Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny inwould run from this unless the pay was too good to pass up. Would need to be 30+/hr and at a bare minimum 4 weeks off paid.

I take care of 4 kids. Two 2 year olds and 2 newborns each family has a toddler son and an infant daughter. I charge $20 per hour per family and its working out great for me. Its easier when you have two of the same age then having one toddler and two newborns.

Honest question: what's in it for the families when they could find a dedicated caregiver for their two children alone for $20 - $22/hour?

Anonymous wrote:My mom had five kids and was a stay at home mom . My dad was always traveling for work so not much help. Mom did it. It’s not impossible. If you wouldn’t do it or can’t ,then don’t bash someone who could.

Did she have a newborn, and infant, and two toddlers all at the same time? Doubtful.

^PP Above:
In a home daycare (if licensed), then the legal adult:child ratio should still be enforced.

If the provider is following the law.

A Nanny in charge of four children, two newborn infants is only in it for the money $$.

Trust me.....

Anonymous wrote:^In a daycare center, the ratio is actually 1:4.

So basically the babies in this NannyShare are receiving the same form of care + attention that a daycare can provide.

But the huge downside to being in this share is that this baby will have many uninterrupted napping times.

In daycare center, the children are grouped with kids of the same age. They’re also exposed to tons of germs.

In a home daycare, you have no control over ratio or germs, and they’re with various ages.

In a nanny share with two families each having two children, they will be with the same ration present in center daycare, although the ages are mixed. Exposure to germs is much, much lower.

In the current environment, I thoroughly understand why families are looking for nanny shares like this. They just need to make sure the nanny is capable.

^In a daycare center, the ratio is actually 1:4.

So basically the babies in this NannyShare are receiving the same form of care + attention that a daycare can provide.

But the huge downside to being in this share is that this baby will have many uninterrupted napping times.

Anonymous wrote:My mom had five kids and was a stay at home mom . My dad was always traveling for work so not much help. Mom did it. It’s not impossible. If you wouldn’t do it or can’t ,then don’t bash someone who could.

Did your mother care for and teach five kids well? You can keep ten kids alive in a childproof room but that also means the children aren’t getting the attention or instruction they need. It’s not about “could” - it’s about doing it well.

The babies and toddlers would be better off in daycare centers where at least the infants are separated from toddlers and the ratio of 4 to one care is the same. And

There are nannies who are working with 4 kids different families
And it Is working out great....I also know of families with 2 kids and have 2 nannies
For each child so it all depends on the families and what there nanny is willing to take on
If you decided on having her take on the task pay her well.

The poor infants will have their sleep interrupted & will most definitely have to cry it out often for food and a clean, dry diaper.

Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

Chaos.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your Nanny is now excited (to be making so much money!), but I could never be comfortable leaving my two young children w/someone who is solely responsible for four.

The children will get subpar care - especially the infants.

cause moms never have four kids. Nope. Doesn't happen.

Uh, this cannot be a real question can it??!

This Nanny is not the Mother here (duh?!) - she is the Nanny.
Which means that her liability is on a totally different level.
Ask any Nanny on here, especially those that also have their own children.
Caring for someone else’s child(ren) is so much more nervewracking than caring for your own.

Plus the babies are so darn close is age.
Even caring for just ONE newborn is a huge job.

Because newborns need frequent, “on-demand” feedings, frequent diaper changes as well as frequent holding/soothing.
Any Nanny who would take this on is nuts.
And totally not living in reality.

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone have experience / advice for a nanny share expanding to four kids? Both us and the other family are expecting, though the new babies will be 9 months apart and joining at different times. We still have our toddlers in the share but they'll both be going to a morning pre-school program. Just wondering if you've experienced it and any tips for the transition!

Some things to note -

*We are the primary host as we have a large separate, dedicated playroom so I'm not concerned about space
*We already have two of everything as it relates to babies & toddlers
*We've have our nanny since our first kids were born, so she's well equipped to handle babies and toddlers
*We have two spare bedrooms and a guest room so room for all to nap peacefully and not wake each other up
*Our house is baby/toddler proofed
*Our nanny is extremely happy to take on both babies and have 4

I’ll be the naysayer here. If the nanny is capable, this is better than 2 toddlers and 1 infant and FAR away better than 2 infants and 1 toddler.

1. Both families are adding a baby. Neither are going to be upset that their sibling-free toddler’s activity schedule confirms to baby’s sleep schedule.
2. Both babies will have an older sibling, so there won’t be a sibling-free baby whose parents get upset that baby’s sleep is disrupted by pick up or drop off.
3. Because the toddlers are used to playing together, they’ll be interested in the babies as they’re added to the share, but they’re more likely to play while nanny does what she needs to do.
4. By adding the babies 9 months apart, nanny can devote time to get each onto a schedule that works best for the share.
5. All involved parents already know, like and trust the nanny, so if something comes up with one of the babies, you’re all more likely to listen, believe and let her try.

A nanny experienced with multiple kids and ages should be able to handle this. By the time the second baby is added, it sounds like the two older children will be 2.5-3.5, so it should work well. Good luck!

The babies to come will be 9 months apart. Assuming one mom has maternity leave, maybe at one point the nanny may have a 2 month old and (assuming) an active 11 month old plus the toddlers. Yes many people raise 4+ kids all the time. Are you sure day care isn’t cheaper at this point?

As a nanny who has worked with 4+ kids all different ages and had to do pick ups, activities, outings, parks etc it was a total nightmare for me. The older kids schedule always interrupted nap time, feedings etc. I’m hoping you’re nanny won’t do pick up or drop off but I’m assuming she’ll do at least one. Of course she’s happy to be flexible, but unless she has done this before she has no clue what she’s in for.

Anonymous wrote:My mom had five kids and was a stay at home mom . My dad was always traveling for work so not much help. Mom did it. It’s not impossible. If you wouldn’t do it or can’t ,then don’t bash someone who could.

Your mom was so luck, since she must have had 2 twins, newborns, while 2 toddlers twins too. Plus the #5 too. Going out with 5 and taking them outside for all activities and do a nanny routine Woww. Of couse, she had the roll of a mom; doing whatever was easy for their kids. Totally different that doing the roll of a nanny who comes everyday to work.

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny inwould run from this unless the pay was too good to pass up. Would need to be 30+/hr and at a bare minimum 4 weeks off paid.

I take care of 4 kids. Two 2 year olds and 2 newborns each family has a toddler son and an infant daughter. I charge $20 per hour per family and its working out great for me. Its easier when you have two of the same age then having one toddler and two newborns.

My mom had five kids and was a stay at home mom . My dad was always traveling for work so not much help. Mom did it. It’s not impossible. If you wouldn’t do it or can’t ,then don’t bash someone who could.

It is pure stupidity.