12/31/2020 10:29
Subject: Old NF wants me back temporarily
Anonymous wrote:What did you decide, OP?
+1
Anonymous
12/26/2020 13:52
Subject: Old NF wants me back temporarily
What did you decide, OP?
Anonymous
12/19/2020 16:04
Subject: Old NF wants me back temporarily
They haven’t been able to fine anyone else in 11 months. It’s not unrealistic to think that 11 months later, they still won’t have found anyone. And with you there, they’ll be less motivated to keep looking. I wouldn’t just because of that.
Anonymous
12/17/2020 20:50
Subject: Old NF wants me back temporarily
7 nannies in 11 months? Stay away. Red flags everywhere.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 12:32
Subject: Old NF wants me back temporarily
Is there any way you can do it with real limited hours. Just enough to help out? You need the $$ but you need time for your business too. The increase in rate is a goid start but I agree with everyone who said deadline. If the parents think they're so perfect maybe they should do some work raising their own children.
Anonymous
12/15/2020 13:37
Subject: Old NF wants me back temporarily
I wouldn’t do it for this set of parents because it will be even more challenging during the pandemic with the restrictions and parent anxiety. You will burn out very quickly even with your experience and familiarity with the family. Move on, OP, for your sanity.
Anonymous
12/14/2020 19:46
Subject: Re:Old NF wants me back temporarily
Btdt. The youngest was 3, almost 4 I left. Then, the youngest was 5.5 when I returned. All of the kids were glad to see me, and we fell quickly back into a similar routine. They knew the expectations I have (I expect your best try, not perfection. Everyone makes mistakes; own up to them and fix the situation.), and they knew better than to push me (no, I’m not going to believe Dad let’s you disappear to the park for two hours, no matter how old you are...). Single parent household, 24/7, large family, very hard to find a nanny. I get it, OP.
Kids are 4, 3 and 1. 1yo doesn’t know you, and you’ll just be yet another face. 4yo will cling, and may have issues separating. 3yo may remember you vividly or may remember just feelings. Kids are malleable, but I would worry about the youngest child’s attachment. 8 nannies in under a year is insane...
The parents would be my sticking point. Part of the reason I returned to my previous family was that I knew my DB respected me. He knew how hard the position was and tried to make it easier. We were on the same page for goals for the kids, and when we disagreed, we discussed away from children at the possible opportunity. I couldn’t handle returning to a family if I knew that my MB and DB would be like yours.