Anonymous
04/22/2021 14:01
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:I would want to know that she had experience with share or at least with twins. I think a $2ph discount is reasonable, but you can always try to negotiate. Honestly I would choose an excellent and experienced nanny with her own baby over having a one-on-one experience with someone mediocre. But it comes down to this:
If your budget is $22 and you are expecting $22 worth of nanny, then a $20 nanny with her own kid and the logistical challenges that come with it will be a downgrade. Is that worth the money? If your budget is $20, then this may be an upgrade. If your budget is $18 and you can get her to negotiate down then it is definitely a bargain (assuming that she is experienced and amazing and has great references).
In any case, ask lots of questions about how she plans to handle two babies—who will provide a double stroller or other equipment? How will she handle naps and outings as schedules change and evolve over time? What is the policy on sick days (if her kid has a fever do you have a childcare issue)? If she is worth $20, she will have thought carefully about these things and be ready to address your concerns.
Well, if her child has a fever she is going to stay home to care for her baby, so you still have a childcare issue! Anytime a person is a parent, their job will be affected that's true for lawyers, doctors, nannies, teachers, CEOs, etc. Some parents stay home more than other parents, some parents share it between the 2 parents, others have one parent be the only one who 'gives' and the other works fulltime through illness, etc. This won't be any different if she brings her child with her or not.
Frankly, you need to decide if her child is "a little bit off" and YOU would go to work, then can SHE bring her child when her baby is "a little bit off." (maybe coming down with something, but doesn't have a fever, didn't sleep well last night so maybe has an ear infection but who knows, etc....
Anonymous
03/29/2021 11:11
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would want to know that she had experience with share or at least with twins. I think a $2ph discount is reasonable, but you can always try to negotiate. Honestly I would choose an excellent and experienced nanny with her own baby over having a one-on-one experience with someone mediocre. But it comes down to this:
If your budget is $22 and you are expecting $22 worth of nanny, then a $20 nanny with her own kid and the logistical challenges that come with it will be a downgrade. Is that worth the money? If your budget is $20, then this may be an upgrade. If your budget is $18 and you can get her to negotiate down then it is definitely a bargain (assuming that she is experienced and amazing and has great references).
In any case, ask lots of questions about how she plans to handle two babies—who will provide a double stroller or other equipment? How will she handle naps and outings as schedules change and evolve over time? What is the policy on sick days (if her kid has a fever do you have a childcare issue)? If she is worth $20, she will have thought carefully about these things and be ready to address your concerns.
There is also the extra wear and tear on the house, diapers, wipes, etc. to consider. Nanny needs to get her own child care if she's charging a full rate.
The parent is responsible for providing their kids stuff.
Anonymous
03/29/2021 09:47
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am interviewing nannies for a full time job with my newborn. I found a very qualified lady and have exchanging preliminary emails . We are about to have a call and I want to know what’s fair. She has asked for $22 without her baby and $20 if she can bring her baby.
The job is full time at my house with my new born and her four month old.
Is this rate correct?
The newborn rate seems reasonable if she has the qualifications and skills to back it up. The rate for her to bring her baby seems way too high - in a matter of months, her baby will be mobile and she will need to devote more time to watching her own child. Then it will become more like a nanny share.
It's only like a nanny share if they go to her house half the time, she has say in the schedule (i.e. her baby's naps don't have to revolve around nanny kid's outings/schedule), etc
Two babies is a share.
Is the nanny giving input and allowed to host?
This is op, we haven’t spoken yet on any details she has just asked to bring her baby with her. I am looking for someone to come to my
House though. If she wanted to host that would be a different story and we would probably have to look elsewhere.
I think this poster was saying that to say, if she can’t host or give input then it is not a nanny share.
DP. Not all shares split hosting duties. When I was looking quite a few people wanted to host full-time and I have a friend that was in a share that was hosted by the other family. A share = two unrelated children. I personally would not do this because I would never expect someone to treat my child with as much love and consideration that they treat their own. However, I think that having a job where you could bring your child could be motivating. I think 18-19 would be more appropriate if she is bringing her child.
