Did she not call you because she physically couldn't? I wouldn't have any trust issues if that happens, it's not her fault. If she could have but didn't and just left the kids there and so the school had to call you, then that's a much different situation.

I'd need to know why and again, need to see that there just wasn't a way for her to reach me. If she didn't attempt in any way possible, there is no way to come back from that. If there was a valid reason, again, not completely her fault or to the degree that I'd consider it to be. If it was a small problem on her part that led to the bigger issue, then I'd need a plan to prevent that from happening again.

OP, it sounds like your Nanny is just unreliable overall.

Taking eight days off is a lot!

If she had a parental emergency - she should have called/texted you so the school would not of had to contact you directly.

I think if you keep this Nanny, then you should have a back-up plan in place in case something like this happens again.

However a better option may be to simply hire another Nanny, one who values reliability as the important asset that it is.
Especially in this line of work.

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Anonymous wrote:A major emergency and you’ve lost trust? Wow I hope she quits because you don’t respect her. She is human for God sakes!

This. These parents are beyond full of themselves.

OP here. Her parent was sick. This was not the first time and it was a couple of weeks of taking a few days off here and there. We have been understanding and before this last emergency, she was out for 8 days. So in a vacuum it looks like we just lost trust after one emergency, but it's been a pattern and we've tried to work with her, but we do need communication. Flame away.

I’d say do yourself and the nanny a favor of parting ways. You aren’t a good fit

I think it’s more than not a good fit. Sounds like OP was trying and nanny kept flaking out

Anonymous wrote:Is trust the issue, or is she simply not reliable enough for your needs?

There are people (not just nannies) whose lives are full of drama and who not great at planning so you are always receiving last minute requests (for things that they knew in advance).

If you need reliability, then this nanny may not the nanny for you. There are other nanny who are reliable - you just need to screen for that during interviews and reference checks.

Great points

How did the kids get left at school? Did she not tell you she was taking off? If it was your mistake, more on. If she deliberately could call you and did not and just did not get the kids, you fire her. Simple.

Is trust the issue, or is she simply not reliable enough for your needs?

There are people (not just nannies) whose lives are full of drama and who not great at planning so you are always receiving last minute requests (for things that they knew in advance).

If you need reliability, then this nanny may not the nanny for you. There are other nanny who are reliable - you just need to screen for that during interviews and reference checks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A major emergency and you’ve lost trust? Wow I hope she quits because you don’t respect her. She is human for God sakes!

This. These parents are beyond full of themselves.

OP here. Her parent was sick. This was not the first time and it was a couple of weeks of taking a few days off here and there. We have been understanding and before this last emergency, she was out for 8 days. So in a vacuum it looks like we just lost trust after one emergency, but it's been a pattern and we've tried to work with her, but we do need communication. Flame away.

I’d say do yourself and the nanny a favor of parting ways. You aren’t a good fit

To be diplomatic…