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Post 07/23/2021 22:11     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.


You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.

The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.

You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.


I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.


To each their own. For a nanny who doesn't have children, is a single parent, or is an empty nester, the pay for those hours is amazing.


Maybe but it’s not healthy. Americans are too work obsessed. I am listening to a podcast about burnt out right now.



1) This isn’t a thread about work/life balance

2) Cool it with the judgement. If a nanny and family agree that this arrangement works for them, the fact that you listened to a podcast once is irrelevant. You have called nannies who work this schedule “crazy,” “insane,” “not healthy,” “not normal,” and “obsessed.” In this single thread, which (again) is not even focused on the topic of nanny hours.

Worry about your own mental health instead of namecalling strangers for choosing a job you don’t want.
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Post 07/23/2021 13:25     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.


You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.

The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.

You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.


I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.


To each their own. For a nanny who doesn't have children, is a single parent, or is an empty nester, the pay for those hours is amazing.


Maybe but it’s not healthy. Americans are too work obsessed. I am listening to a podcast about burnt out right now.

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Post 07/23/2021 08:32     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.


You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.

The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.

You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.


I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.


To each their own. For a nanny who doesn't have children, is a single parent, or is an empty nester, the pay for those hours is amazing.
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Post 07/22/2021 23:33     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.


You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.

The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.

You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.


I understand that BUT I think they should have more than one person doing the childcare.
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Post 07/22/2021 07:34     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.


Why is “needs” in scare quotes? You are the only one using that word. Lots of families have crazy schedules and pay for ample childcare coverage. It’s a great way to make a lot of money as a nanny. Enough, in fact, that once I had kids I could afford to be a SAHM for a few years.
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Post 07/21/2021 12:00     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.


You don't get it. People travel for work, which means they need nannies to cover the hours. They sometimes leave before their kids are awake, or maybe they return after bedtime.

The typical 8-5 m-f is already 45 hours. Add in 30 minutes morning and evening for commute and it's already 50 hours. Heaven forefend a parent wants to squeeze in 30 minutes 3 times a week for working out, once a week to pick up groceries and once a week for a dry cleaning run. You're looking at 55 hours.

You may not be able to envision a family who needs more than 40-45 hours, but many, many families need 50+ hours. Not as many families need 60+ hours, but there are still plenty of them.
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Post 07/20/2021 10:43     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.


Anyone working those hours is insane. You don't value your life. No one "needs" to work 70 hours per week.
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Post 07/19/2021 18:24     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.


Okay, then it makes good sense that the nannies who work 40-50 hours then go home and have a long quiet evening to themselves find being a SAHM harder than being a nanny. Those of us who work high-pressure/long-hour/full-charge nanny gigs and go home and try to squeeze out own life into the cracks between shifts find being a SAHM way easier, and we have good advice for OP.
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Post 07/19/2021 15:18     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.


I've been a nanny for 13 years, and I have never worked those hours. Those hours are crazy.
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Post 07/19/2021 08:09     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.


Most nannies work 50-60 hours per week, because they have to cover not only the parent's 40 hours, they also cover the commute. When parents work over 40 hours, nannies work more too. There are tons of nannies who work 55-70 hours per week.
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Post 07/18/2021 20:58     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.


Working 60-70 hours isn't normal. That's like having two full-time jobs.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2021 23:26     Subject: Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

Use tv, get a jumping sauce, for older kid get playdoh, kitchen toys, teach them to clean up, pick up toys, books on table, older kid can sit on the potty, watch tv. Show abc phonics, songs in Spanish, good manners shows.

Remember if you are well rested then you will have energy for the kids and work. Hugs parents
Anonymous
Post 07/12/2021 10:16     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.



I was a childless nanny, a SAHM and now a WOHM. Being a working mom is way harder than being a nanny or a SAHM, but being a SAHM was way easier than being a nanny. But I found being a nanny harder than being a SAHM. Maybe it depends on the kind of nanny you are? I was always very much a full-charge nanny and always worked 60-70 hours a week. So I was away from my home all day and handled 100% of kids’ cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. all while having to negotiate all of my choices with two other adults, who both outrank me and often didn’t agree with one another and having to create systems and routines that prioritized the parents’ convenience. Then I spent evenings and weekends doing all the same tasks for my own household.

As a SAHM, I only had to coordinate with my spouse, and only had to do the chores once.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2021 23:13     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.


Troll. Maybe a more comfortable environment, but definitely not easier. We rarely get a break! I was a lot less stressed as a nanny. My life was my own after work.
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2021 16:25     Subject: Re:Nannies, can you teach me how to do a more organized and efficient job as a SAHM?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was a Nanny for many years and am now a parent. It’s very different. Being on 24 hours a day is way more exhausting than coming in for 9/11 hours and mentally switching off. I didn’t get why the parents of my charges took days off to themselves and didn’t spend it with their kids. I get it now.


This! I was also a nanny and it's nothing like being a parent.



Same background (nanny to parent) and I think parenting is easier. The rules and schedule is in my control; I’m in my own home; I have a partner to help me during the toughest times... so many reasons I find parenting much easier.