For about a month when DS was 2, we went through a stressful time. Work was crazy for both of us, my dad was having some health problems, and DHS mom was in and out of the hospital for some complications related to surgery. There were times we forgot to empty/load the dishwasher and I'll admit there was a time or two I forgot I had started a laundry and left clothes in the dryer.

But we always told DS ' nanny (who knew the family situation we were dealing with) "sorry. The dishwasher and sink are full. Just leave the dishes from today in the sink and we will run it later" or "I'm sorry. I forgot I was doing laundry last night so the dryer is full. Just skip DS' laundry, I'll throw it in later".

A couple of times she did the laundry/dishes anyways which was a huge help. And we gave her a thank you gift later. And then it never happened again. I think addressing it with her, her knowing our minds were on anything but household stuff, and making sure it never happened again ensured there were no hard feelings. She was with us for another 4 years, so she must have been happy

Anonymous wrote:If you are just willing to do the absolute minimum you are not a professional nanny and a babysitter. This is their home. If they get home late, have to make dinner, shower the kids, homework, and their stuff, they may run out of time or are tired and its ok to leave it a day. Its absurd to expect the house always spotless and dishwasher unloaded every night.

No. You hire a housekeeper. A professional nanny provides care for your children. A housekeeper cleans your house. It’s absurd to pay someone to take care of your kids, then demand they do housework without discussing it first and compensating then for the extra work.

If you are just willing to do the absolute minimum you are not a professional nanny and a babysitter. This is their home. If they get home late, have to make dinner, shower the kids, homework, and their stuff, they may run out of time or are tired and its ok to leave it a day. Its absurd to expect the house always spotless and dishwasher unloaded every night.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

The PP poster sounds exactly like a professional nanny. Also mature and broad thinking. If you work for a sucky family and resent every little extra you need to find a better family. However like myself and the PP if you have an employer who treats you well (in any field!!!) you will be motivated to go the extra mile because they go the extra mile. I am very well paid. I have been a nanny for over 20 years. The family I work for will come up to bat for me anytime I ask them and I will do the same. Complaining about emptying a dishwasher is very nit picky. It's kind of like the family that docks you a half hour if you are five minutes late. I don't work for those kinds of people.

This right here proves you are lying. You have no idea what a professional sounds like.

Did you even bother to read my entire post? Doesn't sound like it. If you have a problem unloading the dishwasher then you probably resent your employers for other reasons as well. You need to address the big picture. Again, if you trust your employer and they treat you well unloading a dishwasher would not be a big deal. That's all I'm saying.

I read it and can’t relate to someone who thought that other poster was a professional nanny. I don’t resent my employers bc I’m not asked to do anything outside of my job. Just like families interview me carefully, I interview them as well. An employer who is asking you to go outside your job duties is not treating you well. An employer who respects you would never put you in that position.

Let me put it to you this way. I have a certain amount of PTO outlined in my contract. I use it sparingly and respectfully. So sometimes when I need a morning or even a whole day off my employers work with me and don't actually count it against my accrued leave. Sometimes and not very often MB is running late past the time I'm scheduled to leave. I let it go and don't ask for extra compensation. Sometimes I unload the dishwasher which might give MB an extra ten minutes to spend with her kids at the end of her workday. Every time my employers go on vacation at their choosing they pay me even though I am not working. Again that's guaranteed hours and in my contract but at least I effing appreciate it. Wake up and look at the big picture here.

Look, your big picture is not my big picture. Your experience is not my experience. Your level of professionalism isn’t mine. I can’t relate to you bc I work with very respectful and professional families. I appreciate that I’m employed by professional families who treat me well and are respectful. You can bend over backwards for your employers but I don’t have too. My contract is very clear and they respect the contract. You need to wake up and realize you don’t speak for every nanny and just because you have to bend over backwards doesn’t mean every nanny has too. You require a lot more than me though.

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Anonymous wrote:Employer here...emptying the dishwasher is in our contract. Family laundry as well. We pay well and provide benefits. Our nanny is college educated and been with us for years.

How many kids?
Hours?
Pay?

