They get radicalized into thinking they are getting the raw end of the deal. Oh, and watch for the Harry Potter references--it's code for au pair slavery apparently

Sanctimonious Jackhole here. Glad I'm not alone in my experience. I'm mainly confused in retrospect, but I think I might be a one and done host mom even though I was super into the hosting part. I feel like it cost my kids too much.

It was already heading in a not so great direction, but au pairs became ultra entitled during COVID. I will not hire any Au Pair in the near future.

Oh my, you are now accusing a second person of suffering from serious mental illness, all because they disagree with you. You are also applying the phrase “delusions of grandeur” incorrectly. Bro did you even take Psych 100?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I’m with the OP on this one. If you don’t have anything to add to this conversation except some basic bitch comment about how a mom doesn’t spend enough time with her children - where you don’t know this woman, don’t know her kids, don’t know her life… yeah sit down. Nobody wants to hear your hot take.

Another one with delusions of grandeur. No one is "sitting down" because you tell them to. Get a life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I vote OP for board monitor. You’re annoying and jealous much?

"Jealous" of a sanctimonious jackhole on a nanny board? No, sweetie, but you tried.

And since it doesn't say "Jeff" next to sanctimonious poster's name, it doesn't make a bit of difference who she lectures that they "should not be participating." Grow up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I’m with the OP on this one. If you don’t have anything to add to this conversation except some basic bitch comment about how a mom doesn’t spend enough time with her children - where you don’t know this woman, don’t know her kids, don’t know her life… yeah sit down. Nobody wants to hear your hot take.

agree!
I can't tell if it's a troll AP or just some woman who is that unhappy with her life

It's a woman who is unhappy with her life and takes it out on women she believes have better lives. "Au pair" sounds fancy so this forum has attracted assorted haters that harrass working women in every third thread or so-- been this way for more than a decade now.

If they only knew "fancy" meant arguing about car curfews and acting shocked when they actually have to work

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I’m with the OP on this one. If you don’t have anything to add to this conversation except some basic bitch comment about how a mom doesn’t spend enough time with her children - where you don’t know this woman, don’t know her kids, don’t know her life… yeah sit down. Nobody wants to hear your hot take.

agree!
I can't tell if it's a troll AP or just some woman who is that unhappy with her life

It's a woman who is unhappy with her life and takes it out on women she believes have better lives. "Au pair" sounds fancy so this forum has attracted assorted haters that harrass working women in every third thread or so-- been this way for more than a decade now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

+100

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I’m with the OP on this one. If you don’t have anything to add to this conversation except some basic bitch comment about how a mom doesn’t spend enough time with her children - where you don’t know this woman, don’t know her kids, don’t know her life… yeah sit down. Nobody wants to hear your hot take.

agree!
I can't tell if it's a troll AP or just some woman who is that unhappy with her life

We had this with our Au Pair. She extended with us (her inititiation) and then got really weird and resentful. Mind you, we have a high risk child and it was before DC could get vaccinted for COVID so we had to be very careful. But au pair knew that and still asked to extend.

I still can't understand why she didn't try to rematch. My hunch is that she knew we payed wayyy over other HFs because we knew we had more COVID restrictions

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I’m with the OP on this one. If you don’t have anything to add to this conversation except some basic bitch comment about how a mom doesn’t spend enough time with her children - where you don’t know this woman, don’t know her kids, don’t know her life… yeah sit down. Nobody wants to hear your hot take.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.

I vote OP for board monitor. You’re annoying and jealous much?

I was an au pair in Europe for a very wealthy family after college in the summer (I’m American). At first it was exciting but I was mostly interested in the cultural exchange part although I also like children and babysat a lot. I grew resentful towards the end because the pay was low for the amount of hours I worked and the kids were very spoiled and they lived a very extravagant life. I also started meeting people and wanted more personal time to explore those friendships, travel and be an independent person. I’m assuming it’s similar for a lot of young au pairs that think of childcare as secondary. I never resented the kids and still have a good relationship with them but the parents just came off as very entitled. I think age plays a big roll as well, you are young, immature still and want to enjoy life as an “adult”.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a nanny and au pair? Do you spend any time with your child?

OP here - I work from home and had a newborn so the au pair (and now nanny) helped only with the siblings. There was overlap with her and the nanny so that it would be a smooth transition for everyone especially the kids. The nanny was part time during the overlap and took over full time when AP left. I don't actually spend any time without my children, although that'd be a nice change!

But, more to the point, you really shouldn't be participating in a group discussion if you can't contribute productively without needlessly projecting your own biases and fears onto other people in the conversation.

Sorry, did I miss a vote where you were appointed board monitor? Where do you get off lecturing people about whether they should or “shouldn’t be participating?” Delusions of grandeur.