Anonymous
01/07/2023 12:45
Subject: Chatty nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Based on what you’ve written here, I’d let her go. Assuming you’re paying her well, her being on the phone instead of engaging the kids or completing her work is unacceptable. Some people are oblivious to the signals that you don’t want to chat with her. If so, there’s nothing wrong with telling her (gently) that you don’t want to engage with her on social stuff. You hired a babysitter, not someone to be your friend.
If letting her go isn’t feasible (no backup, no other Nannie’s interested in the job), then I’d change your behavior. Why are you around when she is? Can you chill in your room / try to separate yourself from her while she’s there?
All of this is on the assumption that you simply told her that you don’t want to chat about social things and she needs to focus on the kids. There’s nothing wrong with that. But you should examine your behavior. Were you rude to her? Was her email /text calling you out fair? If so maybe you do owe her an apology. Otherwise she sounds like a loser who doesn’t understand appropriate boundaries between employer and employee and doesn’t understand the job requires her to be off her phone.
OP - LOL chill in my room!!! When I get home I'm making dinner in the kitchen, and often with one airpod listening to a work call or something I need to finish up. She's supposed to be with the kids in another room but she gravitates to the kitchen. I feel like there are too issues, one that she is too chatty, the second that she's not getting the job done. I told her firmly to engage with the kids and let me focus on what I'm trying to finish. Often one of us has to get and get my oldest son from tennis or something so there's plenty of work for both of us. We had a long term nanny for years and her energy was always directed to the kids, I feel like I'm on a cruise ship when I get home every day with all the HELLOs
Tell her to take the kids to the park or give her a specific activity to do with them. Let her know that you need to cook and deal with work calls. Sandwich with something she’s doing well first, and praise effort after. End with the ultimatum that she engages kids or you’ll have to find someone who can tag team the kids with you.
Anonymous
01/02/2023 18:22
Subject: Chatty nanny
Anonymous wrote:OP, lose the work tone at home.
OP - that was not me responding
Anonymous
12/01/2022 20:48
Subject: Chatty nanny
day
Anonymous
12/01/2022 17:01
Subject: Chatty nanny
so you're annoyed bc smeone is trying to be nice to you?
Anonymous
11/27/2022 15:18
Subject: Chatty nanny
OP, lose the work tone at home.
Anonymous
11/16/2022 00:35
Subject: Chatty nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Unless you are paying $50/hr, hang on to any after school sitter for dear life.
OP - there are decent options in our neighborhood so I'm not worried about replacing her if we need to.
Oh if you can replace her get rid of her immediately. I would never have anyone in my home who tone-policed me unless I was desperate, even if she was justified. And that person would be on her ass as soon as I got my ducks in a row. I don’t have time for insubordination.
ROFL. You vastly overestimate your own importance.
I mean I don’t think I’m important. I think that I want a job done the way I want it done if I’m the one paying. It works for me.
Anonymous
11/15/2022 23:39
Subject: Chatty nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Unless you are paying $50/hr, hang on to any after school sitter for dear life.
OP - there are decent options in our neighborhood so I'm not worried about replacing her if we need to.
Oh if you can replace her get rid of her immediately. I would never have anyone in my home who tone-policed me unless I was desperate, even if she was justified. And that person would be on her ass as soon as I got my ducks in a row. I don’t have time for insubordination.
ROFL. You vastly overestimate your own importance.
Anonymous
11/14/2022 17:03
Subject: Chatty nanny
I'd ignore the question asking, and ask HER "would you please put your phone away and keep Larla and Larlian company while they eat dinner? I really want their table manners to get better - not talking with food in their mouths, chewing with their mouths closed, etc." THAT is the issue to focus on.
Anonymous
11/14/2022 08:21
Subject: Re:Chatty nanny
OP - I was offline for the weekend, I was not posting the last few messages.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 16:46
Subject: Chatty nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Unless you are paying $50/hr, hang on to any after school sitter for dear life.
OP - there are decent options in our neighborhood so I'm not worried about replacing her if we need to.
Oh if you can replace her get rid of her immediately. I would never have anyone in my home who tone-policed me unless I was desperate, even if she was justified. And that person would be on her ass as soon as I got my ducks in a row. I don’t have time for insubordination.
With your nasty mouth, who would want to talk to you.
My employees don’t need to want to talk to me. They need to if they want to stay employed.
It must be frustrating to find a new nanny every two months.
Anonymous
11/13/2022 13:17
Subject: Chatty nanny
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Unless you are paying $50/hr, hang on to any after school sitter for dear life.
OP - there are decent options in our neighborhood so I'm not worried about replacing her if we need to.
Oh if you can replace her get rid of her immediately. I would never have anyone in my home who tone-policed me unless I was desperate, even if she was justified. And that person would be on her ass as soon as I got my ducks in a row. I don’t have time for insubordination.
With your nasty mouth, who would want to talk to you.
My employees don’t need to want to talk to me. They need to if they want to stay employed.