2 kids school aged
35 hours a week
$27 an hour on the books

You’re paying her to be a housekeeper.

+1. She is a housekeeper. But if it’s in her contract and all parties agreed to it, it’s fine. Our housekeeper babysits in the afternoons too.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

The PP poster sounds exactly like a professional nanny. Also mature and broad thinking. If you work for a sucky family and resent every little extra you need to find a better family. However like myself and the PP if you have an employer who treats you well (in any field!!!) you will be motivated to go the extra mile because they go the extra mile. I am very well paid. I have been a nanny for over 20 years. The family I work for will come up to bat for me anytime I ask them and I will do the same. Complaining about emptying a dishwasher is very nit picky. It's kind of like the family that docks you a half hour if you are five minutes late. I don't work for those kinds of people.

This right here proves you are lying. You have no idea what a professional sounds like.

Did you even bother to read my entire post? Doesn't sound like it. If you have a problem unloading the dishwasher then you probably resent your employers for other reasons as well. You need to address the big picture. Again, if you trust your employer and they treat you well unloading a dishwasher would not be a big deal. That's all I'm saying.

I read it and can’t relate to someone who thought that other poster was a professional nanny. I don’t resent my employers bc I’m not asked to do anything outside of my job. Just like families interview me carefully, I interview them as well. An employer who is asking you to go outside your job duties is not treating you well. An employer who respects you would never put you in that position.

Let me put it to you this way. I have a certain amount of PTO outlined in my contract. I use it sparingly and respectfully. So sometimes when I need a morning or even a whole day off my employers work with me and don't actually count it against my accrued leave. Sometimes and not very often MB is running late past the time I'm scheduled to leave. I let it go and don't ask for extra compensation. Sometimes I unload the dishwasher which might give MB an extra ten minutes to spend with her kids at the end of her workday. Every time my employers go on vacation at their choosing they pay me even though I am not working. Again that's guaranteed hours and in my contract but at least I effing appreciate it. Wake up and look at the big picture here.

It does not take 5 minutes as one has to dry the things not yet dried from the dishwasher and wash by hand the things that did not get cleaned properly as employers allow the food to get dried and crusty and stuck on their dishes before putting them in dishwasher.

I do like and respect my employers and they are fair for the most part, however experience has taught me that no matter how 'nice' employers are, we as humans tend to get used to things and will take them for granted. So it will start with emptying dishwasher, then it will become expected and then lead to other things that become part of your responsibility as well.

My solution is to simply take care of the kids things by hand. Occasionally I will empty the dishwasher or do something non kid related - for example, if one of my employers is sick or its a particularly rough or stressful work period. It cannot become the norm as I know where that leads.

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Anonymous wrote:Employer here...emptying the dishwasher is in our contract. Family laundry as well. We pay well and provide benefits. Our nanny is college educated and been with us for years.

How many kids?
Hours?
Pay?

2 kids school aged
35 hours a week
$27 an hour on the books

You’re paying her to be a housekeeper.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

The PP poster sounds exactly like a professional nanny. Also mature and broad thinking. If you work for a sucky family and resent every little extra you need to find a better family. However like myself and the PP if you have an employer who treats you well (in any field!!!) you will be motivated to go the extra mile because they go the extra mile. I am very well paid. I have been a nanny for over 20 years. The family I work for will come up to bat for me anytime I ask them and I will do the same. Complaining about emptying a dishwasher is very nit picky. It's kind of like the family that docks you a half hour if you are five minutes late. I don't work for those kinds of people.

This right here proves you are lying. You have no idea what a professional sounds like.

Did you even bother to read my entire post? Doesn't sound like it. If you have a problem unloading the dishwasher then you probably resent your employers for other reasons as well. You need to address the big picture. Again, if you trust your employer and they treat you well unloading a dishwasher would not be a big deal. That's all I'm saying.

I read it and can’t relate to someone who thought that other poster was a professional nanny. I don’t resent my employers bc I’m not asked to do anything outside of my job. Just like families interview me carefully, I interview them as well. An employer who is asking you to go outside your job duties is not treating you well. An employer who respects you would never put you in that position.

