Hey I just quit a job where the mom was screaming all day long at the kids, she was a stay at home mom. Lately the twins they’re 4, started. Teaming for me to give them anything, they wouldn’t ask. If I didn’t give it to them or do whatever they wanted me to do, they would scream “get it get it get it now” for hours
I got so emotionally drained I just let them scream and left the room, after a few minutes I gave them a chance to stop and ask me nicely. I did that a couple times until I would explain to them why they can’t do that. I noticed that at that point they were laughing at me, like they really knew what was going on. If your 2 year old one is smart and more advanced, she knows exact what she’s doing. Best thing is to ignore her and don’t give in. The kids doctor told the mom STOP being your kids slave
There you have it. Doctors order
Eventually kids get it, and they will stop. But if people reward bad behavior, it won’t stop. Like my boss would give them
Ice pops or lollipops candy, anything to stop them from
Crying and screaming. Well guess what? They kept doing it because she was rewarding them for it. Good luck!

It's terrible parenting that they are tolerating the screaming. It's sad to hear that the 2 year old kid can and will scream for hours. I suspect the kid has something emotionally wrong with her if this happens daily.

My first child was demanding, high drama, cried a lot, had tantrums, and screamed while having tantrums. My second child screamed to get what he wanted as a toddler. But it lasted seconds or minutes and happened less than 10 times total the entire toddlerhood. After some back and forth trying to change the behavior, the child adapted/learned.

Don't stay at an emotionally draining job too long. Frankly, I would start looking for a new job. You can try to change her behavior, but it sounds like the parents won't do anything differently on their part. And when you quit, tell them the main reason was the screaming part. Make it hard for them to ignore the issue. It's really up to them to improve the situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Does she have hearing problems?

Not that we're aware of, but that may be something to look into. She responds consistently to her name or when we speak to her in a normal voice, but I'll see if her parents want to look into that.

Does she respond if you speak behind her or only when she can see you?

Another test of her hearing would be: at some point while the child is engrossed in something she is doing, stand behind her and clap. See if she flinches or acts as if she heard you clap.

This isn't a hearing issue. Its a parenting/nanny behavior issue. Clapping doesn't work as a hearing exam is way more and its about different tones and a clap would just be one sound. Very bad advice.

I asked about responses to words, not a single sound. It’s incredibly easy to have a hard-if-hearing child fall through the cracks, as long as they respond to some sounds. A better test, for a caregiver, is talking to the child without calling attention to oneself, especially by standing behind the child. There are no facial or body cues to direct the child’s response.

No, its inappropriate. If you are concerned, you tell the parents to talk to the pediatrician and go for a hearing test. That is not a way to check for hearing.

Most parents are in denial. Unless you can demonstrate the issue (by doing exactly as I suggested and getting no response), it doesn’t exist. They’ll flip over a temp of 100.2, but at the slightest hint of sn, nope, not possible. Ymmv, but that’s my experience.

Give her something to scream about!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she have hearing problems?

Not that we're aware of, but that may be something to look into. She responds consistently to her name or when we speak to her in a normal voice, but I'll see if her parents want to look into that.

Does she respond if you speak behind her or only when she can see you?

Another test of her hearing would be: at some point while the child is engrossed in something she is doing, stand behind her and clap. See if she flinches or acts as if she heard you clap.

This isn't a hearing issue. Its a parenting/nanny behavior issue. Clapping doesn't work as a hearing exam is way more and its about different tones and a clap would just be one sound. Very bad advice.

I asked about responses to words, not a single sound. It’s incredibly easy to have a hard-if-hearing child fall through the cracks, as long as they respond to some sounds. A better test, for a caregiver, is talking to the child without calling attention to oneself, especially by standing behind the child. There are no facial or body cues to direct the child’s response.

No, its inappropriate. If you are concerned, you tell the parents to talk to the pediatrician and go for a hearing test. That is not a way to check for hearing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she have hearing problems?

Not that we're aware of, but that may be something to look into. She responds consistently to her name or when we speak to her in a normal voice, but I'll see if her parents want to look into that.

Does she respond if you speak behind her or only when she can see you?

Another test of her hearing would be: at some point while the child is engrossed in something she is doing, stand behind her and clap. See if she flinches or acts as if she heard you clap.

This isn't a hearing issue. Its a parenting/nanny behavior issue. Clapping doesn't work as a hearing exam is way more and its about different tones and a clap would just be one sound. Very bad advice.

I asked about responses to words, not a single sound. It’s incredibly easy to have a hard-if-hearing child fall through the cracks, as long as they respond to some sounds. A better test, for a caregiver, is talking to the child without calling attention to oneself, especially by standing behind the child. There are no facial or body cues to direct the child’s response.

Ignore her when she screams, other than to tell her, once, that she needs to use her words. When she does use her words, praise her. When she doesn't, ignore her. She'll figure it out.