Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 15:58     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.


No notice? WTF is wrong with you people?!? I see this all the time. Be professional, even if your boss isn’t. Do the right thing in AL aspects of life, regardless of what others do! And don’t lie to get yourself out of a an uncomfortable situation! And PP is supposed to teach children to be good humans??? Wow!

OP, have you previously brought any issues up? What are the issues and how long have you been working for the family? I think those things help us to give you advice. Personally, I like to live my life in a way that I can feel great about the kind of person I am and the values I hold, therefore I think PP’s advice is complete shit! At first, keep it simple and tell them (including in a written letter) that Friday the whatever, will be your last day and that you will miss your charges tremendously and that you’d love to stay in touch and are available for occasional sitting if they are interested. If they press, which they will, your answer, in my opinion, would depend on the issues you’re having and how far you want to delve into that.


This.

Be a professional, especially if you want to be treated like a professional. Live your life accordingly to your morals, not to the lowest common denominator.

If you want to be a doormat, you may. OP should get on with her life and get away from these abusive parents.


Acting with honor and integrity does not make you a doormat. The OP has decided to leave the position, if she stayed and continued to be treated poorly, I would agree with you. A good life lesson for you: You are responsible for your actions, regardless of other people’s actions or words. ALWAYS act with honor, integrity, and grace. If her boss starts screaming at her (I don’t remember if this is the screaming or the non-paying boss), then you GRACEFULLY exit, otherwise you stay through your notice. I promise you, this is good advice for all the situations you will come across in life. Otherwise, you will be the lowest common denominator that we choose to be better than, and those around will see it, even if they don’t tell you.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 16:50     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
Anonymous wrote:With that kind of family you just get your last check/cash owed and you leave and don't return.
I wouldn't give any notice to people who disrespect me.
Good luck OP.

Agree.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 14:03     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
With that kind of family you just get your last check/cash owed and you leave and don't return.
I wouldn't give any notice to people who disrespect me.
Good luck OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 12:32     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
I don't understand why you're scared to quit. Yes, the parents will be upset, since it is an inconvenience to them. But they are unlikely to assault you or lock you in the house. Act like a professional. If you want to give them a reason, the unreliable hours are a reason. "I have determined that I need to be able to count on 40 hours a week. This isn't working out, and my last day will be X." Be prepared to be let go immediately.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 22:10     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
If you can afford to live the next two weeks sans any pay, then yes I would definitely issue this family my walking papers w/a two-week notice.

Because from how you described them to us -
The MomBoss sounds very temperamental.

I remember your previous post.
Am so glad you are leaving & am pleased that you got a brand-new Nanny Family to work for!
Congrats!!

Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 22:09     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.


No notice? WTF is wrong with you people?!? I see this all the time. Be professional, even if your boss isn’t. Do the right thing in AL aspects of life, regardless of what others do! And don’t lie to get yourself out of a an uncomfortable situation! And PP is supposed to teach children to be good humans??? Wow!

OP, have you previously brought any issues up? What are the issues and how long have you been working for the family? I think those things help us to give you advice. Personally, I like to live my life in a way that I can feel great about the kind of person I am and the values I hold, therefore I think PP’s advice is complete shit! At first, keep it simple and tell them (including in a written letter) that Friday the whatever, will be your last day and that you will miss your charges tremendously and that you’d love to stay in touch and are available for occasional sitting if they are interested. If they press, which they will, your answer, in my opinion, would depend on the issues you’re having and how far you want to delve into that.


This.

Be a professional, especially if you want to be treated like a professional. Live your life accordingly to your morals, not to the lowest common denominator.

If you want to be a doormat, you may. OP should get on with her life and get away from these abusive parents.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 21:57     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
Quit. Maybe you can start new job earlier. If not, the two weeks away from these people will help you regain your sanity.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 20:14     Subject: I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.


No notice? WTF is wrong with you people?!? I see this all the time. Be professional, even if your boss isn’t. Do the right thing in AL aspects of life, regardless of what others do! And don’t lie to get yourself out of a an uncomfortable situation! And PP is supposed to teach children to be good humans??? Wow!

OP, have you previously brought any issues up? What are the issues and how long have you been working for the family? I think those things help us to give you advice. Personally, I like to live my life in a way that I can feel great about the kind of person I am and the values I hold, therefore I think PP’s advice is complete shit! At first, keep it simple and tell them (including in a written letter) that Friday the whatever, will be your last day and that you will miss your charges tremendously and that you’d love to stay in touch and are available for occasional sitting if they are interested. If they press, which they will, your answer, in my opinion, would depend on the issues you’re having and how far you want to delve into that.


This.

Be a professional, especially if you want to be treated like a professional. Live your life accordingly to your morals, not to the lowest common denominator.