Anonymous wrote:Fewer babies born in july and august and women are negotiating better maternity leaves and som WFH with infants. A lot more have other networks and get nannies through friends and neighbors. My nanny went to a friend of a friend with a 3 month old.
I always thought summer birthdays were rare. It seems like most people I know have birthdays between January and May. But my baby was born in July 2021, and four of my friends had babies the exact same month! I only had 3 other friends give birth that year, 2 in March and 1 in November. I had a hard time getting my c-section scheduled because the OGBYNs were so busy. I was surprised, but was told that teachers plan to have their babies in the summer. The doula even warned me that earlier in the month, my hospital had turned away births because it was at capacity.
Agreed on more parental leave, though. Since 2020, the federal govt has given 12 weeks of paid parental leave, to men as well as women. And most people accrued a ton of leave during the pandemic when they didn't travel. My husband and I each had 5 months of paid leave available, but we took some of that time off together and hired a nanny when our baby was 7 months. Among my co-workers as well as my husband's, I would say that the amount of leave we had access to was on the high end, but not atypical. I don't think many people are working FT at home without childcare. I could not possibly perform my job decently if I was attending to a crying infant at random times. My husband's health was poor while he was on parental leave, so I sometimes had to work and care for our baby at the same time. I could put her on the playmat or in the swing for only about 20 minutes before I felt neglectful. I could not focus on my work. And forget about being able to participate in meetings when you have a baby needing to be fed, changed, or put down for a nap constantly.