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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Certainly she was not happy working for you, for some many reasons. I'm sorry this happened to you. But wondering why she just didn't wait tomorrow Monday to tell you. Anyways she took a decision already.

OP here,

Nanny was unhappy because my mother is with her all day with two kids under two years old. She basically said we were not a good fit for her.

Did she know that she'd be dealing with grandma plus 2 under 2 all day? Did she get to meet grandma and do a trial period with grandma before accepting the position?

Doesn't matter really. As the nanny said, the jib wasn't a goid fit. Texting us fine to start the 2 week clock. Obviously it can be discussed in person later but you do need to look at why you thought having your mom there was a good idea. Maybe you thought it would be helpful to the nanny? But as people have posted it is not usually a positive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Certainly she was not happy working for you, for some many reasons. I'm sorry this happened to you. But wondering why she just didn't wait tomorrow Monday to tell you. Anyways she took a decision already.

OP here,

Nanny was unhappy because my mother is with her all day with two kids under two years old. She basically said we were not a good fit for her.

Did she know that she'd be dealing with grandma plus 2 under 2 all day? Did she get to meet grandma and do a trial period with grandma before accepting the position?

Then why you hire a nanny? Some parents...

I became a single mom by choice to twins at 41. I moved into my (retired) parents' home, a split -level type where my kids and I have the lower level. I stayed home for a year. My parents were an active 70 when my kids were born.

Then I hired a nanny when I went back to work when my twins turned 1. I am a high school teacher so I basically work 7am-4pm. Nanny works 8-5. Very similar decisions as PPs above: My parents do all the laundry and food prep and cooking. They shop and do errands. They provide my Nanny a 1-hour (I pay her -- perks!) lunch break. They stay. out. of. her. hair. My parents are my backup when the nanny is sick or has a doc appmt or family matter.

My nanny has been with us for 10 years. It is a great situation for all of us, and we all know it.

OP and similar families: take some hints here.

Grandmother can also stay busy all day with food shopping and errands. Leave the nanny be.

Grandmother needs to keep busy with family laundry and family food prep. She can give the nanny a 30 minute break for lunch. Otherwise, out of the way, grandma.

(With 3 adults in the house, family does their own housecleaning. 2 hours on Saturday morning should do it.)

Agree let the nanny do her job as she knows it best. Parents and grandparents stay out of the way!

I hate to say it, but in these situations is nearly always foreigner employers.

OP, Why couldn't the grandmother just keep busy doing the laundry and cleaning all day? What the heck did she do all day long?

If I was your nanny, I should have waited on Monday and tell you in person that I'm quitting right on the spot. It doesn't matter what the contract says if the work environment it's became a toxic one.

Anonymous wrote:Does your contract outline how she is to give you notice? I think via text could be considered "in writing."

From a legal perspective, it would certainly be considered to constitute “in writing.” I think OP is saying that she expected more, given the relationship. Just like breaking up with someone over text could be considered bad form, depending on the seriousness of the relationship. But people do it…

Does your contract outline how she is to give you notice? I think via text could be considered "in writing."

She obviously felt like She didn’t owe you anything beyond a text. Either she is a rude, inconsiderate person or your nanny job was really bad. Or both.

Glad she gave you notice, that must have been awful for her having another adult interrupting her duties. Nannies don’t put up with that type of ‘setting’

I once had a job where I had to work alongside a Grandmother and we had to care for three children between us.

She was so difficult to work with!
She used to question me if one of the kids were crying and she was in another room of the house.
“Why is Johnny suddenly crying? He was perfectly okay five min ago.”

And one time I was running in the backyard, playing hide-and-seek w/the older child when he suddenly tripped & fell.
As soon as the Grandma heard his cries - she immediately came running outside.
She gave me a disdainful look before carrying the child inside.

Afterward after he stopped crying, I overheard her calling her daughter on the phone > telling her she could not believe I was so neglectful!!?
I immediately quit.
On the spot.
Worse job ever!

Be grateful that at least your Nanny gave you a two weeks heads up.

OP--I'd have lined up another job and texted on Friday afternoon that I wouldn't be back and then blocked your number. This sounds like an absolutely terrible job. If your mom is hanging around all day, then let her do the childcare. Otherwise, she needs to be out of the house most of the day, or at least being helpful by making lunch or taking one kid out for a few hours every single day.