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Anonymous wrote:She is incredibly important. However last year when we were faced with the opportunity to move and knew how much it would benefit our family, ds' nanny was only a part of the equation when we were making our decision. Ultimately what's best for our family was more important than what was best for his nanny.

When we worked out the logistics and made the decision, we sat down with nanny 6 months in advance to tell her what was going on. She ended up wanting to come with us so it was the best of both worlds. But had she not come, we would have still left.

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I posted previously about how much we care, but when we decided to move long distance we did not let the impact on our nanny dictate our decision. What was best for our family in the long run was why we decided to move.

Previous nanny: I cared about her as a person and we keep in touch but i wasn't emotionally invested like I am with family or close friends. She was with my son for 2.5 years. She was warm with him but kept her distance with us, which I respected.

Current nanny: started only a few months ago but is already part of the family. She's infinitely more thoughtful and comes across as warmer and more caring than the first one. As a result, we're way more open to accommodating her various preferences (which I have to pry out of her, but once I do, I'm happy to incorporate them into our life). I am instinctively also very warm and caring, but have learned over time to adapt so as not to scare people away. This time it seems like we just really click.

She is incredibly important. However last year when we were faced with the opportunity to move and knew how much it would benefit our family, ds' nanny was only a part of the equation when we were making our decision. Ultimately what's best for our family was more important than what was best for his nanny.

When we worked out the logistics and made the decision, we sat down with nanny 6 months in advance to tell her what was going on. She ended up wanting to come with us so it was the best of both worlds. But had she not come, we would have still left.

She is important to the well-being of my child and I appreciate her time and the care she gives DD. It doesn't go any more emotional than that which is fine. It's the way it should be.

I’m a nanny and generally keep boundaries in place with my MB/DBs, but over time those lines get blurred and at a former NK birthday party, my former MB referred to me as her girls other mother. It still brings such a smile to my face to know I am so loved not only by her daughters, but by her as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Wish my MB and DB felt the same about me. They couldn't care less. Where do I find all these wonderful families who love their nanny?

It’s a two way street generally I think - and not one that all nannies or families want. I care about my nanny on a deeper level because she emotionally invests in the well being of my family. She loves and takes so much pride in ds, she pitches into the running of our household in amazing ways without being asked, when we are going through a rough time (illnesses, work issues etc) she goes above and beyond to support our family. In return, we are closer and more emotionally invested in her also and try to do much of the same for her.

She’s the only nanny we have had but i imagine if she kept her distance and treated ds like a job, we would feel much more distant to her.

This. I ask questions during the interview that let me know whether the family would even be open to that type of bond (envisioned topics of discussion with nanny, views on gifts/attending parties outside work hours, texts/calls outside work hours, etc.). But even if the family is open to it, it depends on chemistry as to where it goes.