Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 22:01     Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:You should have provided shoe wraps or told her in advance.

Seriously, OP, I hope you realize how wrong you were. It’s terribly impolite to demand someone take off their shoes when they aren’t wearing socks.


This. It’s fine to say that an expectation of the job is to take off shoes before entering but not okay to surprise her with that during an interview. You are totally over reacting
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:35     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm team OP here. Most nannies should be expecting that a home with small children is a no-shoe home and plan accordingly.
Barring a medical concern, take off your shoes when requested.



Then families need to make sure their floors are spotless, sanitized and they are providing clean slippers at an interview. I would never walk barefoot in someone’s home, especially during an interview. I’ve worked with many families whose home has been questionable in terms of cleanliness. Would you go into an office interview barefoot? I doubt it but it’s completely cool for you to request a nanny candidate. Typical of entitled DCUM parents.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 12:36     Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
You should have provided shoe wraps or told her in advance.

Seriously, OP, I hope you realize how wrong you were. It’s terribly impolite to demand someone take off their shoes when they aren’t wearing socks.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 11:03     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Anonymous wrote:I'm team OP here. Most nannies should be expecting that a home with small children is a no-shoe home and plan accordingly.
Barring a medical concern, take off your shoes when requested.



Then families need to make sure their floors are spotless, sanitized and they are providing clean slippers at an interview. I would never walk barefoot in someone’s home, especially during an interview. I’ve worked with many families whose home has been questionable in terms of cleanliness. Would you go into an office interview barefoot? I doubt it but it’s completely cool for you to request a nanny candidate. Typical of entitled DCUM parents.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 07:31     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Maybe she had a wart or fungus. Jeez. Sounds great that she made a boundary.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 06:10     Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
It is weird to ask a family ahead of meeting with them whether or not you will be asked to remove your shoes (or not?) in their home prior to meeting up.
I always ask before entering any home what their shoe policy is. It is only the courteous thing to do. It’s absolutely ridiculous that I would expect anyone to purchase me a pair of slippers to wear inside.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 00:55     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
I would not want to walk barefoot in a strangers home. Let her know you want to hire her if you haven’t already. But prefer to be a shoe free home. HOWEVER, let her know she can get indoor shoes or slippers, sandals whatever she likes and you’ll pay for them. That’s what my previous family did for me. They had they’re floors cleaned once a month! So no way I was barefoot. I had flip flops to wear inside the house only. Eventually switched to crocs
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 00:35     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Maybe she has a wart on her foot.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 21:49     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
We are a no shoe house but visitors can wear shoes. Some people are not comfortable. I would not want to be barefoot in a strangers house. Give her extra pay to buy two sets of slippers for your house.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 20:11     Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
If you don't feel happy at all OP and sure about this. Trust and what you feel. Did you offer her the position yet? Or Did you hire her already? If not, don't feel guilty. Trust on your feelings and find someone else.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 19:56     Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
I would take my shoes off, the first time entering to a family's house even if I'm going only for an interview. Without the need that somebody tell me to do it. I have always respected Families's rules. It seems to be rude no to do it even if you have asked to do it and you refuse to do it. Mainly watching the whole family are Without shoes but no you. First day of meeting, it's the first impression; so you will have an idea how things will go in the future. If this nanny doesn't make you feel uncomfortable in your own house and you feel that there is still something that You feel you don't like it. It's not the right fit for your family. Keep looking. A huge pool of great nannies are out there.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 18:01     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
I do not remove my shoes. If you tell me in advance that you have a no shoes in house policy then I will decline your invitation. You should have throw away paper surgical foot covers so that people do not have to walk around on your dirty floor in bare feet. I do not live in a neighborhood where cows roam defecating at will.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 13:53     Subject: Re:Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
How did you do the interview OP, on the phone or zoom? Its a bit strange you would decide to hire before meeting your kids in person. Also the nanny didn't ask about house rules, an experienced nanny would certainly know to ask this. So trust your gut OP something is off and you are focussing on the shoes because thats the most obvious thing to you.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 13:25     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
I'm team OP here. Most nannies should be expecting that a home with small children is a no-shoe home and plan accordingly.
Barring a medical concern, take off your shoes when requested.

Anonymous
Post 09/07/2021 12:38     Subject: Red flag? Overthinking? Interviewed nanny. Refused to follow house rules.
Yeah, your pregnancy hormones are making you crazy. I have a couple of friends who HATE taking off their shoes - they only take them off for bed or to shower. Some people really just aren't comfortable taking their shoes off - it's not about you judging someone's feet, but about them being uncomfortable having their feet "free". You should have warned her before she came over.

I would hire her and just like I'd hire anyone else, have a three-month probationary period.