Our wonderful nanny has the next ten days off (paid, of course) as we’re taking our baby to visit our parents. This week is not taken off either her PTO or vacation as it’s our decision to go out of town.

The following week, she’ll have January 1st off.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

We aren’t off any day but Christmas Day either and we’re Jewish but our nanny celebrates Christmas and has a family of her own so we’ve gotten a temp for the other days. Nanny requested this as one of the two weeks of her vacation and we gladly gave it to her.

Yeah, she’s using one of her two weeks of PTO. You aren’t “giving” her an extra week off just because it’s Christmas.

NP here. Stop being such a bitter pill. She okayed the nanny’s vacation like most companies do. Posters like you give nannies a bad name.

NP...Calm down and find a new comeback. This is such a lame attempt at trying to make a point.

But it’s true. Pretty much a. Employees have to have their vacations approved. I do think the attitude of supreme entitlement gives nannies a bad name.

Signed, a nanny

Explain what you think entitlement is and how it was shown in this thread.

Our nanny will be off from 1pm on the 23rd through January 2nd. It's a mix of time we give as paid days off and days of her annual leave she's using (she has 3 wks of paid vacation, plus sick time, plus paid holidays annually).

This exactly matches how we (the parents) are handling it - we get a couple of paid holidays and are taking the rest as annual leave.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

We aren’t off any day but Christmas Day either and we’re Jewish but our nanny celebrates Christmas and has a family of her own so we’ve gotten a temp for the other days. Nanny requested this as one of the two weeks of her vacation and we gladly gave it to her.

Yeah, she’s using one of her two weeks of PTO. You aren’t “giving” her an extra week off just because it’s Christmas.

NP here. Stop being such a bitter pill. She okayed the nanny’s vacation like most companies do. Posters like you give nannies a bad name.

NP...Calm down and find a new comeback. This is such a lame attempt at trying to make a point.

But it’s true. Pretty much a. Employees have to have their vacations approved. I do think the attitude of supreme entitlement gives nannies a bad name.

Signed, a nanny

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

We aren’t off any day but Christmas Day either and we’re Jewish but our nanny celebrates Christmas and has a family of her own so we’ve gotten a temp for the other days. Nanny requested this as one of the two weeks of her vacation and we gladly gave it to her.

Yeah, she’s using one of her two weeks of PTO. You aren’t “giving” her an extra week off just because it’s Christmas.

NP here. Stop being such a bitter pill. She okayed the nanny’s vacation like most companies do. Posters like you give nannies a bad name.

NP...Calm down and find a new comeback. This is such a lame attempt at trying to make a point.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

We aren’t off any day but Christmas Day either and we’re Jewish but our nanny celebrates Christmas and has a family of her own so we’ve gotten a temp for the other days. Nanny requested this as one of the two weeks of her vacation and we gladly gave it to her.

Yeah, she’s using one of her two weeks of PTO. You aren’t “giving” her an extra week off just because it’s Christmas.

NP here. Stop being such a bitter pill. She okayed the nanny’s vacation like most companies do. Posters like you give nannies a bad name.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

We aren’t off any day but Christmas Day either and we’re Jewish but our nanny celebrates Christmas and has a family of her own so we’ve gotten a temp for the other days. Nanny requested this as one of the two weeks of her vacation and we gladly gave it to her.

Yeah, she’s using one of her two weeks of PTO. You aren’t “giving” her an extra week off just because it’s Christmas.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

We aren’t off any day but Christmas Day either and we’re Jewish but our nanny celebrates Christmas and has a family of her own so we’ve gotten a temp for the other days. Nanny requested this as one of the two weeks of her vacation and we gladly gave it to her.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

In the real world most people cannot actually afford a nanny but, think they should have one anyway. Poor you.

I'm not the PP, but isn't it on the nanny to leave a situation where she feels like she's not being treated well?

Is everyone in a situation where they can pay their bills if they leave a job on the spot? Or are there people miserable at their job but there bc they need the money?

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

In the real world most people cannot actually afford a nanny but, think they should have one anyway. Poor you.

I'm not the PP, but isn't it on the nanny to leave a situation where she feels like she's not being treated well?

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

In the real world most people cannot actually afford a nanny but, think they should have one anyway. Poor you.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

I don’t understand your line of thinking. In nanny-land it’s harder to use PTO and it’s typically not accrued. Most nannies don’t get the option to wake up and say, I think I’ll call in sick today. Since nannies typically have to be at work before the family leaves and stay until they get back you’re looking at longer hours than the typical job. Nannies typically don’t actually get breaks, so while the majority of jobs allow employees lunch and rest breaks, nannies don’t always get those. So a typical nanny is looking at a 45-55 hr week working with children without getting a real break to rest and a day to just say, I think I’ll take today off. If a family doesn’t get holidays off, neither does the nanny.

So yeah, it would be very considerate to think about your nanny during the holidays and at the very least give them Christmas Day and the day before or after off. Anyone who actually spends time with their kids on the weekend knows how hard it is and that’s only 2 days. Not to mention their are usually 2 people helping with the kid(s) while a nanny handles it all by themself. If you can actually afford the luxury of a nanny that tends to mean you have the resources and money to give them the days off.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Then that makes sense but in the real world, most people have to work. Christmas is a day, not a week. Lucky you.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone gets the full week off from work. Christmas is ONE day.

It’s a major holiday to spend with family. It would be considerate to give your nanny the day off and at least either the day before or day after off.

I do not understand this line of thinking. At most jobs, you get PTO and holidays. So you get the holiday off, and then if you want additional time off around the holiday, you use your PTO.

Only in nanny-land, is the idea present that you should get “Christmas week” and the day-after-Thanksgiving as paid days off, in addition to PTO. Great if you can negotiate it, but generally not the way the world works.

Oh, please - stop. You’re embarrassing yourself. If the family decides to go away, the nanny is paid. The other posters may well have nannies using their vacation or PTO.

I’m sure this is a shock in your world, but lots of parents actually want to spend time alone with their children when they are off work.

MB here. And you always post the most inane crap.

Let parents have to work or take PTO. If they give nanny leave, they are taking PTO, hiring someone else or relative. We get two weeks off. That is it.

Poor you. Stop begrudging other parents who have more time off and give their nannies that time as well.

My company gives two full weeks off and DH’s closes from the 24th to the 2nd.

Anonymous wrote:DH and will be working on Monday, 12/23, as well as a half-day on 12/26. Our nanny will be working those days, as well. The rest will be off.

*DH and I