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Anonymous wrote:Employer here...emptying the dishwasher is in our contract. Family laundry as well. We pay well and provide benefits. Our nanny is college educated and been with us for years.

How many kids?
Hours?
Pay?

2 kids school aged
35 hours a week
$27 an hour on the books

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

The PP poster sounds exactly like a professional nanny. Also mature and broad thinking. If you work for a sucky family and resent every little extra you need to find a better family. However like myself and the PP if you have an employer who treats you well (in any field!!!) you will be motivated to go the extra mile because they go the extra mile. I am very well paid. I have been a nanny for over 20 years. The family I work for will come up to bat for me anytime I ask them and I will do the same. Complaining about emptying a dishwasher is very nit picky. It's kind of like the family that docks you a half hour if you are five minutes late. I don't work for those kinds of people.

This right here proves you are lying. You have no idea what a professional sounds like.

Did you even bother to read my entire post? Doesn't sound like it. If you have a problem unloading the dishwasher then you probably resent your employers for other reasons as well. You need to address the big picture. Again, if you trust your employer and they treat you well unloading a dishwasher would not be a big deal. That's all I'm saying.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You again? With your bad grammar and use of “lol”, you are recognizable.

I am a nanny and former teacher. Caring for and teaching my charges is my job; washing only their clothes, linens and towels is my job; making all their healthful meals homemade and from scratch is my job; reading to them and taking them to the library is my job; doing art projects and science experiments with my charges is my job; teaching my charges French is my job as well as teaching them an extensive English vocabulary is my job; play imaginative games and dancing with them is my job. Cleaning up after adults (unloading their dishes) is NOT my job nor would my employers ever expect it to be. I am their children’s nanny - not theirs.

THIS! “I am their children’s nanny - not theirs”. Any and every “extra” I do, I do for my charges.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You are neither a well paid nanny or professional nanny. You have to take what you can get and are worried about losing your job. If you were better and had better offers you could relate to other nannies. Thank you for taking the crappy jobs so they don’t waste their time contacting good nannies.

The PP poster sounds exactly like a professional nanny. Also mature and broad thinking. If you work for a sucky family and resent every little extra you need to find a better family. However like myself and the PP if you have an employer who treats you well (in any field!!!) you will be motivated to go the extra mile because they go the extra mile. I am very well paid. I have been a nanny for over 20 years. The family I work for will come up to bat for me anytime I ask them and I will do the same. Complaining about emptying a dishwasher is very nit picky. It's kind of like the family that docks you a half hour if you are five minutes late. I don't work for those kinds of people.

This right here proves you are lying. You have no idea what a professional sounds like.

Anonymous wrote:I mean really?!?!?!
Look at the whole picture.
Is the family great? Are they paying good? Do you get benefits? If it’s a really great family good pay good benefits vacation time
Do you really care about putting that extra dish into the dishwasher?
It’s so hard to find great families
And sorry but unloading the dishwasher should be a Nanny’s job, and I’ve been doing this since day one. So if you run the dishwasher with 10 kids dishes and 20 parents, you only empty the 10 kids dishes? You guys are ridiculous!
It takes 5 min to unload the fish washer
Lol I’d like to see my boss face when I leave their dishes in
Yes leaving dirty dishes for you to wash is definitely not fair, the only way to overcome is to ask them nicely to put them away themselves, if you won’t ask, they won’t do it and you’ll resent them very fast and there goes your job

You again? With your bad grammar and use of “lol”, you are recognizable.

I am a nanny and former teacher. Caring for and teaching my charges is my job; washing only their clothes, linens and towels is my job; making all their healthful meals homemade and from scratch is my job; reading to them and taking them to the library is my job; doing art projects and science experiments with my charges is my job; teaching my charges French is my job as well as teaching them an extensive English vocabulary is my job; play imaginative games and dancing with them is my job. Cleaning up after adults (unloading their dishes) is NOT my job nor would my employers ever expect it to be. I am their children’s nanny - not theirs.

It’s job creep. It doesn’t matter which nannies do and which don’t - if it’s not part of your responsibilities listed in your contract, it is not right.