That’s so third world. Women in the US have choice, freedom and independence.

And often, too much of it. I hope they are going be as happy about their choices 10-15 yrs from now. What I see that in reality after being "happy and free" for so many decades they end up on TTC threads at age of 45. This is said with no malice, just with a bit more understanding what life is all about.

Anonymous wrote:well, aren't you ladies ever going to get married? Where I am from, the women living alone after certain age are pitied by general population.

That’s so third world. Women in the US have choice, freedom and independence.

Anonymous wrote:well, aren't you ladies ever going to get married? Where I am from, the women living alone after certain age are pitied by general population.

I do not know where you live PP, but no one should feel undervalued just because they live alone.

For some, it can be a choice for them.

Not having a romantic partner in ones life does not invalidate a person’s worth.
It is beliefs such as this that can keep people in unhappy relationships.

Anonymous wrote:well, aren't you ladies ever going to get married? Where I am from, the women living alone after certain age are pitied by general population.

I’m mid-30s, never married, no kids, and that’s the way it’s going to stay. I don’t want or need your pity. I’m not defined by my status as married or unmarried, mother or not. I’m me. And my lifestyle allows me to contribute to the wider community in both time and money in ways that people with families can’t, so nobody I know pities me. They’re either thankful that I have the time and resources I do, or they respect my choices enough to not question whether I’m making the right ones for myself.

This is 2020, not 1820. I’m a woman in my own right, with all the right to decide the course of my life for myself. Since I’m financially and legally responsible for myself, nobody asks me why I’m not married.

Anonymous wrote:those poor lonely nannies, I feel so sorry for them, it;s horrible to be living alone under quarantine.

I’m living with a relative who just let me know that she’s been meeting with another relative who hasn’t been social distancing. I’d much rather be living alone, thanks. And introverts make great nannies for young children.

well, aren't you ladies ever going to get married? Where I am from, the women living alone after certain age are pitied by general population.

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Anonymous wrote:those poor lonely nannies, I feel so sorry for them, it;s horrible to be living alone under quarantine.

I am a nanny; I live alone and am neither lonely nor poor. It’s great to still be able to work. I miss friends and family but it’s really kind of peaceful.

+1. It’s a real luxury to be able to live alone - a luxury and a definite blessing. I’m not lonely at all - I’m an introvert and love the quiet.

Anonymous wrote:those poor lonely nannies, I feel so sorry for them, it;s horrible to be living alone under quarantine.

I am a nanny; I live alone and am neither lonely nor poor. It’s great to still be able to work. I miss friends and family but it’s really kind of peaceful.

those poor lonely nannies, I feel so sorry for them, it;s horrible to be living alone under quarantine.

I don't know. I am just distrustful by nature I guess but I do not necessarily believe everything the live-alone nanny may tell. You have to really know the person and their integrity, you cannot just trust to what somebody tells you when it comes to coronavirus safety. I mean, maybe through your friends, or church, but not through on-line ad and phone reference checks. Lots of nannies are not what they say they are.

Anonymous wrote:I strongly doubt that any family on the planet would be offering $40/Hour for childcare only.

The families that are offering this rate are likely asking for their child(ren) to be tutored as well hence the hourly rate.

So I can totally see $40/Hour being offered only if the Nanny will be asked to provide professional tutoring in addition to basic childcare duties.

Yes, I think that’s OP’s point. Not tutoring but help with online homeschooling. It’s been hard for parents to do it.

But she’s right about the live-alone-nannies being golden right now for all families. It’s a definite plus!

Anonymous wrote:Single nanny may not tell you what she is doing (probably dating) outside her work hours. You cannot trust anyone you only know a few months/weeks, no matter if they are single or married. Their "previous" employers probably did not follow them 24/7, and it was pre-coronavirus time anyway, so they cannot vouch where nannies spend their free time. My point is, you can only trust someone you know for years, or you have to accept the risks. Mature, married nanny will probably take much greater care of herself (and a husband in older age group) and will follow the rules better than someone with low risk, though again older nanny will probably not be working at all right now.

Not true. Our older, widowed nanny has never stopped working for us and we trust her.

NP here and I would go with a live-alone nanny first too during this. Just makes sense to limit possible exposure. In your example of the married nanny, you are asking me to trust the actions of two people - nanny and her husband. With a nanny who lives alone, I am asked to trust just one person.

Single nanny may not tell you what she is doing (probably dating) outside her work hours. You cannot trust anyone you only know a few months/weeks, no matter if they are single or married. Their "previous" employers probably did not follow them 24/7, and it was pre-coronavirus time anyway, so they cannot vouch where nannies spend their free time. My point is, you can only trust someone you know for years, or you have to accept the risks. Mature, married nanny will probably take much greater care of herself (and a husband in older age group) and will follow the rules better than someone with low risk, though again older nanny will probably not be working at all right now.

I strongly doubt that any family on the planet would be offering $40/Hour for childcare only.

The families that are offering this rate are likely asking for their child(ren) to be tutored as well hence the hourly rate.

So I can totally see $40/Hour being offered only if the Nanny will be asked to provide professional tutoring in addition to basic childcare duties.

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Anonymous wrote:I am averaging two availability inquiries a day now. I am blissfully happy in my nanny position so I decline but it’s crazy how many parents want college-degrees nannies.

I agree. Unless I am tutoring I am not using my degree. I am using my common sense and experience.

I think you use your education every day and in every way. It’s who you are. Education can’t be dismissed.

I can’t believe that someone with ECE, special ed, education or child psychology majors would say they aren’t using their degree unless they’re tutoring. I’d be more inclined to believe that the person who said so doesn’t have a degree or the degree isn’t applicable to working with children.

Any liberal arts degree is applicable in working with young children. I have used my knowledge of sociology more as a nanny than any of my ECE classes.