Anonymous
Post 12/13/2018 21:22     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:I made the mistake of letting my nanny get too close and leaning on her emotionally too much but she has to understand that I was going through a hard time and wasn't thinking straight. I was under no obligation to tell her about my partner. She is my nanny but not a friend or family member.


You need to take responsibility for your own behavior. YOU created this situation and she was supposed to figure out you weren't thinking straight? You are not a child. Why didn't you talk to friends or family members instead of her? She had the good sense to quit. Obviously much more mature and brighter than you are.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2018 19:20     Subject: Nanny quit
Is no one going to mention that if the nanny could read these cards from OP's boyfriend that means her kids could as well?

OP -- your nanny is quitting because she can't stand to see what you're going to do to your kids. Including relocating 5 months after a divorce to move in with your boyfriend.

Grow up. You're a cliche.
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2018 11:11     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was hurting and lost. I didn't feel I had cut her out at all although she said I did and it deeply upset her.
I don't think I am a bad person but I know I will never make a nanny a friend or rely on them emotionally again. I have learnt from this.


It is “learned” not “learnt” and no you have not learned anything! For God’s sake, you messed up and cost your kids a great nanny! You are still whining about “hurting” and still not taking responsibility for your mistakes. Of course you shouldn’t rely emotionally on an employee but once you do you have a responsibility to continue to treat them like a friend! And you should never have left cards around stating your intention to put her out of a job.

The more you write the same nonsense excuses over and over again, the worse you look.

If you aren’t a bad person, you most certainly are a stupid one.


+1. You are extremely immature, OP.


I agree!

Or, does something think this is a troll? Surely someone can't be this dense and stupid even after many people are pointing out her bad behavior. If she's not a troll, she has a troll heart.




+3. OP is a narcissist.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2018 10:17     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was hurting and lost. I didn't feel I had cut her out at all although she said I did and it deeply upset her.
I don't think I am a bad person but I know I will never make a nanny a friend or rely on them emotionally again. I have learnt from this.


It is “learned” not “learnt” and no you have not learned anything! For God’s sake, you messed up and cost your kids a great nanny! You are still whining about “hurting” and still not taking responsibility for your mistakes. Of course you shouldn’t rely emotionally on an employee but once you do you have a responsibility to continue to treat them like a friend! And you should never have left cards around stating your intention to put her out of a job.

The more you write the same nonsense excuses over and over again, the worse you look.

If you aren’t a bad person, you most certainly are a stupid one.


+1. You are extremely immature, OP.


I agree!

Or, does something think this is a troll? Surely someone can't be this dense and stupid even after many people are pointing out her bad behavior. If she's not a troll, she has a troll heart.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 23:07     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was hurting and lost. I didn't feel I had cut her out at all although she said I did and it deeply upset her.
I don't think I am a bad person but I know I will never make a nanny a friend or rely on them emotionally again. I have learnt from this.


It is “learned” not “learnt” and no you have not learned anything! For God’s sake, you messed up and cost your kids a great nanny! You are still whining about “hurting” and still not taking responsibility for your mistakes. Of course you shouldn’t rely emotionally on an employee but once you do you have a responsibility to continue to treat them like a friend! And you should never have left cards around stating your intention to put her out of a job.

The more you write the same nonsense excuses over and over again, the worse you look.

If you aren’t a bad person, you most certainly are a stupid one.


+1. You are extremely immature, OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 18:05     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:I was hurting and lost. I didn't feel I had cut her out at all although she said I did and it deeply upset her.
I don't think I am a bad person but I know I will never make a nanny a friend or rely on them emotionally again. I have learnt from this.


It is “learned” not “learnt” and no you have not learned anything! For God’s sake, you messed up and cost your kids a great nanny! You are still whining about “hurting” and still not taking responsibility for your mistakes. Of course you shouldn’t rely emotionally on an employee but once you do you have a responsibility to continue to treat them like a friend! And you should never have left cards around stating your intention to put her out of a job.

The more you write the same nonsense excuses over and over again, the worse you look.

If you aren’t a bad person, you most certainly are a stupid one.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 17:59     Subject: Nanny quit
I was hurting and lost. I didn't feel I had cut her out at all although she said I did and it deeply upset her.
I don't think I am a bad person but I know I will never make a nanny a friend or rely on them emotionally again. I have learnt from this.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 17:18     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:That was never my intention. I am going through a hard time and didn't mean to hurt her.
I feel sad that she feels that way but need to move on from this and build a more professional relationship with the next nanny.
I am not a bad person.
OP.



You are not an aware person, OP. This was your fault. All of it. And yet you continue to put it on your nanny with excuses.

You made her into a friend who cared about you when you were hurting and then cut her out when you were feeling better. She found out that you intend to move away at some point in the future from your lover’s Cards that you left around the house.

Why can’t you accept responsibility? You do not sound like a good person.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 17:02     Subject: Nanny quit
That was never my intention. I am going through a hard time and didn't mean to hurt her.
I feel sad that she feels that way but need to move on from this and build a more professional relationship with the next nanny.
I am not a bad person.
OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 13:38     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:I've just said I shouldn't have let us get close like family and friends but in my defense I wasn't thinking straight at the time. I just wish she could see that and understand.


I just wish you would understand how she must feel used and hurt that her new friend who was once sharing with her, shut her out.

I'm sorry but you sound very selfish and narcissistic.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 11:47     Subject: Nanny quit
I've just said I shouldn't have let us get close like family and friends but in my defense I wasn't thinking straight at the time. I just wish she could see that and understand.
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 10:56     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:I made the mistake of letting my nanny get too close and leaning on her emotionally too much but she has to understand that I was going through a hard time and wasn't thinking straight. I was under no obligation to tell her about my partner. She is my nanny but not a friend or family member.


Exactly, she is a nanny not a friend but you still leaned on her emotionally. You don’t see what’s wrong here?
Anonymous
Post 12/05/2018 09:35     Subject: Nanny quit
I made the mistake of letting my nanny get too close and leaning on her emotionally too much but she has to understand that I was going through a hard time and wasn't thinking straight. I was under no obligation to tell her about my partner. She is my nanny but not a friend or family member.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2018 16:59     Subject: Nanny quit
Anonymous wrote:She didn't have another job lined up.
I didn't drop her as a friend I just started healing and I am sad she has taken it all as she has but it is what it is.


You used your nanny and she got fed up and quit. Your children are the ones who are going to suffer do stop the inane “it is what it is”. You f-ed up as a mother and an employer.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2018 16:34     Subject: Nanny quit
Tough lessons to learn here OP, I'm sorry.

Don't make your nanny your friend. Be a better boss next time around.

Good luck.