonymous
Post 03/28/2025 13:31     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

Yes it would bother me. It irks me how bad many families treat their workers. They think of you as “the hired help.”
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2025 22:13     Subject: TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:This board makes nannies look terrible. Immature, lazy, and argumentative.


Yes some on here do come across as such I do agree, but I have faith that there are many good, responsible caretakers out there.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2025 17:35     Subject: TV/Screen Time Query

This board makes nannies look terrible. Immature, lazy, and argumentative.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2025 22:24     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.

It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.

Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.

Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.

Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!


If using TV makes them bad parents -- which I disagree with -- does using TV make you a bad nanny?

It's not hard for kids to learn that there are different rules with different adults. I never let kids eat in my car, for example. It's a choking hazard and I don't want the mess. If parents want to let their kids eat in their car, that's their rule. My car, my rule. When grandparents are visiting, I know that naps might not happen on schedule, meals might be a little more hectic, and "rules" bend a little.

I think it's very reasonable to say no TV when nanny is there. 3 YO can sit at the table and color/play with toys while you clean up the kitchen. When I have to clean up a kitchen, baby can play in the highchair with some water for splashing, or we'll have music on singing and dancing. 3 year old can also have quiet time in lieu of a nap.


With all due respect there is really no fair comparison in saying the nanny would be a bad nanny if she needed to turn on the TV since the parents would be bad parents themselves if they needed TV time for their kid(s) while home.

Because parents are in a completely different category as opposed to someone who cares for children as a career.

Parents need to practice what they preach.
Period.
No exceptions.

And if they forbid screens when their Nanny is in charge yet use them when they are home then they are not being fair to their Nanny.


...what? Let's break that down.
1. I didn't say a nanny is a bad nanny if they use TV. The person I quoted said parents are bad if they use TV. According to their logic, is a nanny also bad for using tv? It was a question.
2. You're right that parents are different from someone working with children as a career. Your other point makes zero sense. If a nanny is working with children as her career, she should follow the rules set by her employers.
3. You're so wrong is laughable. Are you a troll? The parents get to set the rules for their home and their children.

I understand it can make it more difficult if parents rely on tv a lot, but that's their choice. If the nanny is unhappy with that, she can find a new job.

Parents get to set the rules. If they don't want their nanny to use the tv, then that's the rule she needs to follow.


While you are absolutely right here in that the parents have the right to instruct their nanny to not turn on the tv while the kids are around, it still doesn’t make things right.

Parents can set many rules since the nanny isn’t the one living in the home = she only works there.
Parents can tell the nanny not to eat their food, use their iPad or they can tell their nanny to make their bed and fold their clean laundry.
The list is endless here.

But the nanny is a free will employee plus we live in a free country so if the nanny doesn’t think these rules are fair, then it is her right to leave the job.

Which is in a nutshell what this OP is asking us.
Whether a.) the rule is fair and b.) what she should do.

And no the rule is clearly not fair and because of that she should leave and seek a more fair family to employ herself with.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2025 22:15     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

If the family is like this OP I hope you are getting compensated a nice salary because it would be a hard pass if my bosses told me not to do something that they themselves do when they are with their kids.
Demand respect because in the end, people will treat you the way that you allow them to.
^ remember this. ^^
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2025 10:51     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.

It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.

Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.

Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.

Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!


If using TV makes them bad parents -- which I disagree with -- does using TV make you a bad nanny?

It's not hard for kids to learn that there are different rules with different adults. I never let kids eat in my car, for example. It's a choking hazard and I don't want the mess. If parents want to let their kids eat in their car, that's their rule. My car, my rule. When grandparents are visiting, I know that naps might not happen on schedule, meals might be a little more hectic, and "rules" bend a little.

I think it's very reasonable to say no TV when nanny is there. 3 YO can sit at the table and color/play with toys while you clean up the kitchen. When I have to clean up a kitchen, baby can play in the highchair with some water for splashing, or we'll have music on singing and dancing. 3 year old can also have quiet time in lieu of a nap.


With all due respect there is really no fair comparison in saying the nanny would be a bad nanny if she needed to turn on the TV since the parents would be bad parents themselves if they needed TV time for their kid(s) while home.

Because parents are in a completely different category as opposed to someone who cares for children as a career.

Parents need to practice what they preach.
Period.
No exceptions.

And if they forbid screens when their Nanny is in charge yet use them when they are home then they are not being fair to their Nanny.


...what? Let's break that down.
1. I didn't say a nanny is a bad nanny if they use TV. The person I quoted said parents are bad if they use TV. According to their logic, is a nanny also bad for using tv? It was a question.
2. You're right that parents are different from someone working with children as a career. Your other point makes zero sense. If a nanny is working with children as her career, she should follow the rules set by her employers.
3. You're so wrong is laughable. Are you a troll? The parents get to set the rules for their home and their children.

