Anonymous wrote:Op you sound like a nightmare

- former au pair who worked over 5 years for the same family

Anonymous wrote:Op you sound like a nightmare

- former au pair who worked over 5 years for the same family

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Anonymous wrote:We are able to give our APs a bunch of extra time off. My new policy though, is that they accrue the days for after they've taken vacation. We once gave an AP over three weeks of vacay and she was saving her true CCAP vacation days for a a trip home .... and you guessed it, rematch.
In this case she hasn't firmed her plans yet with her family. Say you need to have a meeting to work out the calendar and have the numbers 1-14 written on a piece of paper.
As again if she is available to travel with you or if she wants to use that as vacation to be with her family. Her family could come after your trip -- I'd be really uncomfortable with them in my home without me. There's no reason APs family can't arrive Jan 3, and they don't have tickets yet.

There is a reason they can’t arrive Jan 3 - her mother works at a school and can only take off school breaks. We are going to tell her they can’t stay here, but probably won’t count it as vacation.

Anonymous wrote:We are able to give our APs a bunch of extra time off. My new policy though, is that they accrue the days for after they've taken vacation. We once gave an AP over three weeks of vacay and she was saving her true CCAP vacation days for a a trip home .... and you guessed it, rematch.
In this case she hasn't firmed her plans yet with her family. Say you need to have a meeting to work out the calendar and have the numbers 1-14 written on a piece of paper.
As again if she is available to travel with you or if she wants to use that as vacation to be with her family. Her family could come after your trip -- I'd be really uncomfortable with them in my home without me. There's no reason APs family can't arrive Jan 3, and they don't have tickets yet.

Anonymous wrote:Our ap has been here @1 month and it’s not been a great start. Early on she mentioned that her parents may come to visit over Christmas. I said ok, we will likely be traveling to see family then but she doesn’t have to come. I asked her to confirm as soon as she could because I need to buy plane tickets. I finally asked her again today and she said yes, they are coming but she isn’t sure of the dates, and they asked if they can stay at our home while they are here. We will be away Dec 23-Jan 3 or so, and I think they’ll be here during some but not all of that time. Do I count this as her vacation? Is it weird for our ap to not be with her host family for the holidays?

Anonymous wrote:You don’t know anything about my kids or our family, so I don’t really need that type of comment. Yes, my kids are easy.
My oldest asked her if she could use her iPad to FaceTime me, despite a no screens rule during the week, and au pair didn’t say no, even though she knows the rules. Then the next day she said she didn’t know what to say when dd asked her. I said to tell her no and remind her of the rule. If she’d done that my dd would’ve listened. She is testing some boundaries but is not difficult in other ways.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t know anything about my kids or our family, so I don’t really need that type of comment. Yes, my kids are easy.
My oldest asked her if she could use her iPad to FaceTime me, despite a no screens rule during the week, and au pair didn’t say no, even though she knows the rules. Then the next day she said she didn’t know what to say when dd asked her. I said to tell her no and remind her of the rule. If she’d done that my dd would’ve listened. She is testing some boundaries but is not difficult in other ways.

Your child knew the rule. She broke the rule. That is your child's fault, not the au pair and you should punish your child. You need to parent your kid. Put away teh iPad so its not even an issue. That is not an easy child. That is a manipulating child.

wow, NP here, do you have any kid? so your kid always follow the rules? they never test your boundaries? Your comment is ridiculous.
People say here all the time not to settle for a not stellar AP, now that OP want to do that, people go crazy.

OP, do what you need to do. If you plan to rematch you should refuse that her family stays at your place, you dont want her to be in rematch and looking for a place for her parent at the same time. I also think that you should rematch as soon as possible to be fair, not plan it around your schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t know anything about my kids or our family, so I don’t really need that type of comment. Yes, my kids are easy.
My oldest asked her if she could use her iPad to FaceTime me, despite a no screens rule during the week, and au pair didn’t say no, even though she knows the rules. Then the next day she said she didn’t know what to say when dd asked her. I said to tell her no and remind her of the rule. If she’d done that my dd would’ve listened. She is testing some boundaries but is not difficult in other ways.

Your child knew the rule. She broke the rule. That is your child's fault, not the au pair and you should punish your child. You need to parent your kid. Put away teh iPad so its not even an issue. That is not an easy child. That is a manipulating child.

Anonymous wrote:You don’t know anything about my kids or our family, so I don’t really need that type of comment. Yes, my kids are easy.
My oldest asked her if she could use her iPad to FaceTime me, despite a no screens rule during the week, and au pair didn’t say no, even though she knows the rules. Then the next day she said she didn’t know what to say when dd asked her. I said to tell her no and remind her of the rule. If she’d done that my dd would’ve listened. She is testing some boundaries but is not difficult in other ways.

Anonymous wrote:She’s doing the job, but not well. She doesn’t take any initiative and cannot seem to have any authority over my relatively easy kids. It’s not great, but I’m not sure it qualifies for a rematch, and again, she seems to be perfectly happy (of course she has a lot of perks and a fairly easy gig).