Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.
The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.
You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.
I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.
To each their own. For a nanny who doesn't have children, is a single parent, or is an empty nester, the pay for those hours is amazing.
Maybe but it’s not healthy. Americans are too work obsessed. I am listening to a podcast about burnt out right now.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.
The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.
You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.
I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.
To each their own. For a nanny who doesn't have children, is a single parent, or is an empty nester, the pay for those hours is amazing.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.
The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.
You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.
I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.
The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.
You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.
As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.
Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.
This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.