I understand it can make it more difficult if parents rely on tv a lot, but that's their choice. If the nanny is unhappy with that, she can find a new job.

Parents get to set the rules. If they don't want their nanny to use the tv, then that's the rule she needs to follow.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2025 03:55     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.

It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.

Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.

Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.

Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!


If using TV makes them bad parents -- which I disagree with -- does using TV make you a bad nanny?

It's not hard for kids to learn that there are different rules with different adults. I never let kids eat in my car, for example. It's a choking hazard and I don't want the mess. If parents want to let their kids eat in their car, that's their rule. My car, my rule. When grandparents are visiting, I know that naps might not happen on schedule, meals might be a little more hectic, and "rules" bend a little.

I think it's very reasonable to say no TV when nanny is there. 3 YO can sit at the table and color/play with toys while you clean up the kitchen. When I have to clean up a kitchen, baby can play in the highchair with some water for splashing, or we'll have music on singing and dancing. 3 year old can also have quiet time in lieu of a nap.


With all due respect there is really no fair comparison in saying the nanny would be a bad nanny if she needed to turn on the TV since the parents would be bad parents themselves if they needed TV time for their kid(s) while home.

Because parents are in a completely different category as opposed to someone who cares for children as a career.

Parents need to practice what they preach.
Period.
No exceptions.

And if they forbid screens when their Nanny is in charge yet use them when they are home then they are not being fair to their Nanny.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2025 03:49     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

It sounds like this family likes to micromanage you.
I could never work in a home where a tv was in the house and the parents told me that I could not use it while there.

If you truly need some downtime I think you should use it for maybe one show.
I don’t see how one episode of Bluey or Meeka could make a boss angry.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2025 14:35     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.

It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.

Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.

Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.

Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!


If using TV makes them bad parents -- which I disagree with -- does using TV make you a bad nanny?

It's not hard for kids to learn that there are different rules with different adults. I never let kids eat in my car, for example. It's a choking hazard and I don't want the mess. If parents want to let their kids eat in their car, that's their rule. My car, my rule. When grandparents are visiting, I know that naps might not happen on schedule, meals might be a little more hectic, and "rules" bend a little.

I think it's very reasonable to say no TV when nanny is there. 3 YO can sit at the table and color/play with toys while you clean up the kitchen. When I have to clean up a kitchen, baby can play in the highchair with some water for splashing, or we'll have music on singing and dancing. 3 year old can also have quiet time in lieu of a nap.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2025 13:40     Subject: TV/Screen Time Query

If the parent needs the tv on for a “break”, then the nanny should be allowed the same courtesy. I hate nickel and dime families that want every pennies worth of work out of you.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2025 23:08     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

I would not be able to work for parents who would implicitly tell me that I was not allowed to use their television while the children were around when that is what they would do.

It is very unfair of them to expect you to refrain from screens while there.

Sometimes with kids it is nice to have on the television for sound.
If parents cannot care for their kids without having to resort to television then they are not good parents.
I cannot work for hypocrites at all.

Now if they were a no screen family that would be entirely different.

Because then they would be practicing what they were preaching unto me!
Anonymous
Post 03/05/2025 20:33     Subject: TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:it would not annoy me. Screen time is a respite for parents, nannies should manage without it. If a nanny is unable to get the 3 yr old to nap or lie quietly with toys/books for one hour, she is probably not a good fit. Nanny needs a break, that I agree with.


You sound like the mom that turns on the Ipadc the second nanny leaves.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2025 07:39     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

I have worked for many families with this similar dynamic. They only allow screens when they are home, probably like someone mentioned so they can have their children entertained while they get ready for work or cook dinner.
I think the issue I would have here would be a family not ALLOWING me to do something that they do as parents.
You are being treated very unfairly in this position and if I were in your shoes I would give this nf my walking papers.
Gl.
Anonymous
Post 03/03/2025 11:03     Subject: Re:TV/Screen Time Query

^^ This is so true. ^^

Plus why own a tv set if you are just going to tell others in your house not to use it?
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2025 22:49     Subject: TV/Screen Time Query

Anonymous wrote:This seems like a great way to get the kids to not like the nanny...nanny arrives, the TV has to go off and nanny leaves and the TV goes right back on. Yikes. I don’t think they should be having them watch TV right before you arrive or right after you leave but they can do what they want in regard to letting them watch it. I do think it’s hypocritical, however.


+ 1

I agree that parents have the fundamental right to do whatever they want inside their own homes.
However if they allow their kids to watch television when their nannie is not there then that is very hypocritical.