Anonymous
03/25/2021 16:12
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that’s very fair. If she is qualified and experienced, everyone in this situation benefits and you will have one happy, stress free nanny and your baby will have a built in playmate (social skills!). I did this when I had my son, he was 5 months and my charge was 3 months. They are the BEST of friends and refer to each other as brothers still, and they are 10 yrs old. I nannied for that family till their second child went to preschool, which was 7 yrs! If she’s great, you won’t regret it.
No. Not everyone benefits. There is zero benefit to the OP from the nanny who brings her own baby and charges almost as high as a nanny without one.
Also laughing at all of you who said newborns have playmates.
My older was in a share for three years and those two kids are still great friends years later.
PP, not everyone has an acrimonious, winner takes all, type of relationship with their child's nanny. Some of us get along great. I would have no issue with a nanny bringing her baby to work, obviously as long as she is a great nanny (but that goes without saying and has nothing to do with her baby being around or not).
Anonymous
03/25/2021 12:26
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:$15 with Baby. Thats a nanny share not a nanny, at best.
+1
I mean, if you are comfortable with a nanny taking care of your baby and another baby, you should just do a nanny share, where you are paying literally half the bill ($12 per hour instead of $24). Now there is some benefit from not having to balance a third household, especially in the time of covid, so I would expect to pay more than $12. But $15 seems right to me.
Anonymous
03/24/2021 23:06
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am interviewing nannies for a full time job with my newborn. I found a very qualified lady and have exchanging preliminary emails . We are about to have a call and I want to know what’s fair. She has asked for $22 without her baby and $20 if she can bring her baby.
The job is full time at my house with my new born and her four month old.
Is this rate correct?
The newborn rate seems reasonable if she has the qualifications and skills to back it up. The rate for her to bring her baby seems way too high - in a matter of months, her baby will be mobile and she will need to devote more time to watching her own child. Then it will become more like a nanny share.
It's only like a nanny share if they go to her house half the time, she has say in the schedule (i.e. her baby's naps don't have to revolve around nanny kid's outings/schedule), etc
Two babies is a share.
Is the nanny giving input and allowed to host?
This is op, we haven’t spoken yet on any details she has just asked to bring her baby with her. I am looking for someone to come to my
House though. If she wanted to host that would be a different story and we would probably have to look elsewhere.
If Nanny hosted it would need to be a licensed day care at that point. I would not pay more than $15-16 if she's bring baby.
Anonymous
03/24/2021 23:05
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:I would want to know that she had experience with share or at least with twins. I think a $2ph discount is reasonable, but you can always try to negotiate. Honestly I would choose an excellent and experienced nanny with her own baby over having a one-on-one experience with someone mediocre. But it comes down to this:
If your budget is $22 and you are expecting $22 worth of nanny, then a $20 nanny with her own kid and the logistical challenges that come with it will be a downgrade. Is that worth the money? If your budget is $20, then this may be an upgrade. If your budget is $18 and you can get her to negotiate down then it is definitely a bargain (assuming that she is experienced and amazing and has great references).
In any case, ask lots of questions about how she plans to handle two babies—who will provide a double stroller or other equipment? How will she handle naps and outings as schedules change and evolve over time? What is the policy on sick days (if her kid has a fever do you have a childcare issue)? If she is worth $20, she will have thought carefully about these things and be ready to address your concerns.
There is also the extra wear and tear on the house, diapers, wipes, etc. to consider. Nanny needs to get her own child care if she's charging a full rate.
Anonymous
03/24/2021 23:04
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that’s very fair. If she is qualified and experienced, everyone in this situation benefits and you will have one happy, stress free nanny and your baby will have a built in playmate (social skills!). I did this when I had my son, he was 5 months and my charge was 3 months. They are the BEST of friends and refer to each other as brothers still, and they are 10 yrs old. I nannied for that family till their second child went to preschool, which was 7 yrs! If she’s great, you won’t regret it.
No. Not everyone benefits. There is zero benefit to the OP from the nanny who brings her own baby and charges almost as high as a nanny without one.
Also laughing at all of you who said newborns have playmates.
No, but toddlers do. And the necessary social skills (sharing, taking turns, no hitting, patience) are taught as they come up, not in a contrived manner.
Playmates are an hour or two, not all day every day. Babies don't need playmates.
