How many people's employment status is in the hands of your 8 year old? Just the nanny?

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Anonymous wrote:We have had our after school nanny for three years and she has been wonderful. Reliable, helped DS through our divorce, great initiative, incredibly kind and everything you could want in a nanny. She hardly takes any time off but had a day off last week so I put DS into out of school club which I thought he would hate. He didn't, he loved it. So much so that he would rather go there. So,I need to have an awkward conversation with nanny as she wont be needed anymore. Ideas on what to say please?

What else is your entitled boy in charge of?

How is a child being entitled to voice an opinion about his after school care? At that age its very common for kids to want to be with their friends vs. a woman and do the fun group activities. An 8 year old no longer needs a nanny when they are school aged and in school/camps all day. That sounds like at some point its more for the nanny than the child. Very few nanny jobs are more than a few years.

Anonymous wrote:We have had our after school nanny for three years and she has been wonderful. Reliable, helped DS through our divorce, great initiative, incredibly kind and everything you could want in a nanny. She hardly takes any time off but had a day off last week so I put DS into out of school club which I thought he would hate. He didn't, he loved it. So much so that he would rather go there. So,I need to have an awkward conversation with nanny as she wont be needed anymore. Ideas on what to say please?

What else is your entitled boy in charge of?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have had our after school nanny for three years and she has been wonderful. Reliable, helped DS through our divorce, great initiative, incredibly kind and everything you could want in a nanny. She hardly takes any time off but had a day off last week so I put DS into out of school club which I thought he would hate. He didn't, he loved it. So much so that he would rather go there. So,I need to have an awkward conversation with nanny as she wont be needed anymore. Ideas on what to say please?

Next week he might Want to be a flying pig! I would not let a good nanny go on the whim of a 3 year old!

8, not 3.

Anonymous wrote:We have had our after school nanny for three years and she has been wonderful. Reliable, helped DS through our divorce, great initiative, incredibly kind and everything you could want in a nanny. She hardly takes any time off but had a day off last week so I put DS into out of school club which I thought he would hate. He didn't, he loved it. So much so that he would rather go there. So,I need to have an awkward conversation with nanny as she wont be needed anymore. Ideas on what to say please?

Next week he might Want to be a flying pig! I would not let a good nanny go on the whim of a 3 year old!

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Anonymous wrote:I love how your 8yo gets to make his own childcare decisions. Including you having to change your work schedule.

This was my thought exactly. She's just another parent who wants to be "friends" with her kid. Big problems down the road.

I am a nanny and I fully disagree with this. Her son wants a change which will be better for him. His parents have the ability to prioritize his needs, which is great. It sounds like OP has holidays, sick days, and summer taken care of, therefore she doesn’t need to keep the nanny. If you are a nanny, your job will end, it will not last to retirement.

OP, give her notice, so that she can stay on and have some more fun times with him before she leaves. Give one week’s pay per year worked as a minimum, and immediately write a stellar reference letter. That is the best you can do. And obviously be available as a reference to her perspective families.

I'm surprised you were able to make such a decision on the basis of a single day.

I’m surprised you are allowing your child to make this decision which is going to make your own life more difficult. What do you plan to do when he hates aftercare once you fire the nanny?

Anonymous wrote:Wow guys....

Nannies are expensive. It is time for the nanny to move on.

I am a nanny and I agree. However let me point out that we have no clue how the nanny actually feels about this! We are taking OP’s word that she is going to be devastated. She may well be doing the happy dance!

Wow guys....

Nannies are expensive. It is time for the nanny to move on.

OP, can you not sign him up for a sport a couple of times a week and keep the nanny for the rest of the days at least until she finds something else?

Anonymous wrote:I love how your 8yo gets to make his own childcare decisions. Including you having to change your work schedule.

This was my thought exactly. She's just another parent who wants to be "friends" with her kid. Big problems down the road.

Please give her a months pay if she has been with you for 3 years.

I love how your 8yo gets to make his own childcare decisions. Including you having to change your work schedule.

^^ While I can certainly understand your decision,
I find it extremely problematic that on her only day off, it actually causes her to lose her job.

It seems cruel.
Sorry, but it just is.