I’m the one who you guys are attacking about me saying you can’t love an older child....
I’m in shock by your responses!
Both my last jobs I started with 2 year olds and a newborn being born months later or already born.
Both 2 year old loved me a lot and I loved them back a lot within weeks. We spent so much fun times together, and no matter what 2/3 year old, they come with the same issues regardless because it’s the age.
By laziness I mean get up and teach them manners and values, that’s what our job is and that’s what great nannies do. The kid will rub across the street regardless if you had him from the time he was born or later, you have to teach them to not run and use time out and punishments.
You have to show them you’re the boss and not them, and kids learn very fast if you consistently say no and follow through. I don’t want to attack anybody, but for the OP, my opinion is that of the nanny said she only works with newborns, GOOD riddance! She’s obviously lazy because she doesn’t want to deal with crankiness and tantrums of a 2/3 year old lol! That newborn baby will be cranky too in 2 years! And that newborn doesn’t know any rules either!
Find a nanny that actually loves kids and understands them being cranky.

Anonymous wrote:...all kids experience behavior issues from about 20 months and on. This is normal part of development. However, as a nanny, I find that I have to deal with a LOT less behavior/discipline issues with any 2-3 yr old IF I had that child from age 3 months or so, vs child who is in my care from older age. And yes, it is exhausting to have a misbehaving 3 yr old who don't know you, does not listen, and most times comes back from school all wound up and then parents say he cannot take a nap (which you clearly see he still needs badly).
What interests me is this: what do you nannies think is the age at which it is "too late" for the child to start in your care and be ideally bonded/form secure attachment? I had a 12 month old who already had behavior patterns that I found was impossible to undo. So, all my experience makes me think that most of things are already there by age 12 months, or not at all.

I am one who said I would not take a 3yo and a newborn. I personally hate the preschool stage, so I would not take any 3yo, but I would start with a pne or two year old if they were a singleton. But to have an age I love (newborn) and an age I hate (3yo), would be a very bad balance for me.

...all kids experience behavior issues from about 20 months and on. This is normal part of development. However, as a nanny, I find that I have to deal with a LOT less behavior/discipline issues with any 2-3 yr old IF I had that child from age 3 months or so, vs child who is in my care from older age. And yes, it is exhausting to have a misbehaving 3 yr old who don't know you, does not listen, and most times comes back from school all wound up and then parents say he cannot take a nap (which you clearly see he still needs badly).
What interests me is this: what do you nannies think is the age at which it is "too late" for the child to start in your care and be ideally bonded/form secure attachment? I had a 12 month old who already had behavior patterns that I found was impossible to undo. So, all my experience makes me think that most of things are already there by age 12 months, or not at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Yes.

You’re clearly a troll.

She isn’t a troll. Just an undereducated babysitter. She is simply attacking what she can’t understand. I actually pity her.

You can't read very well, can you?

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

You don’t think how someone feels is true? Do you tell your child that them feeling sad isn’t true?

No, what I think is untrue is that it's "natural and prevalent among most nannies" to not be able to love a new three (or four, or eight) year-old child the way you do a newborn. Nor do I think that it's true that it's simply human. PP is entitled to her feelings but to state them as fact, as she has done, is not ok.

Understand that you will never know what is prevalent as no nanny will ever tell you that they don’t love your older child. As a nanny, in my experience and in speaking with other nannies, my statement is true (for me).

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

You don’t think how someone feels is true? Do you tell your child that them feeling sad isn’t true?

No, what I think is untrue is that it's "natural and prevalent among most nannies" to not be able to love a new three (or four, or eight) year-old child the way you do a newborn. Nor do I think that it's true that it's simply human. PP is entitled to her feelings but to state them as fact, as she has done, is not ok.

Well the responses on this thread kind of prove her point. You won’t actually ever know as ppl can hide their feelings. However, not everyone who takes care of your child will love them and that’s something you can’t control.

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

You don’t think how someone feels is true? Do you tell your child that them feeling sad isn’t true?

No, what I think is untrue is that it's "natural and prevalent among most nannies" to not be able to love a new three (or four, or eight) year-old child the way you do a newborn. Nor do I think that it's true that it's simply human. PP is entitled to her feelings but to state them as fact, as she has done, is not ok.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Yes.

You’re clearly a troll.

She isn’t a troll. Just an undereducated babysitter. She is simply attacking what she can’t understand. I actually pity her.

Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Yes.

You’re clearly a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

You don’t think how someone feels is true? Do you tell your child that them feeling sad isn’t true?

Lol I agree, totally not true!!!!
I started new jobs with older children, and the older children loved me and I loved them!
The nice thing was that we bonded very well while baby was sleeping! So get off the laziness and spend quality time with the older child, and you’ll see how fast you bond!

You actually work with children? Speaking the way you do? Look, call it whatever you want but ppl have preferences. I know for a person like you that is a hard concept to grasp. Educate yourself and other people’s opinions won’t cause you such distress.

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Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Great. Then you take OP’s job. I won’t. And if you think newborns are easier than toddlers, you are doing it wrong. Narrative, reading, singing, doing fingerplay and signing is exhausting. And I do it in English and French. It’s so much easier with communicative toddlers.

+1. Those who think newborns/infants are easy haven’t got a clue. Just a bad nanny...

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

You don’t think how someone feels is true? Do you tell your child that them feeling sad isn’t true?

Lol I agree, totally not true!!!!
I started new jobs with older children, and the older children loved me and I loved them!
The nice thing was that we bonded very well while baby was sleeping! So get off the laziness and spend quality time with the older child, and you’ll see how fast you bond!

Your grammar is horrid. “... get off the laziness”? What does that even mean?

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

The PP just wrote that this is how she feels - how can that be untrue? And she wouldn’t be working around older children unless she’d been with them since they were born - that is the point of the entire thread!!

Serious reading comprehension issues here.

Anonymous wrote:Lol lol lol
I’ve been a nanny for over 12 years and started job at the 2 and 3 year olds and with babies or babies being born soon later, and most of the older kids loved me and I fell in love with them! There was a couple interviews where the older kid didn’t like me lol
If you’re a loving nanny and fun, and not a spoiled nanny who just wants to watch tv and play on her phone, then the older children will love you. Might take a few weeks though, it takes time, especially when the child had a nanny before. So I really don’t understand the responses here, all you nanny’s only look for jobs with newborns???

Great. Then you take OP’s job. I won’t. And if you think newborns are easier than toddlers, you are doing it wrong. Narrative, reading, singing, doing fingerplay and signing is exhausting. And I do it in English and French. It’s so much easier with communicative toddlers.

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot love a new three-year-old child the way I love and am devoted to a child I have been with from birth to three. I think this is natural and prevalent among most nannies as it is simply human.

I don't think this is true at all. And I wouldn't ever want someone who felt this way working around children.

You don’t think how someone feels is true? Do you tell your child that them feeling sad isn’t true?

Lol I agree, totally not true!!!!
I started new jobs with older children, and the older children loved me and I loved them!
The nice thing was that we bonded very well while baby was sleeping! So get off the laziness and spend quality time with the older child, and you’ll see how fast you bond!