Honest to God, I have no clue why this is so vehemently debated. You hire a nanny to care for your child - basically entrust your child’s life to her care - and then believe the nanny means nothing to the child. Plus, it takes nothing to have the kids see the nanny every week, then every two weeks, then once a month to keep the trust of the kids. Or have the nanny babysit on weekends or nights. This is such an easy and natural solution to this issue.

I love our nanny as do my kids and would be shocked if she wanted to drop out completely and I would never ever command her to.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a job. The job ended. If you worked at the Gap for two years and then left to work at Ann Taylor, Gap would be a job reference but you wouldn't go back to visit at the Gap.

No where even close to being comparable. The Gap job doesn’t involve innocent young children who depended on the OP and were encouraged to bond with and love her. Relationships with children involve more than just a job.

Loving and bonding is for parents and families, not paid caregivers. They are not her kids. The kids will not remember her in a few years. It not going to be dramatic or a big deal if they have involved parents. She's the one having the issue.

Again, from a child psychological standpoint, I completely disagree. Of course the bond between parent and child is fundamental but it doesn’t preclude your child bonding and loving a nanny. If the child is under five, she won’t actively remember hr nanny but she will carry an inherent memory of being suddenly abandoned by the person who cared for and protected her - the person her parents trusted to care for her when they were away. It’s a powerful loss to a child.
I don’t know if OP had that kind of a bond with her charges since she was part-time but a full time nanny who has cared for a child since birth to two or three is a powerful bond that should be respected and handled very carefully.

This is utter bullsh*t. Shame on you

Oh, stop the high drama and look it up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a job. The job ended. If you worked at the Gap for two years and then left to work at Ann Taylor, Gap would be a job reference but you wouldn't go back to visit at the Gap.

No where even close to being comparable. The Gap job doesn’t involve innocent young children who depended on the OP and were encouraged to bond with and love her. Relationships with children involve more than just a job.

Loving and bonding is for parents and families, not paid caregivers. They are not her kids. The kids will not remember her in a few years. It not going to be dramatic or a big deal if they have involved parents. She's the one having the issue.

Again, from a child psychological standpoint, I completely disagree. Of course the bond between parent and child is fundamental but it doesn’t preclude your child bonding and loving a nanny. If the child is under five, she won’t actively remember hr nanny but she will carry an inherent memory of being suddenly abandoned by the person who cared for and protected her - the person her parents trusted to care for her when they were away. It’s a powerful loss to a child.
I don’t know if OP had that kind of a bond with her charges since she was part-time but a full time nanny who has cared for a child since birth to two or three is a powerful bond that should be respected and handled very carefully.

This is utter bullsh*t. Shame on you

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a job. The job ended. If you worked at the Gap for two years and then left to work at Ann Taylor, Gap would be a job reference but you wouldn't go back to visit at the Gap.

No where even close to being comparable. The Gap job doesn’t involve innocent young children who depended on the OP and were encouraged to bond with and love her. Relationships with children involve more than just a job.

Loving and bonding is for parents and families, not paid caregivers. They are not her kids. The kids will not remember her in a few years. It not going to be dramatic or a big deal if they have involved parents. She's the one having the issue.

Again, from a child psychological standpoint, I completely disagree. Of course the bond between parent and child is fundamental but it doesn’t preclude your child bonding and loving a nanny. If the child is under five, she won’t actively remember hr nanny but she will carry an inherent memory of being suddenly abandoned by the person who cared for and protected her - the person her parents trusted to care for her when they were away. It’s a powerful loss to a child.
I don’t know if OP had that kind of a bond with her charges since she was part-time but a full time nanny who has cared for a child since birth to two or three is a powerful bond that should be respected and handled very carefully.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a job. The job ended. If you worked at the Gap for two years and then left to work at Ann Taylor, Gap would be a job reference but you wouldn't go back to visit at the Gap.

No where even close to being comparable. The Gap job doesn’t involve innocent young children who depended on the OP and were encouraged to bond with and love her. Relationships with children involve more than just a job.

Loving and bonding is for parents and families, not paid caregivers. They are not her kids. The kids will not remember her in a few years. It not going to be dramatic or a big deal if they have involved parents. She's the one having the issue.

So weird I still have a bond with my caregivers from when I was a child. I will write them an email today and let them know bonds are reserved for families only, thank you for letting me know. I’m a former nanny, and a mom now. I still have a bond and a relationship with the family. I was their nanny for 4 years and I left the family 3 years ago. We still talk and see each other. They are apart of my family and I am apart of theirs. As a mom, I want my children to bond with other people other than family. Is having too many people loving you a bad thing?

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a job. The job ended. If you worked at the Gap for two years and then left to work at Ann Taylor, Gap would be a job reference but you wouldn't go back to visit at the Gap.

No where even close to being comparable. The Gap job doesn’t involve innocent young children who depended on the OP and were encouraged to bond with and love her. Relationships with children involve more than just a job.

Loving and bonding is for parents and families, not paid caregivers. They are not her kids. The kids will not remember her in a few years. It not going to be dramatic or a big deal if they have involved parents. She's the one having the issue.

So weird I still have a bond with my caregivers from when I was a child. I will write them an email today and let them know bonds are reserved for families only, thank you for letting me know. I’m a former nanny, and a mom now. I still have a bond and a relationship with the family. I was their nanny for 4 years and I left the family 3 years ago. We still talk and see each other. They are apart of my family and I am apart of theirs. As a mom, I want my children to bond with other people other than family. Is having too many people loving you a bad thing?