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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

I am 1000 confident and will give you $1m If you can show us a case where an AP was deported for driving a carpool. Your fear mongering is quite bizarre.

Agree. 12:41 poster here. We have said this is part of our setup *in our matching profiles* with four au pairs and two agencies and two LCCs and no one has batted an eye - in face we are commended by au pairs and LCCs alike as a model host family. Everyone is happy. If the didn’t want this they wouldn’t match with us. We are extremely considerate and generous and cautious and law abiding. This is a nonsense issue.

What an agency are you with? A ran this by our LCC and she was like - that's crazy, we would kick them out of the program.

I'm not going to say what agencies because I don't want you to report them, but I really think you're out of touch. Over our four years in the program we have known easily a dozen au pairs who have hosted our kids for playdates. In fact I know of no au pairs who *don't* do this. We are not talking about little kids, of course, and that does make a difference. It's legal for an 8 year old to be left alone in Maryland, so two 10 year olds playing in our yard while the au pair is on duty is really equivalent to, say, dropping your 3 year old off.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

I am 1000 confident and will give you $1m If you can show us a case where an AP was deported for driving a carpool. Your fear mongering is quite bizarre.

Agree. 12:41 poster here. We have said this is part of our setup *in our matching profiles* with four au pairs and two agencies and two LCCs and no one has batted an eye - in face we are commended by au pairs and LCCs alike as a model host family. Everyone is happy. If the didn’t want this they wouldn’t match with us. We are extremely considerate and generous and cautious and law abiding. This is a nonsense issue.

What an agency are you with? A ran this by our LCC and she was like - that's crazy, we would kick them out of the program.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

I am 1000 confident and will give you $1m If you can show us a case where an AP was deported for driving a carpool. Your fear mongering is quite bizarre.

Agree. 12:41 poster here. We have said this is part of our setup *in our matching profiles* with four au pairs and two agencies and two LCCs and no one has batted an eye - in face we are commended by au pairs and LCCs alike as a model host family. Everyone is happy. If the didn’t want this they wouldn’t match with us. We are extremely considerate and generous and cautious and law abiding. This is a nonsense issue.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

I am 1000 confident and will give you $1m If you can show us a case where an AP was deported for driving a carpool. Your fear mongering is quite bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

I am 1000 confident and will give you $1m If you can show us a case where an AP was deported for driving a carpool. Your fear mongering is quite bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

I am 1000 confident and will give you $1m If you can show us a case where an AP was deported for driving a carpool. Your fear mongering is quite bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

Anonymous wrote:I was an au pair a few years ago and was in a carpool with 2 other families. The other 2 familes also brought that child home for me and there was a weekly rotation. I had 3 charges all at different schools so it was way easier to do carpool.
Imo its fine if its reciprocated.

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Anonymous wrote:The naysayers must not have older kids or multiple kids. My AP carpools kids all the time, and my friends carpool my kids. We take turns. Playdates, sports, etc.

My AP would not want to have to be the driver of my kids every single time. And it actually wouldn't work because often my three kids have conflicting schedules.

Have had APs for 8 years. Never been an issue.

You are just fortunate that you haven't had an accident. YOu are breaking program rules. You need to make different arrangements (HM of multiple kids, wide age range).

My AP is covered by our insurance. I don't get your point at all.

Please show me the rule that APs can drive other kids?

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Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.

Everything is all fine and dandy until an accident occurs.

When you ask your AP to break her visa rules it’s HER you put in danger (alongside with the kids who end up under the care of your AP who is not meant to look after them). The fact that you made your APs break the rules for 12 years is nothing to be proud of. Rather cringe actually.

Stop letting your AP be used as your friend’s babysitter and driver. If they can’t be bothered to bring their own kids to activities why should your AP. It’s okay to offer to do your friends/neighbor a favor if you are the one volunteering to do it and doing the driving, it’s totally not okay to offer to do a favor and then offset the responsibility to your AP making her break her visa rules and putting her in a vulnerable position where any wrong doing (accidental or not) would have a massive impact on her life.


The amount of women who encourage other moms to have their AP break the rules knowing the potential consequences for the AP just because they got away with it is shocking honestly. When you sign a contract, you accept to respect what’s in it. The contract isn’t a guideline you can use to make your own rule or totally dismiss as you see fit, just because it suits you better.

Anonymous wrote:We hosted for 12 years. It’s absolutely insane for someone to suggest you can’t have an AP drive carpool. We carpooled the entire time we hosted, to and from school, to and from sports, etc. AP oversaw playmates as well. As long as it’s all reciprocal, it’s part of the job. We lived in four states while hosting so had several LCCs. All knew about the carpools and all were 100% fine with it.