Anonymous wrote:I see a nanny who lives near me bring her charge to her home often. I’m sure there are many nannies who do that. I wouldn’t like it as an mb because you don’t know who lives next door or even family members.

I am a nanny and I have never (nor would ever) bring my charge to my home and shave never known another nanny who ever mentioned doing so.

I do wonder if it’s a cultural thing with foreign born nannies.

I see a nanny who lives near me bring her charge to her home often. I’m sure there are many nannies who do that. I wouldn’t like it as an mb because you don’t know who lives next door or even family members.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, a professional career nanny would absolutely be the person you’re envisioning. I’m not sure what you pay or how you found her, but you got a dud. I would start thinking hard about your interview process and what could have gone wrong. Consider using a reputable agency, many career nannies only use agencies because we don’t care to waste our time with mediocre families. Someone who pays less generally gets less, but sometimes that’s not the issue.

Laundry is a given, unless you’re in a household with a full staff. Prioritizing your child and creating a schedule is absolutely part of nanny’s role. I can understand stopping by the nanny’s home – I’ve had two families whose children thoroughly enjoyed that. But their schedule was ALWAYS priority! You can do better, OP, assuming you pay well. [/quote]

Laundry is not a given! Nor is prepping adult dinner, cleaning up ANYTHING for an adult.[/quote]

Who said anything about tending to adults? I have never had a full time family that I have not done the children's laundry. With naps, quiet time, or school there is absolutely time for me to do laundry as well as meal prep and plan activities for the kids (and look at dcum while eating!). I don’t mind prepping family meals if children are in school and there is plenty of time. Laundry has never taken any time from the children and allows the parents to have more quality time as a family, which is a priority for me, and should be for all nannies! [/quote]


I don’t disagree with the majority of your post however making sure parents have quality time with their children is absolutely NOT my priority. I do anything and everything for the child but would never prep the parents meals or do their laundry! I do not clean up after adults. My employers made it clear that if they leave so much as a coffee cup in the sink they expect it to be in the sink when they come home. As it should be.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, a professional career nanny would absolutely be the person you’re envisioning. I’m not sure what you pay or how you found her, but you got a dud. I would start thinking hard about your interview process and what could have gone wrong. Consider using a reputable agency, many career nannies only use agencies because we don’t care to waste our time with mediocre families. Someone who pays less generally gets less, but sometimes that’s not the issue.

Laundry is a given, unless you’re in a household with a full staff. Prioritizing your child and creating a schedule is absolutely part of nanny’s role. I can understand stopping by the nanny’s home – I’ve had two families whose children thoroughly enjoyed that. But their schedule was ALWAYS priority! You can do better, OP, assuming you pay well. [/quote]

Laundry is not a given! Nor is prepping adult dinner, cleaning up ANYTHING for an adult.[/quote]

Who said anything about tending to adults? I have never had a full time family that I have not done the children's laundry. With naps, quiet time, or school there is absolutely time for me to do laundry as well as meal prep and plan activities for the kids (and look at dcum while eating!). I don’t mind prepping family meals if children are in school and there is plenty of time. Laundry has never taken any time from the children and allows the parents to have more quality time as a family, which is a priority for me, and should be for all nannies!

I’m a nanny and do think the child’s laundry and the child’s food prep is a part of my job. But the most important part is teaching and engaging the child. I’ve worked for high profile families with chefs and housekeepers and still did my charge’s laundry (in a separate laundry from the parents’).

My main objection to OP’s nanny is the visits to her own home. That is unprofessional and simply wrong in my book.

[quote=Anonymous]OP, a professional career nanny would absolutely be the person you’re envisioning. I’m not sure what you pay or how you found her, but you got a dud. I would start thinking hard about your interview process and what could have gone wrong. Consider using a reputable agency, many career nannies only use agencies because we don’t care to waste our time with mediocre families. Someone who pays less generally gets less, but sometimes that’s not the issue.

Laundry is a given, unless you’re in a household with a full staff. Prioritizing your child and creating a schedule is absolutely part of nanny’s role. I can understand stopping by the nanny’s home – I’ve had two families whose children thoroughly enjoyed that. But their schedule was ALWAYS priority! You can do better, OP, assuming you pay well. [/quote]

Laundry is not a given! Nor is prepping adult dinner, cleaning up ANYTHING for an adult.

Anonymous wrote:^^ Excellent point PP.

OP - - Are you paying your Nanny a competitive + fair, living wage for all she does?
If so, then like another poster stated, you got a dud.

I have been a Nanny since ‘07 and I have never had to do anything but watch the children I was hired to watch.
Of course, I wash any dishes used during my stay plus I make sure all the toys, books, etc. are straightened up & organized before the parents arrive home.

Yet I have never been assigned any “chores” such as children’s washing/drying/folding/putting away ever.
I like to enjoy every second w/my charges.
Teaching them, educating them as well as entertaining them and fulfilling all of their needs - both physical and emotional.

I would just hate if I had to be distracted by knowing I had a load of laundry to fold + put away.

It sounds like you are trying to stretch your dollar as far as you can.
Because 50% of your complaint seems like you are upset that YOU had to do his laundry.

A Nanny is just that.
Not a maid, laundress or chef.

WOW! You hit the nail straight on the head!

^^ Excellent point PP.

OP - - Are you paying your Nanny a competitive + fair, living wage for all she does?
If so, then like another poster stated, you got a dud.

I have been a Nanny since ‘07 and I have never had to do anything but watch the children I was hired to watch.
Of course, I wash any dishes used during my stay plus I make sure all the toys, books, etc. are straightened up & organized before the parents arrive home.

Yet I have never been assigned any “chores” such as children’s washing/drying/folding/putting away ever.
I like to enjoy every second w/my charges.
Teaching them, educating them as well as entertaining them and fulfilling all of their needs - both physical and emotional.

I would just hate if I had to be distracted by knowing I had a load of laundry to fold + put away.

It sounds like you are trying to stretch your dollar as far as you can.
Because 50% of your complaint seems like you are upset that YOU had to do his laundry.

A Nanny is just that.
Not a maid, laundress or chef.

OP, a professional career nanny would absolutely be the person you’re envisioning. I’m not sure what you pay or how you found her, but you got a dud. I would start thinking hard about your interview process and what could have gone wrong. Consider using a reputable agency, many career nannies only use agencies because we don’t care to waste our time with mediocre families. Someone who pays less generally gets less, but sometimes that’s not the issue.

Laundry is a given, unless you’re in a household with a full staff. Prioritizing your child and creating a schedule is absolutely part of nanny’s role. I can understand stopping by the nanny’s home – I’ve had two families whose children thoroughly enjoyed that. But their schedule was ALWAYS priority! You can do better, OP, assuming you pay well.