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Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

when your child is the age of your AU pair will you say the same thing? Or will you go out and have them practice with you so they know what they’re doing?

OMG. Yes, I will expect my children to not be reckless idiots who drive in an ice storm. There is no good reason to take that risk. I don't care if this is supposed to be the most special, superfun year of AP's life. Just no.

You can really tell who grew up without being told "no" (both HF and au pair)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

when your child is the age of your AU pair will you say the same thing? Or will you go out and have them practice with you so they know what they’re doing?

OMG. Yes, I will expect my children to not be reckless idiots who drive in an ice storm. There is no good reason to take that risk. I don't care if this is supposed to be the most special, superfun year of AP's life. Just no.

I don't drive in the ice. I pay for the car. I pay for the insurance. I don't want a deadbody on my watch. So yeah, no ice driving for the au pair. If they want free reign, they can pay for their own transportation, lodging, food, etc and arrange for the trip of their dreams.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

when your child is the age of your AU pair will you say the same thing? Or will you go out and have them practice with you so they know what they’re doing?

OMG. Yes, I will expect my children to not be reckless idiots who drive in an ice storm. There is no good reason to take that risk. I don't care if this is supposed to be the most special, superfun year of AP's life. Just no.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

when your child is the age of your AU pair will you say the same thing? Or will you go out and have them practice with you so they know what they’re doing?

Are you nuts? I went out the other night in the ice and got 3 blocks before I turned around and I live in New York State! No I would not take my kid out in the ice for a teaching moment. People should only be driving in EMERGENCIES during an ice storm.

Jesus some of you are blazing mornons

Considering we wanted live in childcare this would be a no go. We never encountered this, but did leave the program last March and it has been wonderful not hosting a parade of immature girls.

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Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

when your child is the age of your AU pair will you say the same thing? Or will you go out and have them practice with you so they know what they’re doing?

The AP is not my child. And yes, I would work with my child---and my child would know that they can't just assume they can take the car out in middle of an ice storm without discussing it.

The APs are here temporarily and it's not worth the risk of teaching someone from a tropical climate on how to drive in ice (both in terms of lives, the care, and our insurance premium). We workaround this issue in our home. If you feel differently, more power to you!

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Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

when your child is the age of your AU pair will you say the same thing? Or will you go out and have them practice with you so they know what they’re doing?

I would say she needs to sleep in your house during the week but can stay out on weekends if she wants to. Unless you have a bad living arrangement for her, like she never gets any privacy, she is taking advantage.

How long as she been your aupair? Did this just start? Why didn’t you curb the behavior before now?

I would be upset she exploded at me. I mean, regardless of whether she is tired or not, you made a simple statement.

Anonymous wrote:Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

+1. My ap had a fit this weekend when we told her that she can not drive in the ice. She has never driven in ice. Our rule is that she can't drive in ice. I don't know why she thought it was okay.

Car needs to remain at your house at night. Its not her car, its for her use with boundaries. If she wants to be grown, give her a list of duties and stick by them and tell her car is work work only or by permission.

Anonymous wrote:I think she was wrong if she actually yelled, but you are wrong in telling her she would be tired. The truth is YOU would be tired if you did that. When I was 16-25 I could totally sleep for three hours after clubbing, roll into work on time and do a good job.

OP is in charge of her home and her car. When an au pair gets that defensive, there's usually something up. There may not be a ton of au pairs avaialble right now, but that does not mean you tolerate this kind of behavior.

It’s not appropriate for your aupair to speak to you like that. I’ve been an aupair and I’m wondering if there is job creep after hours, and that’s why she’s leaving once her shift is over?

Hey another AP that’s just here to find a husband!

That may be true, but I still wouldn't want you behind the wheel of my car with my kids inside.