I do see a red flag here. This is not an outburst that should have taken place in front of an employee. Period. The mother has definite issues and I would be wary.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d look at it from the perspective of the child(ren)’s caregiver. What relationship are they allowed with the grandmother? What will the mother say or do if she experiences jealousy over that relationship? Does the mother have rational or irrational fears about what her mother might do? Can the grandmother be trusted (supervised or alone) with the child(ren)’s mental, emotional and physical wellbeing?

The grandmother?! Can the children be safe with the mother is at issue - OP has no say on if or when the grandmother visits or what kind of relationship the grandmother is going to have on the children.

And to OP: what you witnessed is NOT a good sign of a stable, mature parent and employer. You are right to be concerned.

If OP has been there for 3 weeks, then she should already have seen whether OP is an acceptable parent, and if she isn't, she should have already called CPS.

You are nuts, PP.

No, I’m a nanny who read the OP and doesn’t see a red flag. So, MB has a terrible relationship with her mom. So do I. If my mom sent me flowers, I’d be pissed off too. MB may gave yelled in front of the nanny (not AT the nanny), but the nanny should be adult enough not to get her knickers in a twist that her boss was venting, in her own home, not in the presence of children. If kids were there, it’s a different story. If MB is a piss poor mom and should have had cos called weeks ago, why didn’t the nanny do it already?

It seems to me that MB was just venting. If OP jumps in and says kids were in the room and scared by mom’s outburst, it’s different. If the grandmother wants contact with kids and may try to take them to get around MB’s it wanting to see her, nanny needs to be vigilant. But just going off of the information we have, I don’t see a need to get worked up about this.

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Anonymous wrote:I worked for a similarity “damaged” woman who told me several times that she wished her MIL dead and only tolerated her mother for free weekend babysitting. Our working relationship did not end well.

Bottom line is I would be cautious with any broken person in an authority position as one wrong move (in her mind) and you will be gone. If she is able to call her own mother a piece of s***, what will she call a hired employee?

Keep your distance, OP, and be ready to be fired at any moment.

What on earth do you mean? I don't have a good relationship with my mother and I not only have a nanny but I'm in charge of an entire section at my job. But apparently I'm not fit to do that? You need to get out more.

Are you a “broken person” or have you learned to adjust? Do you scream in front of your employees about your mother being a piece of sh*t?

You need better reading comprehension.

Anonymous wrote:I worked for a similarity “damaged” woman who told me several times that she wished her MIL dead and only tolerated her mother for free weekend babysitting. Our working relationship did not end well.

Bottom line is I would be cautious with any broken person in an authority position as one wrong move (in her mind) and you will be gone. If she is able to call her own mother a piece of s***, what will she call a hired employee?

Keep your distance, OP, and be ready to be fired at any moment.

What on earth do you mean? I don't have a good relationship with my mother and I not only have a nanny but I'm in charge of an entire section at my job. But apparently I'm not fit to do that? You need to get out more.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d look at it from the perspective of the child(ren)’s caregiver. What relationship are they allowed with the grandmother? What will the mother say or do if she experiences jealousy over that relationship? Does the mother have rational or irrational fears about what her mother might do? Can the grandmother be trusted (supervised or alone) with the child(ren)’s mental, emotional and physical wellbeing?

The grandmother?! Can the children be safe with the mother is at issue - OP has no say on if or when the grandmother visits or what kind of relationship the grandmother is going to have on the children.

And to OP: what you witnessed is NOT a good sign of a stable, mature parent and employer. You are right to be concerned.

If OP has been there for 3 weeks, then she should already have seen whether OP is an acceptable parent, and if she isn't, she should have already called CPS.

You are nuts, PP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d look at it from the perspective of the child(ren)’s caregiver. What relationship are they allowed with the grandmother? What will the mother say or do if she experiences jealousy over that relationship? Does the mother have rational or irrational fears about what her mother might do? Can the grandmother be trusted (supervised or alone) with the child(ren)’s mental, emotional and physical wellbeing?

The grandmother?! Can the children be safe with the mother is at issue - OP has no say on if or when the grandmother visits or what kind of relationship the grandmother is going to have on the children.

And to OP: what you witnessed is NOT a good sign of a stable, mature parent and employer. You are right to be concerned.

If OP has been there for 3 weeks, then she should already have seen whether OP is an acceptable parent, and if she isn't, she should have already called CPS.

Anonymous wrote:I’d look at it from the perspective of the child(ren)’s caregiver. What relationship are they allowed with the grandmother? What will the mother say or do if she experiences jealousy over that relationship? Does the mother have rational or irrational fears about what her mother might do? Can the grandmother be trusted (supervised or alone) with the child(ren)’s mental, emotional and physical wellbeing?

The grandmother?! Can the children be safe with the mother is at issue - OP has no say on if or when the grandmother visits or what kind of relationship the grandmother is going to have on the children.

And to OP: what you witnessed is NOT a good sign of a stable, mature parent and employer. You are right to be concerned.