*to hire a young Nanny

^^ Excellent point above ^^

Yes, we were all young once.
But that is flawed logic if you are using that as an excuse not to hire a young Nanny.

Let’s face it, the Nannies in their twenties were likely given their first cell phones in Middle School.
And they have acclimated their entire existence on always being “on” whether it be Instagram, Facebook, etc.

It’s just the norm for them.
So expecting a Nanny to cease using her phone is like expecting a child to not want to watch Daniel Tiger.

I am not bashing younger Nannies here.
I am just making the point of if Nanny phone usage truly bothers you - it only makes complete sense to hire an older Nanny for your child.

Anonymous wrote:I love the nannies that like to blame people for hiring young nannies.. weren't you all young once?

The phone usage is excessive. OP is being very considerate of giving her breaks and in return is asking that a bright light isn't constantly in the babies face.

Are you going to defend her phone usage when the baby is a toddler and getting hurt because she is so addicted?

Someone spending all day on their phone and not completing their assigned duties would be a problem at any workplace.

Yes, and I would never hire a young nanny.

I love the nannies that like to blame people for hiring young nannies.. weren't you all young once?

The phone usage is excessive. OP is being very considerate of giving her breaks and in return is asking that a bright light isn't constantly in the babies face.

Are you going to defend her phone usage when the baby is a toddler and getting hurt because she is so addicted?

Someone spending all day on their phone and not completing their assigned duties would be a problem at any workplace.

Anonymous wrote:You cannot "forbid",phone usage. You use your pho e at work and she should be able to as well. I think OP sounds awful.

Are you kidding me? The phone can be somewhere for emergency calls and that's it. So many jobs don't allow phones. Why would this one allow it and near the baby?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Tell the nanny zero phone usage except on her lunch break. This is totally unacceptable, OP. On the few days when I can’t get my usual child-related chores completed, I stay late on my own dime. There should never be dirty bottles or children’s dishes left in the sink.

You need a serious sit-down with your nanny. Or start looking for a new one.

You are an idiot for working for free.

She’s an idiot making $30 an hour with full health insurance paid. I should be so idiotic for staying a few minutes after quitting time to finish washing a bottle.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Tell the nanny zero phone usage except on her lunch break. This is totally unacceptable, OP. On the few days when I can’t get my usual child-related chores completed, I stay late on my own dime. There should never be dirty bottles or children’s dishes left in the sink.

You need a serious sit-down with your nanny. Or start looking for a new one.

You are an idiot for working for free.

20:53:

Well if I was being financially compensated $30/HR, I would for sure do not only X, Y + Z but the entire alphabet as well.

That is a good Nanny rate - - but considering that you stay w/out pay to finish up chores sounds kind of juvenile to me.

Like you are a teenager again......

But yes, you do you.
Different strokes for different folks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Tell the nanny zero phone usage except on her lunch break. This is totally unacceptable, OP. On the few days when I can’t get my usual child-related chores completed, I stay late on my own dime. There should never be dirty bottles or children’s dishes left in the sink.

You need a serious sit-down with your nanny. Or start looking for a new one.

This is completely unacceptable to me.

You stay after work hours to complete chores on your OWN dime.....??!
No one, Nanny or not should be working for free.
Ever.

Read 4:24’s post.
So true.
A Nanny’s job is to care for a child properly - not to ensure she does X,Y + Z before she leaves her shift.

I couldn’t disagree more. X, Y and Z are a part of my job - and I take pride in doing my job well.

But you do you and I’ll do me. I am $40 an hour plus full healthcare. I love my charge and am well respected by my employers. I’m okay.

Sorry, I meant $30 an hour for one baby. Maybe one day $40...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Tell the nanny zero phone usage except on her lunch break. This is totally unacceptable, OP. On the few days when I can’t get my usual child-related chores completed, I stay late on my own dime. There should never be dirty bottles or children’s dishes left in the sink.

You need a serious sit-down with your nanny. Or start looking for a new one.

This is completely unacceptable to me.

