Anonymous
02/21/2022 08:24
Subject: Mistakes
The parent is upset about something else and took it out on the two of you. Talk to the parent. Ask for money for hours you worked. Ask for an apology for you and the teen. If no apology or pay given start looking for a new job. Don't quit without a new job.
Anonymous
02/17/2022 21:08
Subject: Re:Mistakes
To the OP: I would have called social services the moment the parent stormed off and left, and told them to come and get the kid because it's not yours, and you don't know where its parent is. And then I would have quit.
Anonymous
02/15/2022 21:44
Subject: Re:Mistakes
If there is not another parent I am triple concerned. The child should not be subject to emotional abuse and abandonment. If the dad did that with you, he is 100% doing it to the child. Major red flag
Anonymous
02/15/2022 07:50
Subject: Re:Mistakes
Anonymous wrote:1. This was not a mistake. Unless you were told not to feed the child McDonalds, how would you know?
2. Even if you did know and forgot, you should not be screamed at and stormed away from for 4 HOURS!
3. The employer should have talked to you, the adult, and said "please don't allow him that food any more." End of conversation.
4. Something is wrong if the adult needed to leave the house for multiple hours to calm down from a food choice.
5. You should 100% be paid for that time. Accident on the highway and I am late - I pay. I need to work extra and need nanny to say later - I pay. MIL hospitalized while DH out of town and I need to sit with her in the ER while nanny stays at home with kids - I pay. I am in the hospital having a C section and other children need care until DH comes home - I pay. There is literally NO circumstance where you should work extra hours (emergency or not) and not be paid. And certainly not HOURS.
Please talk to the other parent / caregiver. Let them know you are worried. Worried about the way you were treated. Worried about how other parent spoke to child. Worried about how you were not paid. This is a big deal - especially if you have been with the family for 4 years.
There isn’t another parent. I think he was just having a very bad day and took it out on us. Every Friday I take him to get dinner typically he chooses chipotle or Chick-fil-A. That day he picked McDonald’s which I’ve probably gotten him 20 times over the last 4 years. There has never been an issue before . I’ve always let him get whatever he wants.
Anonymous
02/15/2022 07:46
Subject: Mistakes
Anonymous wrote:MB here: If this is true, it sounds like the parent had something else going on they were upset about. But I'm confused why you couldn't leave a 13 year old home alone for a few hours. Does the kid have some sort of special needs?
He’s never been left alone before. I can’t just make that call to leave him when my job is to stay with him. No special needs.
Anonymous
02/15/2022 01:08
Subject: Re:Mistakes
1. This was not a mistake. Unless you were told not to feed the child McDonalds, how would you know?
2. Even if you did know and forgot, you should not be screamed at and stormed away from for 4 HOURS!
3. The employer should have talked to you, the adult, and said "please don't allow him that food any more." End of conversation.
4. Something is wrong if the adult needed to leave the house for multiple hours to calm down from a food choice.
5. You should 100% be paid for that time. Accident on the highway and I am late - I pay. I need to work extra and need nanny to say later - I pay. MIL hospitalized while DH out of town and I need to sit with her in the ER while nanny stays at home with kids - I pay. I am in the hospital having a C section and other children need care until DH comes home - I pay. There is literally NO circumstance where you should work extra hours (emergency or not) and not be paid. And certainly not HOURS.
Please talk to the other parent / caregiver. Let them know you are worried. Worried about the way you were treated. Worried about how other parent spoke to child. Worried about how you were not paid. This is a big deal - especially if you have been with the family for 4 years.
2. Even if you did know and forgot, you should not be screamed at and stormed away from for 4 HOURS!
3. The employer should have talked to you, the adult, and said "please don't allow him that food any more." End of conversation.
4. Something is wrong if the adult needed to leave the house for multiple hours to calm down from a food choice.
5. You should 100% be paid for that time. Accident on the highway and I am late - I pay. I need to work extra and need nanny to say later - I pay. MIL hospitalized while DH out of town and I need to sit with her in the ER while nanny stays at home with kids - I pay. I am in the hospital having a C section and other children need care until DH comes home - I pay. There is literally NO circumstance where you should work extra hours (emergency or not) and not be paid. And certainly not HOURS.
Please talk to the other parent / caregiver. Let them know you are worried. Worried about the way you were treated. Worried about how other parent spoke to child. Worried about how you were not paid. This is a big deal - especially if you have been with the family for 4 years.
