Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Dear Au Pairs and Host Families,

We are deeply saddened to inform you about a Colombian au pair and host father in New Jersey whose lives were lost this weekend in a tragic event. Our hearts are broken, and our thoughts are with the natural family, host family and all of our AuPairCare family.

AuPairCare is working with authorities to provide support for the ongoing investigation. We are providing grief counseling and additional support services for the families in the days to come. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to your Area Director with any questions or concerns.

Sincerely,

OMG I googled and found this:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7321129/Boyfriend-murdered-au-pair-charged-stabbed-death-New-Jersey-street.html

I am still the OP, I am at lost for words, very sad, about to call it a day and go home.

You left work over this? You really need to stay away from the news

Insensitive much! I guess this is normal and happens everyday around you!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So so sad! And really scary! This is probably the elephant in the room, how do you get to a stage where AP is empowered to give key to boyfriend? I just had to ask.

Never. And this is why I would never allow overnight guests. But everyone has their own comfort zone, I guess.

Allowing overnight guests or not doesn't stop someone from having a key made and giving it to someone. Think.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Dear Au Pairs and Host Families,

We are deeply saddened to inform you about a Colombian au pair and host father in New Jersey whose lives were lost this weekend in a tragic event. Our hearts are broken, and our thoughts are with the natural family, host family and all of our AuPairCare family.

AuPairCare is working with authorities to provide support for the ongoing investigation. We are providing grief counseling and additional support services for the families in the days to come. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to your Area Director with any questions or concerns.

Sincerely,

OMG I googled and found this:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7321129/Boyfriend-murdered-au-pair-charged-stabbed-death-New-Jersey-street.html

I am still the OP, I am at lost for words, very sad, about to call it a day and go home.

You left work over this? You really need to stay away from the news

This is my agency, too, and I asked my LCC about this terrible story - I cried when I first read the story in the NYT, and again when I told my husband what I had read.

The agency is not telling the story to new APs (our most recent AP arrived about 2 weeks after this happened) but I know that they are emphasizing the importance of staying in public places when meeting someone new and not inviting people to your HF's home.

As a HF, we have been lucky (or maybe it's subconscious) but none of our 3 APs have wanted to seek a boyfriend while here. We have been clear with new AP that we want to know about any friends she would invite to our even in front of our home before doing so, and giving anyone a key is OUT OF THE QUESTION. It's not my job to be generous in every way. Boundaries are important.

I can't imagine being this APs family in Colombia or an AP-friend of hers here in the US. Beyond sad, especially for the rest of the host family!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So so sad! And really scary! This is probably the elephant in the room, how do you get to a stage where AP is empowered to give key to boyfriend? I just had to ask.

Never. And this is why I would never allow overnight guests. But everyone has their own comfort zone, I guess.

Totally agree with, take your business out of my house!

The girl was murdered. Pull yourself together.

You just don’t know these people.