You stay after work hours to complete chores on your OWN dime.....??!
No one, Nanny or not should be working for free.
Ever.

Read 4:24’s post.
So true.
A Nanny’s job is to care for a child properly - not to ensure she does X,Y + Z before she leaves her shift.

I couldn’t disagree more. X, Y and Z are a part of my job - and I take pride in doing my job well.

But you do you and I’ll do me. I am $40 an hour plus full healthcare. I love my charge and am well respected by my employers. I’m okay.

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Tell the nanny zero phone usage except on her lunch break. This is totally unacceptable, OP. On the few days when I can’t get my usual child-related chores completed, I stay late on my own dime. There should never be dirty bottles or children’s dishes left in the sink.

You need a serious sit-down with your nanny. Or start looking for a new one.

This is completely unacceptable to me.

You stay after work hours to complete chores on your OWN dime.....??!
No one, Nanny or not should be working for free.
Ever.

Read 4:24’s post.
So true.
A Nanny’s job is to care for a child properly - not to ensure she does X,Y + Z before she leaves her shift.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot "forbid",phone usage. You use your pho e at work and she should be able to as well. I think OP sounds awful.

Yes, of course you can forbid phone usage. You sound immature and phone-addicted.

I don’t know how to break it to both young nannies and young mothers, but you can absolutely leave your phone at the door and not touch it for hours on end. Your phone isn’t actually attached to your hand.

I tried this in my office and it didn't work. Too many of you checking on
your nannies and then posting on DCUM about nannies alwYs on their phones!

Do you understand that it makes absolutely no difference what your boss does? He or she can require things from you that he or she doesn’t do.

And I seriously doubt you are an employer or manager. If you are, you are bad at your job.

-nanny

Nanny here. Tell the nanny zero phone usage except on her lunch break. This is totally unacceptable, OP. On the few days when I can’t get my usual child-related chores completed, I stay late on my own dime. There should never be dirty bottles or children’s dishes left in the sink.

You need a serious sit-down with your nanny. Or start looking for a new one.

I would find this unacceptable. I can't stand people who are addicted to their phones; I certainly wouldn't tolerate that from someone I'm paying $25/hour to care for my baby and make my life easier by handling child-related tasks during nap time.

And of course, anyone with a brain is "invested in what we can get from our dollar." That's the way our society works.

I would tell nanny no phone usage except on her breaks. Period.

OP, you are the employer. You define the job and the job responsibilities and you hire accordingly.

If you hired this nanny to do a given job, and the job responsibilities haven't changed, and she is not doing the job, then she is failing in the position.

Be direct and clear - "Jane, we need to talk. You are fantastic - we so love the way you X, Y and Z. I especially appreciate your consistent _____ with little MIchael - it's exactly what we hoped to find in a nanny. There are also a couple of things that I want to address. Some of the day to day tasks - such as cleaning bottles, doing the baby's laundry, and emptying the diaper pail - are not being done consistently. Is there a reason?"

And let her answer. If she says she'll do better you say great and you reiterate how wonderful she is overall and move on. If she pushes back then you need to make clear that these are all the responsibilities she signed up for in accepting the position and having these things done is one of the main reasons you've chosen to go with a nanny and not daycare. They're not negotiable in the job description.

Then you address the second item. "There's one other thing I want to talk about, which is having cell phones near Michael. I do not want you using your cell phone when he is awake, when you're tucking him in or holding him, etc... If you need to use your phone for personal use you can do that while he's napping or in your breaks. Ok?"

Period.

You get to have non-negotiables OP. Performing the basic functions of the job she accepted and following your directions re care of the child are perfectly appropriate non-negotiables.

Perhaps she's very young and you need to teach her, or perhaps she's lazy, or perhaps she doesn't respect your authority. You need to figure out why she isn't doing the job or following your requests and see then if there's a future with her.

At the hourly rate you're paying, for one child, you can find other nannies very easily. None of your expectations are unreasonable. If you find yourself bending over backwards to put up with someone, or routinely doing the things you specifically hired someone to do, then something is wrong.

Good luck.