Anonymous
02/14/2022 00:38
Subject: Mistakes
MB here: If this is true, it sounds like the parent had something else going on they were upset about. But I'm confused why you couldn't leave a 13 year old home alone for a few hours. Does the kid have some sort of special needs?
Anonymous
02/13/2022 19:58
Subject: Re:Mistakes
Please come back, OP, and tell us what you plan to do.
You were not in the wrong and your employer should absolutely pay for the four hours you worked while he sulked. I think you need a new job but if you decide to stay do not apologize.
You were not in the wrong and your employer should absolutely pay for the four hours you worked while he sulked. I think you need a new job but if you decide to stay do not apologize.
Anonymous
02/13/2022 18:11
Subject: Mistakes
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you be buying shoes?
He needed new shoes. I was told to take him after school to get new shoes. I’ve done this probably 10 other times with no issues . Afterwards I got him dinner at McDonald’s. The parent was upset because he didn’t get Chick-fil-A. Issue was McDonald’s is lesser quality for the same price. Never had an issue before with him eating McDonald’s and the teen prefers McDonald’s.
Parent was very upset with the choices the teen made. I’m the adult who was in charge so it all falls on me. The parent came home screamed at us then stormed out of house very upset and didn’t come back for 4 hours. I worked an extra 4 hours with no pay because of this. I apologized about the food saying I’m sorry I didn’t know he wasn’t allowed McDonald’s anymore. I’ve taken him so many times I didn’t know the rules had changed.
You are a nanny to a teen? Why can't the parents take him or order shoes online?
Anonymous
02/13/2022 11:44
Subject: Mistakes
Please start looking for a new job! Your employer should NOT treat you like that. If you stay your employer will likely continue to treat you that way. It’s not right!
Anonymous
02/13/2022 11:08
Subject: Re:Mistakes
Anonymous wrote:You are human, making mistakes is a part of that.
However OP - you did not make a mistake.
Your employer made a huge one.
He has zero right to scream at you like you are a child & most ESPECIALLY had zero right to have you work an extra four hours w/out paying you for it!
You need to get the money that is owed you.
And do not apologize to your employer at all.
In fact you are the one who deserves a full apology.
Once you have all your money > then if you can afford to do so, leave this family stat + find another one.
One that will treat you w/respect rather than just the help.
Wishing you all the best.
So sorry this happened to you.
Hugs.
+1
Anonymous
02/13/2022 08:15
Subject: Mistakes
Don't show up tomorrow.
Anonymous
02/12/2022 21:44
Subject: Re:Mistakes
You are human, making mistakes is a part of that.
However OP - you did not make a mistake.
Your employer made a huge one.
He has zero right to scream at you like you are a child & most ESPECIALLY had zero right to have you work an extra four hours w/out paying you for it!
You need to get the money that is owed you.
And do not apologize to your employer at all.
In fact you are the one who deserves a full apology.
Once you have all your money > then if you can afford to do so, leave this family stat + find another one.
One that will treat you w/respect rather than just the help.
Wishing you all the best.
So sorry this happened to you.
Hugs.
However OP - you did not make a mistake.
Your employer made a huge one.
He has zero right to scream at you like you are a child & most ESPECIALLY had zero right to have you work an extra four hours w/out paying you for it!
You need to get the money that is owed you.
And do not apologize to your employer at all.
In fact you are the one who deserves a full apology.
Once you have all your money > then if you can afford to do so, leave this family stat + find another one.
One that will treat you w/respect rather than just the help.
Wishing you all the best.
So sorry this happened to you.
Hugs.
Anonymous
02/12/2022 19:23
Subject: Re:Mistakes
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:First, understand completely that you did NOT make a mistake.
Second, quit. I mean quit yesterday. Your employer is not mentally fit.
How long have you worked for these people, OP?
+1. Also, why did you need to stay without being paid?
4 years. I can’t just leave until I am relived . The parent just left. I wasn’t going to leave the kid alone even though he is a teenager. My employer was so upset, if I would have left I probably would be fired.
I just hate making a mistake. Yes I get it’s not a huge deal but he was clearly very angry with me. I felt terrible. Like wow I made so many mistakes in an hrs time.
So I still don’t understand why you weren’t paid for it.
How many years have you been working for these people?
4 years. My guess is a punishment? I typically don’t get paid for working late. But I rarely work late .
Do you understand that you did nothing wrong? You did not make a mistake.
You are being exploited if not abused. Your employer cannot not pay you regardless.
Stop being a doormat, OP. Stand up for yourself and confront your employer and QUIT.