Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends how you see it. Is the AP allowed to take the car whenever she's off, anywhere she wants to go? Dedicated au pair car.

Do you have limits on when/where? Then it's a car she can use.

We have a 3rd car but do not advertise it as "hers". We say she can use it for local trips but has to tell us when she's going anywhere other than the usual (i.e. not at the gym, a friends house, starbucks, target, etc.) That way we can say no when she asks to take it to Baltimore for an overnight...just as an example.

Sharing does not equal dedicated, but if you have a third car that you don't drive, you have a dedicated AP car with limits. We had such a car but with limits on distance and DC driving. We reimbursed gas related to the kids' activities but did not pay for her personal gas.

How do you determine personal vs. kids? No judgment: just asking because I couldn’t figure out how to do that as kid is not in school and au pair takes him on trips to park, etc.

Anonymous wrote:We currently have an AP and she uses our second car. We live close to transportation and barely use cars. But she use it to pick up the kids and take them to play. She also uses it for personal errands but usually not too far. She uses the car like 95% of the time. My husband and I also use it randomly (maybe twice a week) to run quick errand when it is available (it is a smaller car, easy to park). We always put gas. AP has to ask to take the car out of town and she need to put gas in that case. Is this still a dedicated AP car? or "dedicated car" means she can do whatever she wants with the car, no question asked and we put gas no question asked? I am asking because I will soon be looking for a new AP and I want to accurately describe the car situation.
Thanks

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends how you see it. Is the AP allowed to take the car whenever she's off, anywhere she wants to go? Dedicated au pair car.

Do you have limits on when/where? Then it's a car she can use.

We have a 3rd car but do not advertise it as "hers". We say she can use it for local trips but has to tell us when she's going anywhere other than the usual (i.e. not at the gym, a friends house, starbucks, target, etc.) That way we can say no when she asks to take it to Baltimore for an overnight...just as an example.

Sharing does not equal dedicated, but if you have a third car that you don't drive, you have a dedicated AP car with limits. We had such a car but with limits on distance and DC driving. We reimbursed gas related to the kids' activities but did not pay for her personal gas.

How do you determine personal vs. kids? No judgment: just asking because I couldn’t figure out how to do that as kid is not in school and au pair takes him on trips to park, etc.