1) You and your husband need to get on the same page - a handbook, maybe?

2) THEN - re-articulate your expectations to the AP and see how it goes.

These are the things that your LCC will likely ask you about before supporting a re-match (not as if she would force you to stay with your current AP, but if you want her support, she will want to know that you "worked with" your AP before giving up on her.)

Anonymous wrote:... I just can’t get past the fact that she put your kids in front of the TV while she went to take a shower ... I’ve been a host mom for almost 5 years, I can’t even fathom what my response would’ve been :/.

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This!

... I just can’t get past the fact that she put your kids in front of the TV while she went to take a shower ... I’ve been a host mom for almost 5 years, I can’t even fathom what my response would’ve been :/.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t have an au pair problem you have a husband problem.

No you have an au pair problem. She does the bare minimum, dismisses herself, ignores you and is a bad personality match? Not even a question. Rematch. This situation seems like it's only going to get worse.

+1. You need an au pair that doesn't try to take advantage of your husband's desire to be a flexible and accommodating host.

+1000

Yup, exactly. How do you know she isn't doing things with the kids she isn't supposed to be doing? trust would be gone. Stop paying so much money and sharing your living space with "glorified uber service"

My prior AP was not doing what yours is, but unacceptable in different ways. We hung on because she was decent with the kids and we didn't feel like dealing with rematch. Our AP now is freakin' amazing and we will never just settle again.