Anonymous
03/24/2021 13:36
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think that’s very fair. If she is qualified and experienced, everyone in this situation benefits and you will have one happy, stress free nanny and your baby will have a built in playmate (social skills!). I did this when I had my son, he was 5 months and my charge was 3 months. They are the BEST of friends and refer to each other as brothers still, and they are 10 yrs old. I nannied for that family till their second child went to preschool, which was 7 yrs! If she’s great, you won’t regret it.
No. Not everyone benefits. There is zero benefit to the OP from the nanny who brings her own baby and charges almost as high as a nanny without one.
Also laughing at all of you who said newborns have playmates.
No, but toddlers do. And the necessary social skills (sharing, taking turns, no hitting, patience) are taught as they come up, not in a contrived manner.
Anonymous
03/23/2021 20:42
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:I think that’s very fair. If she is qualified and experienced, everyone in this situation benefits and you will have one happy, stress free nanny and your baby will have a built in playmate (social skills!). I did this when I had my son, he was 5 months and my charge was 3 months. They are the BEST of friends and refer to each other as brothers still, and they are 10 yrs old. I nannied for that family till their second child went to preschool, which was 7 yrs! If she’s great, you won’t regret it.
No. Not everyone benefits. There is zero benefit to the OP from the nanny who brings her own baby and charges almost as high as a nanny without one.
Also laughing at all of you who said newborns have playmates.
Anonymous
03/19/2021 22:37
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
I would want to know that she had experience with share or at least with twins. I think a $2ph discount is reasonable, but you can always try to negotiate. Honestly I would choose an excellent and experienced nanny with her own baby over having a one-on-one experience with someone mediocre. But it comes down to this:
If your budget is $22 and you are expecting $22 worth of nanny, then a $20 nanny with her own kid and the logistical challenges that come with it will be a downgrade. Is that worth the money? If your budget is $20, then this may be an upgrade. If your budget is $18 and you can get her to negotiate down then it is definitely a bargain (assuming that she is experienced and amazing and has great references).
In any case, ask lots of questions about how she plans to handle two babies—who will provide a double stroller or other equipment? How will she handle naps and outings as schedules change and evolve over time? What is the policy on sick days (if her kid has a fever do you have a childcare issue)? If she is worth $20, she will have thought carefully about these things and be ready to address your concerns.
If your budget is $22 and you are expecting $22 worth of nanny, then a $20 nanny with her own kid and the logistical challenges that come with it will be a downgrade. Is that worth the money? If your budget is $20, then this may be an upgrade. If your budget is $18 and you can get her to negotiate down then it is definitely a bargain (assuming that she is experienced and amazing and has great references).
In any case, ask lots of questions about how she plans to handle two babies—who will provide a double stroller or other equipment? How will she handle naps and outings as schedules change and evolve over time? What is the policy on sick days (if her kid has a fever do you have a childcare issue)? If she is worth $20, she will have thought carefully about these things and be ready to address your concerns.
Anonymous
03/19/2021 21:28
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
I gotta say I'd like the advantage of my child being around another child. Also, you know the nanny is going to be involved and not checked out.
Anonymous
03/19/2021 20:32
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Assuming her rate is accurate, is an approximate $5K discount per year worth it to you?
Anonymous
03/19/2021 18:02
Subject: Rate when baby brings her baby to work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am interviewing nannies for a full time job with my newborn. I found a very qualified lady and have exchanging preliminary emails . We are about to have a call and I want to know what’s fair. She has asked for $22 without her baby and $20 if she can bring her baby.
The job is full time at my house with my new born and her four month old.
Is this rate correct?
The newborn rate seems reasonable if she has the qualifications and skills to back it up. The rate for her to bring her baby seems way too high - in a matter of months, her baby will be mobile and she will need to devote more time to watching her own child. Then it will become more like a nanny share.
It's only like a nanny share if they go to her house half the time, she has say in the schedule (i.e. her baby's naps don't have to revolve around nanny kid's outings/schedule), etc
Two babies is a share.
Is the nanny giving input and allowed to host?
This is op, we haven’t spoken yet on any details she has just asked to bring her baby with her. I am looking for someone to come to my
House though. If she wanted to host that would be a different story and we would probably have to look elsewhere.
I think this poster was saying that to say, if she can’t host or give input then it is not a nanny share.