Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think you misunderstand me. I do understand my place now and it’s a relief. We aren’t friends - I understand that now and will no longer act like friends.

I am fine. I do celebrate Christmas and will happily.

Thanks, everyone!

Why did you think you were anything but an employee to begin with? My nanny is a very valued employee, but an employee nonetheless.

OP here. I thought I was more than an employee because my employer told me she was closer to me than her own mother, hoped I liked her and loved her, and was “one of my closest friends”.

Based on what she said to me and to other people who told me, I thought I was more to her than just an employee.

I get it now. I was clearly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think you misunderstand me. I do understand my place now and it’s a relief. We aren’t friends - I understand that now and will no longer act like friends.

I am fine. I do celebrate Christmas and will happily.

Thanks, everyone!

Why did you think you were anything but an employee to begin with? My nanny is a very valued employee, but an employee nonetheless.

OP here. I thought I was more than an employee because my employer told me she was closer to me than her own mother, hoped I liked her and loved her, and was “one of my closest friends”.

Based on what she said to me and to other people who told me, I thought I was more to her than just an employee.

I get it now. I was clearly wrong.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think you misunderstand me. I do understand my place now and it’s a relief. We aren’t friends - I understand that now and will no longer act like friends.

I am fine. I do celebrate Christmas and will happily.

Thanks, everyone!

Why did you think you were anything but an employee to begin with? My nanny is a very valued employee, but an employee nonetheless.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think you misunderstand me. I do understand my place now and it’s a relief. We aren’t friends - I understand that now and will no longer act like friends.

I am fine. I do celebrate Christmas and will happily.

Thanks, everyone!

Why did you think you were anything but an employee to begin with? My nanny is a very valued employee, but an employee nonetheless.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think you misunderstand me. I do understand my place now and it’s a relief. We aren’t friends - I understand that now and will no longer act like friends.

I am fine. I do celebrate Christmas and will happily.

Thanks, everyone!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I started this thread asking if I should broach the subject with her. I did.

I have already decided to stick it out for awhile. If she fires me - she fires me. I have a cushion and will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked her about it and she said we will discuss it on next Thursday afternoon after a my five day holiday. I asked her if we could discuss it on the phone before that and she said, “No. I just want to enjoy my family”. Remember she and her family don’t celebrate Christmas so it’s just five days off for them.

Okay. Somehow the clarification of where I fall on her scale of who is important to her is pretty clear. Oddly, that makes me feel better. I am just an employee - nothing more. Who cares if your boss is pissed?! Seriously the second she said that, I felt a wave of relief. This is just a boss being pissed - not a friend.

I do love my charge and make great money with full medical and a car. I can handle (and fix) a boss being pissed. I don’t even have to know why!!

Sure you can. That’s why you started this thread.

Anonymous wrote:You did something that pissed her off, she is trying not to lose it and say something she regrets and she doesn’t want to spoil her vacation by dealing with it during her time off, especially since they will likely already be sick or recovering during the break. The fact that they don’t celebrate christmas means nothing! Family time is rare for working families! Have some empathy!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I asked her about it and she said we will discuss it on next Thursday afternoon after a my five day holiday. I asked her if we could discuss it on the phone before that and she said, “No. I just want to enjoy my family”. Remember she and her family don’t celebrate Christmas so it’s just five days off for them.

Okay. Somehow the clarification of where I fall on her scale of who is important to her is pretty clear. Oddly, that makes me feel better. I am just an employee - nothing more. Who cares if your boss is pissed?! Seriously the second she said that, I felt a wave of relief. This is just a boss being pissed - not a friend.

I do love my charge and make great money with full medical and a car. I can handle (and fix) a boss being pissed. I don’t even have to know why!!

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, your employer sucks. She doesn’t understand what it means to be an employer or professional. A good employer handles issues when they arise. They do not let them fester.

As an employee you should never expect to be friends with your boss. You need to view her as your boss and nothing else. That’s how you remain professional.

Based on the information provided I would start looking and applying for another position just in case. Giving the silent treatment like a child and waiting to discuss an issue is a red flag.