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Anonymous wrote:You need to talk to her. You need to tell her that any extra days of sick leave or vacation will be unpaid over the allotted amount and if she isn't going to be reliable you'll need to find new nanny as you can only work when she's working.

Part of the issue is that she insists on taking unpaid time! It's created a situation where she thinks she has unlimited time off as long as it isn't paid. It's really the burnen of finding backup care so often and that when she wants to leave just an hour or two early, It's extremely hard to find someone to come for that short a period.

Anonymous wrote:How many kids do you have, OP? The more kids the more challenging and physically demanding the nanny job.

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I have one 13 month old.

Buckle down, OP.

No more unpaid time.

Only approve leaving early if A) she gives you a certain amount of notice and B) you can find coverage. Even then it should only be under certain circumstances, like a medical appointment.

Have a discussion, and update the contract to include clauses for these things. If she disagrees, she will have to find somewhere else to play. She isn't treating this like a job.

I would have put my job in jeopardy if nanny took that much time off.

Anonymous wrote:Hmm... why didn't the boyfriend just call insurance? They would have him towed in no time.

Not every insurance policy offers that. I pay for AAA but not everybody does.

I know of a good nanny available right now!

Hmm... why didn't the boyfriend just call insurance? They would have him towed in no time.

We ran into a slightly different situation which was our nanny used all her sick time and PTO / vacation being out and then took unpaid time. She also had so many "situations" come up with car trouble, sick pet, follow up for sick pet, friend in ER, someone locked out of the house and she had the only key ..... The list was endless. And each individual one felt like I had to say yes (your boyfriend is stuck on the side of the highway with a flat and no spare, your kitten is listless)... But the culmination was too much. And the full days off being sick versus the "small" time off asks of coming late / leaving early... It all adds up and I felt the same way - I am falling behind and using up my time to cover for her.

I am a total wuss and have no spine, but it felt like we had different ideas about what was working for our family. I started looking for a new nanny before letting her go and then found someone, let her go, and paid out a month to cover her.

I am sorry you are in this situation and it sucks and looking for a nanny is no fun, but this does not work for you and you need to part ways.